Out of control twos

My son is so bad out in public unless he's strapped into something, like a high chair at a Restaraunt. Today at the er for dh's back we were in the waiting room and he won't sit in his seat like other kids I see everywhere we go, he tries to run and climb and he can't do that in an er waiting room, so I try to hold him on my lap but he wiggles and screams and bangs his head on mine and everyone states! Then we try to walk through the lobby and dining area but he drops down and won't walk so that he's hanging from my hand, if I let go he lays on the floor, but if I hold him he throws himself into positions that are like impossible to keep a grip on! What can I do? Any advice on public behavior? He's good at home and some people's houses when we go, and out to eat, but he's horrible in doctors offices and any waiting rooms... Other kids I see who look his age are still and quiet and good. I'm due with his sister in march, and he's 26 months now..

This is so my son and he's 33 months :/ he's nonstop until he closes his eyes

<blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣PB:</b>" This is so my son and he's 33 months :/ he's nonstop until he closes his eyes"</blockquote>


I was hoping he'd calm down by then, Emmy will be 5 months old! Oh boy..

First off don't start comparing him to other kids around. I used to do that when my boys would act up but you are only seeing those kids for a few moments...I bet you anything they aren't pefect little angels all kids have their moments at that age. He's just testing you, if my boys act like that (they are 2 and 3 yrs old) I take their cranky little butts to the car and we go home. It sucks especially if it's something fun like eating out. If it's at a drs office and you have no choice but to be there make sure you have a ton of snacks and different toys to entertain him with. It really is just a phase just stay consistent!

<blockquote><b>Quoting None ya ;):</b>" First off don't start comparing him to other kids around. I used to do that when my boys would act up ... [snip!] ... make sure you have a ton of snacks and different toys to entertain him with. It really is just a phase just stay consistent!"</blockquote>


I really do need to start packing a fun pack, I have to remember that..
The kid today in the waiting room was about two and sitting still playing with a ball and I asked my son if he wanted to be calm like that boy and go talk to him but the kids mom got up and moved them far across the room. Soo embarrassing!

I'd bring something for him to do or make up some kind of game. Talk to him and show him things in the waiting room. Also, don't be afraid for him to wander a bit. As long as he's not touching other people's things then they shouldn't get annoyed and if they do, oh well lol. If he does get really upset I'd pick him up and take him to a more private area and just tell him that you moved so that he didn't disturb everyone in the waiting room, ask him if he can use his words, try to figure out what's wrong and a way to fix it. Maybe he feels your stress about being in a public situation with him acting out? Kids can definitely pick up on your feelings.

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting None ya ;):</b>" First off don't start comparing him to other ... [snip!] ... to be calm like that boy and go talk to him but the kids mom got up and moved them far across the room. Soo embarrassing!"

Eh I wouldn't take it personally, being in a hospital/dr office setting she may have been paranoid about germs or something. Bring an assortment of things that he only gets to play with when you're out like that. That way he's not used to the toys or get bored with them quickly.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:</b>" I'd bring something for him to do or make up some kind of game. Talk to him and show him things in the ... [snip!] ... he feels your stress about being in a public situation with him acting out? Kids can definitely pick up on your feelings. "</blockquote>


I let him wander at first but he insisted on pressing the preset buttons on the hospital phone, and I feel like its a Germy place.. The nurse brought him a juice and that stopped his tantrum for a few minutes. She brought him graham crackers too but he rubbed them on the chair so I threw them away.. He got mad, then more stares...

<blockquote><b>Quoting None ya ;):</b>" Eh I wouldn't take it personally, being in a hospital/dr office setting she may have been paranoid about ... [snip!] ... that he only gets to play with when you're out like that. That way he's not used to the toys or get bored with them quickly."</blockquote>




Watching Pinocchio on the iPhone, I should have thought of that lol. That would have bought about ten minutes lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣PB:</b>" This is so my son and he's 33 months :/ he's ... [snip!] ... nonstop until he closes his eyes"</blockquote> I was hoping he'd calm down by then, Emmy will be 5 months old! Oh boy.."</blockquote>




I am hoping my son calms down by the time this baby comes.. H will be three and two months. Although I can say he is getting better in public, I have slowly given him more freedom, but unfortunately sometimes it still bites me in the ass and I end up carrying a screaming child.
I can say the iPad has been a leaving the house essential (just in case)
I envy my friend with two quiet little girls that will sit in bed and watch tv.. And I'm having another boy, oy! I try to remind myself he's only little once  

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:</b>" I'd bring something for him to ... [snip!] ... She brought him graham crackers too but he rubbed them on the chair so I threw them away.. He got mad, then more stares..."

Meh, they'll get over it. I understand the pressure of being in public with a toddler but it's a lot easier to deal with when you don't try to please everyone else. Don't get me wrong though, I wouldn't just let my LO be a tornado in everyone's business but just try not to let them stress you out or anything.   If he gets upset because his snack is thrown away I think that's pretty understandable. I'd just say "I know you're upset cause I threw your snack away. It got germs alll over it, I don't want you to get sick" and just comfort him. Sometimes all they need is a little empathy and then they're over it and on their way. You could also try keeping most of the snack next time and giving him a little at a time.

<blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣PB:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣PB:</b>" ... [snip!] ... child. I envy my friend with two quiet little girls that will sit in bed and watch tv.. And I'm having another boy, oy!"</blockquote>




Trying to watch a movie with Richie is a trip! He wants to sit with me, then 2 seconds later dada, then me, then he needs to get out of bed to get something... Unless he's really tired or loves the movie :p

The same kid is so good at bed time and nap time! Doesn't get out of bed no matter what. It's crazy how he's so good about some things, and not others. And he sat through wreck it (how do you spell ralf? Ralph? Ra.. Oh, you know..) at the movies with no problem! It's just certain settings.. I'd like to bring him in a stroller lol but I feel like he's too old or something, like that looks bad.. He's content to play on the phone or color or something if he's got some kind of strap holding him down. I wanna make an as seen on tv product, Velcro chair strips and pants for little kids like on "a goofy movie" lol

Quoting None ya ;):" First off don't start comparing him to other kids around. I used to do that when my boys would act up ... [snip!] ... make sure you have a ton of snacks and different toys to entertain him with. It really is just a phase just stay consistent!"

I only half agree with this mom... yeah definitely bring good distractions. Things he likes to play with to keep him calm because waiting around for kids is no fun. But I absolutely do not get why parents just drop everything they are doing if their child is misbehaving and go home. I'm sorry... but I refuse to let a toddler dictate how my day goes. I have things to do and they're going to get done and my children (two five year olds) know that they have to just suck it up and cooperate. You are the parent and they are the children... not the other way around. It's like giving the child control over the situation. I don't get it that's all... and I see this posted all the time as if it's a real solution.

Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:" I only half agree with this mom... yeah definitely bring good distractions. Things he likes to play ... [snip!] ... child control over the situation. I don't get it that's all... and I see this posted all the time as if it's a real solution. "

It's not a way of giving them control if done correctly. Most kids enjoy going out to eat and other activities like that if they start putting two and two together that hey if I act like a brat we leave and don't get to do these things then the behavior changes. Now if it's the grocery store, dr visits, or other necessary errands then no I'm obviously not leaving I handle those situations differently. My boys are 2 and 3 I rarely have issues with them in public now because they know I'm not messing around with empty threats. Regardless of the route you take on discipline it's about consistancy.