Not sure what to do...

I've been with SO for about 3 years now, 2 of them living together. I've stumbled upon porn on his computer before of HUGE goth chicks (I'm 250 so that's saying something)
He has also made comments before about cute goth chicks :-\ Part of me wants to make a point to be more gothy and do my makeup more goth for him, but part of me doesnt want to cater to his bullsmurf..I haven't been goth since I was a teenager :-S
I'm really torn over this and it probably seems stupid but I want him to be happy with what he smurfing has, not need to look at other smurf if I can help it :-S

I would never change myself because of a man. He may have porn of goth women but he is with YOU. Obviously he loves you. I'm sorry  

Maybe he just needs a little kink? Some role playing in the bedroom?

Im not condoning his behavior at all, just saying...

Just because he's attracted to that doesn't mean he's not attracted to you the way you are.

Mine likes super fit, 0% body fat, see every muscle kind of women. I'm thin and in shape but I'm not that, he thinks I'm damn sexy anyway.  

Dress up goth to turn him on once in a while, but dont do it permanently

<blockquote><b>Quoting Unique Mama:</b>" I've been with SO for about 3 years now, 2 of them living together. I've stumbled upon porn on his computer ... [snip!] ... probably seems stupid but I want him to be happy with what he smurfing has, not need to look at other smurf if I can help it :-S"</blockquote>




Maybe he just has a fetish.have you talked to him about it? I wouldny change myself but dressing up for a little fun every now and then never hurt anyone,kwim?

My husband likes porn with blond chicks swallowing monster black cocks. Lol.

I am not blonde, and he is not black. It's just a fantasy. He loves what he has at home.

Just be you!

<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" My husband likes porn with blond chicks swallowing monster black cocks. Lol. I am not blonde, and he is not black. It's just a fantasy. He loves what he has at home. Just be you!"</blockquote>




This response is awesome!

H<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" My husband likes porn with blond chicks swallowing monster black cocks. Lol. I am not blonde, and he is not black. It's just a fantasy. He loves what he has at home. Just be you!"</blockquote>



Omg.    

<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" My husband likes porn with blond chicks swallowing monster black cocks. Lol. I am not blonde, and he is not black. It's just a fantasy. He loves what he has at home. Just be you!"</blockquote>


Lol!!!

I think its funny when DH is trying to decide what porn to watch/buy cuz I can tell he holds back, like he thinks ill be offended if he picks one that the girls are the complete opposite of me. I couldnt care less. Haha. Its just a movie.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma +2 Girls:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" My husband likes porn with blond chicks swallowing ... [snip!] ... ill be offended if he picks one that the girls are the complete opposite of me. I couldnt care less. Haha. Its just a movie."</blockquote>




When we first started dating, he said "ok, you curious what kind of porn I like? It's not a secret. I'm a guy. It's on my computer. Its on such and such drive, yada yada, in the folder in all caps labeled "PORN". I like blondes giving head mostly. Any questions?"


Lol. He is an open book.  

Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Momma +2 Girls:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting pilot ... [snip!] ... in the folder in all caps labeled "PORN". I like blondes giving head mostly. Any questions?" Lol. He is an open book.  "

Lol!! That's good!!

he is crap in the bedroom and very boring..occasionally I try new stuff but he never wants to repeat it lol

I did myself up once super goth for him..and the entire time I hated it and felt like such a smurfing fraud and a fake :-S Just hate being conflicted. I know you are all totally right about it because the porn I watch is def not something I ever want made into a reality but I have serious self esteem and insecurity problems I'm sure it's all related to that and I have no way to control that till I can get this kid out and get on some drugs from the doc hopefully lol

I have a friend who lives in another state, she has a lot of health issues and her family won't help her. I wanted her to move in with us at a time, but she's super goth and kind of slutty so now I'm dead set against ever having her in my house and i feel like an smurf for it even if i havent said it out loud to either of them. 

<blockquote><b>Quoting Unique Mama:</b>" he is crap in the bedroom and very boring..occasionally I try new stuff but he never wants to repeat ... [snip!] ... against ever having her in my house and i feel like an smurf for it even if i havent said it out loud to either of them. "</blockquote>




I'm sorry. If I were you I couldn't let a friend come stay with me regardless of if she's goth or what she is. I'm just a firm believer of only my family staying in my house.

I have a serious weakness and impulse to help everyone and anyone, especially friends I care about...It's almost a problem because I have given to people in need when I needed stuff myself just because that's the way I am lol