Quoting Whoahbabyy:" But I want one right now its not fair. He lost one with his ex wife and they kept trying. But then she left him. :/ I just dont get it."
You cant put your situation akin to theirs. That's not fair to you or your husband and your relationship together. Think of it... they lost a child, they tried more, she left him! What if he thinks "This smurf smurfing hurts, Im going to act like I dont care, and that way the same situation wont happen." So he acts callous but inside hes hurting.
Its been hardly enough time to even process what happened.... let some processing time happen and THEN reevaluate what should happen. But dont blame him or yourself, and dont bring up his ex... their situation was different.