I am frickin terrified!! military mommas

Ok, so due to my baby being breech, her enormous size, and me having wayy too much amniotic fluid, I was scheduled for a c-section on Friday at noon.

I called the red cross today and was able to send my husband the message that I would be going to surgery to deliver our baby so he was able to call me. That was pretty exciting. Too bad I started bawling in the middle of the phone call so he couldn't understand what I was saying. Oh, and he MIGHT be coming home on the 24th, yay for that.

Anyways, this entire pregnancy all I've been talking about is how I can't WAIT to get it over with and to have her here already. But now that its in less then 48 hours, it is becoming very real that I will have another human to take care, and I am terrified. Anybody else feel like this?

I would love to hear some experiences of military mommies that had to give birth without their partners there, and were alone for the few first weeks/months until their guy came home.

Well I can't be of much help but I just wanted to say I hope everything goes smoothly and you have a fast recovery. Don't be afraid to ask friends or family for help since your honey won't be there. Meeting your baby for the first time is the most incredible feeling in the world.

I was induced and my husband didn't even get the message until 8 hours after our son was born. I had an amazing birthing team and while it was difficult, it's what I had to do. I was all by myself in the hospital and I cried a lot. I'm not going to lie. It's been 6 1/2 months and I still cry because he's not around.

My mom helped me out for the first couple weeks but then it fell on me. It has been far from easy but I just take it one day at a time and come to BG to receive awesome support.

You can do this and I will be praying for you and you're little one. Try to stay as relaxed and positive as possible. DO you have any family near by?

Quoting *Mrs.Hamman*:“ Well I can't be of much help but I just wanted to say I hope everything goes smoothly and you have a ... [snip!] ... for help since your honey won't be there. Meeting your baby for the first time is the most incredible feeling in the world.”

Thank you!  

I just had my baby girl on the 27th, and my husband wasnt there. Fortunately I was talking to him online when i started getting contractions and when i left for the hospital. he had to go "do things" but he knew what was going on and by the time he was done i was admitted and things were rolling and he callled me and listened to me yell then i told him to call back in a half hour cause the epi was comming and i felt bad screaming into the phone every minute. lol thats my story. but i wont lie it was hard him not being there and not being able to have him hold his little girl and he wont be here for quite a few months. but i was happy i got to talk to him i sent him pictures from my phone as soon as she was born. i tried really hard not to think too much about his absence and more about our baby being born. and she makes time go by even faster til hes home. i dont really know where im going with this and im probably not giving you the help you wanted. but my advice is concentrate more on youre baby coming into this world rather then him not being there, and youll have a piece of him with you as soon as he/she is born. i wish you the best of luck, and easy delivery

Quoting aberoxy18:“ I was induced and my husband didn't even get the message until 8 hours after our son was born. I had ... [snip!] ... will be praying for you and you're little one. Try to stay as relaxed and positive as possible. DO you have any family near by?”

My parents live about 3 hours away from me. So they are going to come up and at least stay with me through the weekend while I'm in the hospital. And then try to come up as much as possible until my husband gets home. So I won't be totally alone, I just feel so empty without him here.   He was supposed to come home this week, but thanks to uncontrollable circumstances he got extended a few weeks. Thank you for your prayers. When does your husband come home?? Has he met the baby yet?

Quoting usmcbaby!*2daystilbaby*:“ My parents live about 3 hours away from me. So they are going to come up and at least stay with me through ... [snip!] ... he got extended a few weeks. Thank you for your prayers. When does your husband come home?? Has he met the baby yet?”

Hopefully your husband will be home soon. Mine came home for 2 weeks R&R back in December when our son was 6 weeks old. He's scheduled to come home in July so I'm crossing my fingers that the date will stick.
Is your husband coming home for good or just for R&R?

Quoting Karissaa:“ I just had my baby girl on the 27th, and my husband wasnt there. Fortunately I was talking to him online ... [snip!] ... being there, and youll have a piece of him with you as soon as he/she is born. i wish you the best of luck, and easy delivery”

Thank you! It makes me feel better to hear other peoples stories. I almost feel like I'm strong and I can do this, lol. (Not like I have a choice, might as well make the best of it.)

Kevin was scheduled to come home on April 18th and I was due April 26th. I always kept in mind that the baby could come early but I was hoping that he would wait for Kevin. On the 14th my water broke and I went into labor. What really helped me was my family, Kevin's mother and brother was by my side. I was sad and still sad that he wasn't able to be there for the birth but it's a sacrifice that we had to make. Kevin didn't even get to find out that our son was born until the next day when he had gotten a hold of his mother. He was here for a few weeks and had to leave to MO. He's only going to get to see Riley a few times before he gets deployed. I get on here to get rid of some tension. Oh yeah, my mom has been a life saver!

Quoting aberoxy18:“ Hopefully your husband will be home soon. Mine came home for 2 weeks R&R back in December when ... [snip!] ... home in July so I'm crossing my fingers that the date will stick. Is your husband coming home for good or just for R&R?”

He's coming home for good, well at least a couple of months, lol. This has only been a 7 month deployment (was supposed to be 6.) Last year we went through a 7 month dep. and then he's scheduled to go again in December for a year. So he gets a couple months break in between each scheduled deployment, at least its not one long drawn out one.

July is so close! Congrats, I hope he comes home soon, and for good!

Quoting usmcbaby!*2daystilbaby*:“ My parents live about 3 hours away from me. So they are going to come up and at least stay with me through ... [snip!] ... he got extended a few weeks. Thank you for your prayers. When does your husband come home?? Has he met the baby yet?”

That's good that your parents don't live too far away. That will help you out a lot.

Quoting usmcbaby!*2daystilbaby*:“ Thank you! It makes me feel better to hear other peoples stories. I almost feel like I'm strong and I can do this, lol. (Not like I have a choice, might as well make the best of it.)”

honestly like 2 weeks before i went into labor i cried all the time just thinking i was going to go into labor by myself. he wouldnt be here to run around like a freak and bring me to the hospital and be a nervous wreck. but when it happened it didnt seem AS bad. i mean like i said i concentrated more on my little girl then him not being there. i figured it should be one of the happiest days of my life and to make the best i could out of it. I won't lie after my mom and everyone left and it was just me and her it was like WOW. and i did cry and he called and talked to me and it made me feel a little better. and then when she was crying in the middle of the night and i was the only one there and i realized he wasnt there to help or when she does/did cute things for the first time its upsetting. but time with FLY after your babys born there will not be enough time in a day. and next thing you know youll be running around getting ready for your hubby to come home. i keep writing these long things. i hope i helped some. i know how hard it is, especially thinking about it before hand. it sucks know how it SHOULD be and how it will be. your little one will make you so happy tho, if you need to talk I'm here.

Quoting Karissaa:“ honestly like 2 weeks before i went into labor i cried all the time just thinking i was going to go ... [snip!] ... it sucks know how it SHOULD be and how it will be. your little one will make you so happy tho, if you need to talk I'm here.”

awww, that made me wanna cry, and laugh! Him running around the hospital making you a nervous wreck, lol.Thats a funny mental picture.

I guess it is kinda good that we will have alone bonding time before he gets here. He's already informed me that he's going to steal her and then he'll be her favorite, lol.

You did help. And I'm gonna PT you in case I need your advice afterwards  

Quoting -Extra Cheesy-:“ Kevin was scheduled to come home on April 18th and I was due April 26th. I always kept in mind that the ... [snip!] ... see Riley a few times before he gets deployed. I get on here to get rid of some tension. Oh yeah, my mom has been a life saver!”

Aw! You almost made it for him.

How long is he going to be deployed for?

Quoting usmcbaby!*2daystilbaby*:“ Aw! You almost made it for him. How long is he going to be deployed for?”

After August the Army will deploy for 12 months instead of 15 months. So in the mean time I'm planning on visiting him a few times up in MO.

When Riley came my mom asked him "What was your hurry? Couldn't wait for your daddy?"