re: How to catch a cheater?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" Okay I warned him I was leaving. and he is threatening to get a lawyer. Please someone help, what are my rights? I was going to leave tonight..."</blockquote>

Idk. I'd talk to a lawyer. But he's probably just trying to scare you.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" Okay I warned him I was leaving. and he ... [snip!] ... I was going to leave tonight..."</blockquote> Idk. I'd talk to a lawyer. But he's probably just trying to scare you."

I don't have time for a lawyer!
I'm trying!
We told the border I was only visiting..
HE cheated on ME.
He doesn't help me at all!
Mason was born in New Hampshire, and has proof he was born in the USA!
We have no proof at all he's a canadian citizen.

Quoting Mason'sMommy;:" Okay I warned him I was leaving. and he is threatening to get a lawyer. Please someone help, what are my rights? I was going to leave tonight..."

Definately get a lawyer to protect yourself. But if you were just supposed to be visiting and your son is a citizen of the US I dont know what exactly your "ex"
can do about it

Quoting Elovetta (Aura&Luna):" Definately get a lawyer to protect yourself. But if you were just supposed to be visiting and your son is a citizen of the US I dont know what exactly your "ex" can do about it"

i am going to police station when his mom gets home

Is he involved with LO at all, or is he just using him to control you? Does he provide financial support form LO? Personally, I'd gtfo no matter what I had to do.You and LO deserve better. Why don't you just call the police station or family court offices to get info on your rights.I'd do it anonymously.

All SO does is buy him what he needs.
But, the other day he sold his games, and got 500 bucks for them.
I asked for 10 dollars for diapers and he refused to give me money for diapers!
Because he's paying his girlfriends motel!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" i am going to police station when his mom gets home"</blockquote>

That might not be a bad idea! Let them know he's trying to manipulate you and is being emotionally abusive (emotional blackmail is a form of emotional abuse) and that you're not sure what else he might do next and that you'd like to find out what legal rights you have given the situation and that you would like an officer present when you gather your belongings to leave and when you leave so that there is no chance of him getting physical (& to legally cover your behind as well, so there is a witness present who isn't a family member of HIS; basically an unbiased witness, so that should anything come up in court and he claims you tried to do something you didn't, etc.). I hope they are able to do that for you there although I'm not sure how things work there in those situations. Either way, best of luck and I agree with what another poster said, I believe it was along the lines of- even if legally you aren't supposed to take off with your son, I'd still do it! That's me personally and I would hope it wouldn't backfire. I really doubt given this situation (as he not only chose this girl over you but also over your/his SON) that they would take your son away from you, that would be ridiculous!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" All SO does is buy him what he needs. But, the other day he sold his games, and got 500 bucks for them. ... [snip!] ... I asked for 10 dollars for diapers and he refused to give me money for diapers! Because he's paying his girlfriends motel!"</blockquote>

That's so screwed up of him!!!

Are you guys married or just dating? Curious because the laws might be completely different regarding you taking your son if you guys aren't married. Especially if you take him and don't peruse child support from SO, there might be less he can do as far as custody/visitation and what not. Also, as someone else previously said some posts back, definitely make SO come to the states to visit LO if/when the time comes, that way he has to spend his money if he wants to see him. It's only fair given he'd more than likely do the same thing if tables were turned and he had your LO.

Do u have his bc? That will help you in the states. Did u find anything out at the police?

Guys are dicks. Smurfing dicks. This smurf almost sounds like my recent breakup... SO's leaving a girl for some skanky other.

Im sorry you are going through this  

I still say he's manipulating u.. You are both there illegally. LO was born in NH. That's home... put the burden on him to fight you. . But I think the fact yall are there illegally will negate his efforts. . I cant imagine he has money for a lawyer if he is selling games for 500. Take your chances and get back to US with your family. If he chooses to stay in Canada with that girl he doesn't care about his son

<blockquote><b>Quoting sillygirltracyb_caius1222:</b>" I still say he's manipulating u.. You are both there illegally. LO was born in NH. That's home... ... [snip!] ... chances and get back to US with your family. If he chooses to stay in Canada with that girl he doesn't care about his son"</blockquote>

All very good points & I agree.

I hope you left. If you are there illegally as well as your son then you should just return to the US NOW!!!! He is playing games with you and using your son as a means of control. He has chosen what he wants and you should do what's best for you and your son! quit letting him keep you there as he runs around doing whatever he wants while you feel vulnerable and helpless. Broke my heart to read all of this and I really hope you leave!

My best advice is for you to go to a US embassy and ask for their assistance,

Mama is everything ok?! I'm Getting worried