re: How to catch a cheater?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" Thought I would update you all! He chose her over me. He also called into work today to spend time with ... [snip!] ... ( I was diagnosed with depression already but that iced the cake. ) and then getting a job and taking care of my beautiful son!"</blockquote>

Gah this makes me so angry. I am so sorry Hunny. I wish you were coming back to a place near me so I could give you a hug and tell you it'll be ok you can do this. It's not fair what he did to you. But just be Proud of yoursel that you didn't give up and tried the best you could  

He's guilt tripping me....
Making me feel like a piece of smurf for leaving.
I keep trying to explain, that I HAVE to do this.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" He's guilt tripping me.... Making me feel like a piece of smurf for leaving. I keep trying to explain, that I HAVE to do this."</blockquote>

Oh smurf that. Now I'm just pissed. That's smurfig rediculus. I dont usually drop the f bomb but this is complete bullsmurf. Don't let him manipulate you. He's trying to control you.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" He's guilt tripping me.... Making me feel ... [snip!] ... I dont usually drop the f bomb but this is complete bullsmurf. Don't let him manipulate you. He's trying to control you."

I know that.
He keeps saying " please don't take my son, Mason is my everything. "
I said, if he's your everything why did you do this.
Why haven't you been there for him?


no answer. I'm leaving no matter what he says.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" I know that. He keeps saying " please don't take my son, Mason is my everything. " I said, if he's your ... [snip!] ... he's your everything why did you do this. Why haven't you been there for him? no answer. I'm leaving no matter what he says."</blockquote>


Oh yeah if he cared about him so much he wouldn't be out screwing around on his mother and leaving you two to b with her. Smurf that. Gtfo mama. You can do better.

yes it is definitely about manipulation for him that's why he wouldn't admit to it previously because he didn't want you to run off with your child

Where are you living right now? And where would you be moving to? I wouldn't give a smurf what he said, he's a manipulative smurf, but there may be legal consequences for anything you do... You're married right?

<blockquote><b>Quoting breezy l0ve ♥:</b>" Where are you living right now? And where would you be moving to? I wouldn't give a smurf what he said, ... [snip!] ... what he said, he's a manipulative smurf, but there may be legal consequences for anything you do... You're married right?"</blockquote>

  I'd contact a lawyer to be safe. If u get caught doing something "wrong" they could deport baby back to Canada and you risk never seeing him again.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting breezy l0ve ♥:</b>" Where are you living right now? And ... [snip!] ... to be safe. If u get caught doing something "wrong" they could deport baby back to Canada and you risk never seeing him again."</blockquote>


!! Sadly.... If you're married, I don't think you can legally leave without his permission. Is there any place you can get free legal aid? Better to be safe than sorry.

I agree with seeking legal aid but good for you for standing up for yourself and not letting him have a hold over you. Your taking a step in a great direction.

They r so stupid. . Do either of them really think this is a relationship that will last? Jump from one bed to the next and think they have a relationship. Its amazing how stupid people are. Id tell him you are going to visit the fam for a while... for a few wks... then call him afterbubare here and see if he minds you staying.. chances are he won't. . He can't be dragging be dragging LO from woman to woman. Thats not stable and not a good example.

We both told the border I was only going to be staying with our son for a month.
Its been a year.

My son was also born in America. In New Hampshire, we live in Ontario, illegally.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" We both told the border I was only going to be staying with our son for a month. Its been a year. "</blockquote>

Did u have your son in the us?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" My son was also born in America. In New Hampshire, we live in Ontario, illegally."</blockquote>

Oh so technically you're both visiting.