sadly I've always been this stupid. vent

I always pick these pos guys. down to my very first boyfriend. for some reason these douche bags are the ones Im attracted to. the ones that take advantage of me, put me down, use me. Idk why I always do this to myself. And the thing is, I'm not stupid...while it's happening I see it, I'm not blind. I just can't ever get the courage to stop it. I let them walk all over me and put me down like I'm nothing. I just don't understand why I can't stand up for myself. am I that scared to be alone?!

Probably.

Do you see these guys who are smurfs and feel like if you can fix them, then you'll have "won" and it will mean more? Do you feel like it's more rewarding to have an smurf be nice to you than someone who is nice all the time?

Quoting pretty 'n' pink:" I always pick these pos guys. down to my very first boyfriend. for some reason these douche bags are ... [snip!] ... me and put me down like I'm nothing. I just don't understand why I can't stand up for myself. am I that scared to be alone?!"

Before I met my husband i was exactly the same way. Always going for the guys who put me down, or did me wrong. And I thought that me being the good person i am i could change them. I craved love and attention so much that i was willing to compromise my character and take the verbal, emotional, and yes physical abuse that I encountered from these men. But eventually there comes a time when you get tired of being used and abused and you realize your better off alone. Its not gonna be forever because eventually you will meet an AH-MAZING man who deserves you.

Keep your head up mama!

Me too.

And none of the "good" guys appeal to me in the least bit. I find them annoying.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" Me too. And none of the "good" guys appeal to me in the least bit. I find them annoying."</blockquote>




This! Good guys are boring and I'm usually too much of a bitch for them.

Sounds like you don't truly realize that you deserve better than the guys you've been seeing. Quit lowering the bar so you don't have to sleep alone. I know it's easier said than done but if you make it a point to raise your standards and realize that you don't deserve to be treated poorly then the rest will fall into place.

Im the same way. One of my best friends cousins wanted to try to talk to me and her parents said that I would chew him up, spit him out, and make him scared to date again lol. Im just used to the smurfs, so when I meet a nice guy I think its all an act.