I can't do it all...

not all men are like that. im sorry you are going through this. it would be alot more tiring because your pregnant. have u talked to him about it? its alot to deal with on your own.

Just tell him you need help. Even if he isn't the one who actually helps out, maybe you guys can figure something out. Maybe he will pay to have a cleaning lady come once a week, now that would rock.
But yes my SO is the same way. He'll do something I specifically ask him to do but it will take him half the day for a 20 minute job.

My DH is the same way. If I leave him a list of things to do he usually will do it (unless he "forgets"   ) but I have to tell him exactly what needs to get done, and I never see him because we work opposite shifts. It's frustrating because I work full time and go to school full time and have to do all the house work and I'm a neat freak and my nesting has made me even worse. If he SEES me cleaning and I'm obviously annoyed because I'm almost 8 months pregnant, busting my ass while he plays smurfing video games he'll ask what I want him to do, which is fine I guess but why should I have to tell a grown ass man what needs to be done. Look the smurf around, right? The trash is full, DS has no clean jammies, just DO something. Ugh. Totally know how you feel. Obviously don't have much advice, though lol.

good luck lol! I just recently went from working full time to part time but its always been my "womanly duties" to clean everything. But, even if he does try to help he does it wrong and I have to go behind him and do it all over.  

I would try asking him if he'd spend half an hour everyday cleaning with you. That's what worked for my SO. He wouldn't do anything around the house and eventually I got pretty tired. It doesn't seem like a whole lot of time, but you'd be amazed what can be done in half an hour while two people are working at it.

Quoting Missie93:" I would try asking him if he'd spend half an hour everyday cleaning with you. That's what worked for ... [snip!] ... doesn't seem like a whole lot of time, but you'd be amazed what can be done in half an hour while two people are working at it."

Maybe I'll try that. We could get a lot done after LO goes to bed. Generally, I'm just too tired to care if the place is a mess, though.

Make it a goal to at least get the dishes done. the trash out, and the clothes off the floor. Make a list of what needs to be done and prioritize it. Like, does the fridge need to be cleaned out or the laundry done. Put the most important things at the top of the list. Then after a day or so, the work will be easier.

It's an hour worth of work for the both of you.  

Quoting Missie93:" Make it a goal to at least get the dishes done. the trash out, and the clothes off the floor. Make a ... [snip!] ... at the top of the list. Then after a day or so, the work will be easier. It's an hour worth of work for the both of you.  "

Maybe I'll make a chore chart for him and give him a little sticker every time he helps out. After he gets so many stickers, he gets a treat, lol.

Quoting Squeaky McGee:" Maybe I'll make a chore chart for him and give him a little sticker every time he helps out. After he gets so many stickers, he gets a treat, lol."

HAH, It feels like that sometimes, doesn't it?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee:</b>" Allow me to vent and whine for a moment... In our household, I do all the housework. I'm the woman, ... [snip!] ... probably just say that I'm the one that's home all day. I'm tired of doing it all. Any ideas on how to get him to do his part?"</blockquote>



Idk stef. Maybe really sit down and have a conversation about how your feeling and how you would really like him to just put his own things away. Plus when your home you should be resting. Your not just home all day...you have a lot going on.

I stay at home, but I still feel that Sean can help out. His chores are taking out the trash, cleaning the litter, and keeping his army stuff picked up. We talked about what would be fair since he's fine do much, and this us what we came up with. On his days off though, we clean together, so he might end up doing some dishes, laundry, or vacuuming.
It took sitting down and taking about it though, because Sean was the same, hints weren't working and I just kept getting more and more frustrated, especially with all of his work things.

That would make me very angry. It isn't your job to clean up after him just because you're a woman. Especially since you BOTH work, why does it matter what time of day you are there? My SO would never expect me to clean everything without his help. That's disrespectful.