re: Not sure what to do...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Unique Mama:</b>" I have a serious weakness and impulse to help everyone and anyone, especially friends I care about...It's ... [snip!] ... almost a problem because I have given to people in need when I needed stuff myself just because that's the way I am lol"</blockquote>




I understand. Sometimes you need to be selfish

<blockquote><b>Quoting Unique Mama:</b>" I've been with SO for about 3 years now, 2 of them living together. I've stumbled upon porn on his computer ... [snip!] ... probably seems stupid but I want him to be happy with what he smurfing has, not need to look at other smurf if I can help it :-S"</blockquote>

My SO likes blondes... I don't get pissed about it. Everyone likes different things but he obv loves you or he wouldn't be with u

because people never ever settle? :-S the relationship before me was a psychotic horrible cheating bitch, anything would've been better. it worries me he'll come to his senses that he can do better eventually. Everyone always tells me he is good looking like it's weird he's with me so that doesnt help bleh

<blockquote><b>Quoting Unique Mama:</b>" because people never ever settle? :-S the relationship before me was a psychotic horrible cheating bitch, ... [snip!] ... he can do better eventually. Everyone always tells me he is good looking like it's weird he's with me so that doesnt help bleh"</blockquote>

Wow, honestly I think you need to sit back and think about this one if your thoughts are going towards him 'settling' if he is as good looking as people say then he would have a hundred chances to jump ship but he hasn't, it's not about looks.. It's about the person. You can go out with your dream man/woman but if she's a bitch your not going to stick around for there looks.

My SO has pics of buffy the vampire a layer as his screen saver...he likes blondes, I worried? Hell no! I know I am enough for him. I like men with bald heads and lots of piercing tattoos, he has long hair and no mods... But I wouldn't trade him for the world.

Men and woman will look at the opposite sex and see something they like doesnt mean your going to do anything about it. Especially when your in love with someone else.

he was with the bda one for years before he came to his senses, which he tells me all the time was just because he met me so it just bothers me i guess . He put up with her being a rancid whore for years how long would he put up with a frumpy uggo? lol that and now i'm pregnant so hes stuck with me ;) lol

You not think your just feeling insecure because your pregnant? I know some days I feel like I'm a fat ugly whale.

If anything being with a wench like that might make him not so eager to hang around the next time if he didn't want to be there..ask him

Nah I've felt like this the last year. I haven't gained any weight from the pregnancy yet, just tits. And he is thrilled about that   lol These are just things that go through my mind sometimes. And I really wish I had a way to just severe the ties that make me think this smurf because I would be much happier if I never ever thought this crap again. I would greatly prefer blissful ignorance to my paranoid bs

Quoting Unique Mama:" he is crap in the bedroom and very boring..occasionally I try new stuff but he never wants to repeat ... [snip!] ... against ever having her in my house and i feel like an smurf for it even if i havent said it out loud to either of them. "

I would never let another woman live in my house. You have to be comfortable and be you. There is a difference with wanting to smurf a goth chick and have one as your wife.