have YOU ever been the one to break up?

What did you say? How did you do it?

How WOULD you do it? Assuming you didn't want to hurt them.

just told em my feelings and laid everything out on the line.
lying and skipping around the truth of why you want to berak up isn't gonna help in the long run.

good luck!

I'm normally the one who does the breaking...

There's nothing you can say that's going to be nice. Whatever you say is going to hurt them. Period. Unfortunately that's how breaking up is.

It's been so long since I have broken up with someone.

The last guy, we agreed we were better off as friends.

The guy before that, I packed my smurf and left. (He threatened to put me in the hospital).

They guy before that.. I was a total bitch about it. I ditched him on his birthday, and then broke up with him the following day. I can't remember what I said to him, but it wasn't nice.

In all honesty, I would tell him that you don't see a future with him at this time, and you need to do your own thing.

Quoting Curlyheadedfck:" just told em my feelings and laid everything out on the line. lying and skipping around the truth of why you want to berak up isn't gonna help in the long run. good luck!"

Yeah. We had the conversation a few weeks ago and I wish I would have just followed through with it. I gave in. Now I'm just wishing it would be over and done with instead of having to have that conversation all over again.

Quoting *~Stella's Momma~*:" I'm normally the one who does the breaking... There's nothing you can say that's going to be nice. Whatever you say is going to hurt them. Period. Unfortunately that's how breaking up is."

This. I also learned that the sooner you say something, the better.

Quoting Drippy Hairymuff:" It's been so long since I have broken up with someone. The last guy, we agreed we were better off as ... [snip!] ... nice. In all honesty, I would tell him that you don't see a future with him at this time, and you need to do your own thing."

Yeah, I haven't broken up with someone in like 6 years. I've been with SO for 5.

hm, i've been the one to end all relationships i've ever been in.
i guess i'm just honest, assuming the reason i'm leaving is a valid one,
then being honest should be enough, being broken up with is never 'nice', ha.
though, with my daughter's father, i had to literally write down bullet points for him to understand i was leaving. and he, uh, still didn't get it.

you can always just say right now isn't the time for you to be in a relationship. it might not be the honest reason or it might be, but i mean, it doesn't sound too harsh.

The sooner the better and easier it will be for you to do it.
There is NO possible way of breaking up with someone.

I simply told him I wasn't comfortable in the relationship not because of him but because I felt more of a friend vibe from him rather than a significant other. I told him I couldnt deal with the relationship and how it was going and that I thought it would be better if we stayed just friends.

Quoting Subtle As A Hurricane:" This. I also learned that the sooner you say something, the better. "

I DID say it WEEKS ago. We are still together. I'm no good at this. All of the other times I was just a bitch about it, but I had my reasons for those men.

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" Yeah, I haven't broken up with someone in like 6 years. I've been with SO for 5."

I have been with mine for just over 5 years now.

The guy I was a total bitch to. He was actually a decent guy. I was just an smurf when I was 20.

I remember he told me he loved me (Like a week into our relationship), and I broke up with him like 2 weeks later. I pretty much told him thanks, but no thanks.

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" I DID say it WEEKS ago. We are still together. I'm no good at this. All of the other times I was just a bitch about it, but I had my reasons for those men."

If he is not getting it, I would say this, "Listen bitch. We're done. I don't want this anymore. PEACE."

That's just me though.

Quoting KNZ.:" hm, i've been the one to end all relationships i've ever been in. i guess i'm just honest, assuming ... [snip!] ... for you to be in a relationship. it might not be the honest reason or it might be, but i mean, it doesn't sound too harsh. "

We've been together for 5 years lol it's a little late for the whole "It's not the time" thing. He's a good guy, I just don't love him anymore. I want him out and I want to move on. I've said basically that I don't want to do this anymore and he wants to continue for our son. He thinks it's better for our kid to have his parents together, I think it's better for him to see his parents HAPPY.

Quoting Drippy Hairymuff:" If he is not getting it, I would say this, "Listen bitch. We're done. I don't want this anymore. PEACE." That's just me though."

lol before, or after I pack his stuff up? That's the problem. He lives here and we have a child.

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" lol before, or after I pack his stuff up? That's the problem. He lives here and we have a child."

What if you booked him a room, packed his stuff up while he was out. Put it (On the inside) by the front door, and when he comes home you can tell him you have made up your mind, and that you want him out?

Then continue by telling him it WON'T work because you don't want it to and you're done trying. Then add, "I deserve to be happy, and I'm sorry, but I don't feel the same way about you that I use to, and I am not going to try to force those feelings to come back."