re: stay at home moms

<blockquote><b>Quoting the grace life:</b>" I've never thought about that, or like that when a mom said she worked. That is really rude, you're right! "</blockquote>



Yeah, a mom at my daughter's dance class was talking about the schedule with me a few weeks ago, and I mentioned that I don't know how we could make a 5pm class work with both of us working... then she said that
"Well, I'm lucky enough to not have to work, my husband makes enough to support us"


I wanted to say, well, lady, so does mine, but I'm not cut out to be a sahm. I like working, and am too scatter brained to be focused as one.

Instead I still came across as an smurf. I said, I could never be a sahm, and that I loved working. Oh well.
It probably seemed snarky as well.
I was a sahm for 15 months and I was not happy, I enjoyed my baby's company, but couldn't reconcile with my overly adventurous existential personality traits, haha.

Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting the grace life:</b>" I've never thought about that, or like ... [snip!] ... not happy, I enjoyed my baby's company, but couldn't reconcile with my overly adventurous existential personality traits, haha."

That is crazy. I can't believe some people.


*Apparently, I can't type...

<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting the grace life:</b>" I've never thought about that, or like ... [snip!] ... not happy, I enjoyed my baby's company, but couldn't reconcile with my overly adventurous existential personality traits, haha."</blockquote>



  I don't blame you for being snarky. How rude!

Im a sahm because it's where I belong. I'll work once they're all in school

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big'n:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting the grace ... [snip!] ... adventurous existential personality traits, haha."</blockquote>   I don't blame you for being snarky. How rude!"</blockquote>




Yeah, right off the bat you can tell that she is someone who thinks their bubble is "the way". But her remark still stung. It was twofold.

A.) You can't afford to stay home.
B.) If you can afford to stay home, wtf is wrong with you? Bad mom.



Lol.

love being a SAHM, but then again i like making money and help support my family like my SO does.. even if its part time day time then u can go home and cook dinner and spend time with ur family..  

Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting the grace life:</b>" I've never thought about that, or like ... [snip!] ... not happy, I enjoyed my baby's company, but couldn't reconcile with my overly adventurous existential personality traits, haha."

You should have just said "So does mine" and left it at that.

I used to work, but Dh did get a better paying job & our house is paid off, so I stay home now. I do tell people that. I wanted to stay home before though. Not everyone does. I feel less stifled creatively & intellectually at home in general than I did having to deal with the working world & all their ideas of who I should be & what I needed to do. Now I am free to be however I want - so I do appreciate that. There are certainly things I do miss though. So I also understand that aspect as well.

And believe me - I never say I don't "have to work" I say I don't need an income if I say anything, because I feel like I work just as hard now as I did before. All moms work, it is just a matter of whether it's a paid position or a family position. :/

I don't feel at all bad about not bringing in money. I DO feel annoyed that often when I wear cute clothes JUST like I did when I had a job, people often ask me where I am going.