What the smurfing smurf?!?!

My 4 year old is driving me batsmurf. I started school in September and my SO has been watching the kids at night while I'm there. I went on a break from school on the 21st, and when I put him to bed he demands juice and a movie. He will scream and I mean SCREAM until he gets it. I don't know what to do. I know it's because his dad gives in and gives him what he wants, but I don't want that behavior to stick around. I can't just let him scream because 1) he shares a room with his 2 year old sister and 2) he'll scream all night. He's never been one to CIO, even when he was a baby...he'd vomit every time. He also has "good boy beads" that he gets when he's good, and we take some away when he's bad, but he doesn't give a smurf anymore.

What can I do to stop it? I have to get something that I know SO will stick to because I go back to school Thursday.

Get down to his level. Use your most stern yet quiet voice and tell him
That his temper tantrums stop immediately or you will (insert consequence)
And stick with it!!!

Also, this is a direct reaction to a lack of attention. Make a few hours once a week and do something away from the house just you and he. Park, hot cocoa date ect.... The behavior will subside.

Don't give in? Give him an alternative like sleeping with his favorite toy. And tell your SO its causing behavioral problems and he needs to come to an agreement with you.

Don't give in, get down on his level and be stern with him.

Giving a child juice at bed time is very bad for their teeth, they could rot out of their head.

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Don't give in, get down on his level and be stern with him. Giving a child juice at bed time is very bad for their teeth, they could rot out of their head."</blockquote>

That and giving into one thing like that can cause a whole array of battles.

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Don't give in, get down on his level and be stern with him. Giving a child juice at bed time is very bad for their teeth, they could rot out of their head."</blockquote>



We give him water. But he wants juice. He's ok with water.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Get down to his level. Use your most stern yet quiet voice and tell him That his temper tantrums stop ... [snip!] ... hours once a week and do something away from the house just you and he. Park, hot cocoa date ect.... The behavior will subside."</blockquote>



The lack of attention makes sense. I know their dad stuffs them in front of the tv while I'm gone.

Don't give in. If it was me I would just let him get on with screaming. I know ur pulling ur hair out now but if u keep givin in. Your wee dd is just goin to do the same as him. And because he gets what he wants because he screams like a mad man she will do the same. Good luck

If you're interested in a different discipline approach I'd check out ahaparenting.com or positive parenting toddlers and beyond on facebook.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Baby Mutilator Barbie™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Get down to his level. Use your most stern ... [snip!] ... The lack of attention makes sense. I know their dad stuffs them in front of the tv while I'm gone."</blockquote>




Plus they aren't used to you being gone.