should i even go there..

Okay well my daughters father and I broke up in August, in October I got asked out over FB by a used to because friend of mine I didn't and don't like his in that way and have never but I said yes because I felt bad for him (I know that's a smurffy thing to do I feel bad for it) I ended up writing him back a little while later and told him I shouldn't have said yes because I don't feel for him like that, should I tell my ex he wants to work things out with me but we are talking it very slow I just don't like secrets but I'm worried about him being upset even though it's not that big of a deal, how should I start the conversation?

I wouldn't even mention it. You didn't go out with the guy. And don't ask your daughter's dad if he's dated anyone since you broke up. No good ever comes of that.

Who cares if he knows or not? You were single and got asked out. I'm willing to bet he did the same thing. It would be different if you were still together and you went out with someone else

<blockquote><b>Quoting PurpleBama582:</b>" I wouldn't even mention it. You didn't go out with the guy. And don't ask your daughter's dad if he's dated anyone since you broke up. No good ever comes of that. "</blockquote>



Okay, I know he hasn't dated anyone he got locked up in September.

I wouldn't even tell him, it's not relevant. Even if you had seen that guy you wouldn't have been doing anything wrong.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tiff + 2[girls]:</b>" Who cares if he knows or not? You were single and got asked out. I'm willing to bet he did the same thing. It would be different if you were still together and you went out with someone else"</blockquote>



I think it's just the fact that week have trust issues because of things we have kept from each other. He hasn't dated anyone he got locked up in September, on false charges BTW we are still fighting it.

I don't see a point in telling him about a date you didn't even go on...but if you feel like you HAVE to tell him then just say, 'so-and-so asked me out, I said sure...then decided not to go.' You guys weren't together, it's not that big a deal...you're over thinking it!!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting MissMim:</b>" I wouldn't even tell him, it's not relevant. Even if you had seen that guy you wouldn't have been doing anything wrong."</blockquote>



Okay thank you.

If you HAD gone, it might be a different story, but you didn't.

I wouldn't lie if he asks, but there is absolutely NO reason to just tell him outta nowhere.

<blockquote><b>Quoting .chele.:</b>" I don't see a point in telling him about a date you didn't even go on...but if you feel like you HAVE ... [snip!] ... me out, I said sure...then decided not to go.' You guys weren't together, it's not that big a deal...you're over thinking it!!!"</blockquote>



I probably am over thinking it, I just want us to be a family when he gets out and if he finds out from someone elts about this then it might bring up old problems that we finally have worked out...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" I wouldn't lie if he asks, but there is absolutely NO reason to just tell him outta nowhere. "</blockquote>



He's asked me if I have been with anyone sexually and I said no Cuz I haven't been but I didn't even think about telling him this because mostly I forgot about it and I didn't do anything with him...

Quoting Gemmas mommy!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" I wouldn't lie if he asks, but there ... [snip!] ... been but I didn't even think about telling him this because mostly I forgot about it and I didn't do anything with him..."

Well if it makes you feel more comfortable, next time you talk to him, you could say something along the lines of "Remeber when you asked if i'd been with anyone? It completely slipped my mind tat so and so asked me out. I was considering going, but ended up not. Just thought you should know."

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" Well if it makes you feel more comfortable, next time you talk to him, you could say something along ... [snip!] ... slipped my mind tat so and so asked me out. I was considering going, but ended up not. Just thought you should know.""</blockquote>


Okay thank you. I don't think what happened was to big of a deal but he might think differently, who knows. At east he won't be able to say I kept anything from him. Thank you.

Quoting Gemmas mommy!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" Well if it makes you feel more comfortable, ... [snip!] ... big of a deal but he might think differently, who knows. At east he won't be able to say I kept anything from him. Thank you."

If you feel he might be upset, better to nip it in the bud so drama doesn't start. Good luck mama!