Quoting Unique Mama:" he is crap in the bedroom and very boring..occasionally I try new stuff but he never wants to repeat ... [snip!] ... against ever having her in my house and i feel like an smurf for it even if i havent said it out loud to either of them. "I would never let another woman live in my house. You have to be comfortable and be you. There is a difference with wanting to smurf a goth chick and have one as your wife.