re: How to catch a cheater?

Hoping things went well for you and LO to leave. Really hoping for an update soon to make sure you both are ok!

I just came across this post. I'm so sorry OP. My husband and I were married for 5 yrs when I went through something nearly identical. He refused to leave the girl. Chose her over us. I wanted my family SOoo badly but I was pregnant with our . second and I had responsibilities to our girls so I packed up and made the ultimate decisions because he wouldn't. I'm Canandian. My oldest is American. My ex is American. We lived in the U.S. But I was still able to leave the cpuntry LEGALLY with my child and there was nothing he could do about it. So long as you are legally married OR if you're not than so long as there is no ckurt filed visitation document both of you have the same legal rights to your child... The second part is surprise and quickness. If you want to go back you need to do it sooner rather than later. If he files with the courts you will be stuck in Canada at least until after everything is settled. My husband called EVERY attorney in Toledo the night I said I was done but my parents and I were quicker and I was out of the country in 3 days(it was a long drive from Ohio to New Brunswick) .The last part is critical- you don't need a signed letter from him agreeing to it. You just need proof he knows where his child is and be willing to give them his information and number. My ex was called while we were at the border. He ignored the call but it was a real number and I also allowed them to read my texts- well offered. I was honest with them. We were allowed through. He hates me for it. but the recovery process from the loss of my marriage is much easier being with the family I have in Canada instead of his in the US. He arely has anything to do with our girls now he's so over come with his "love for his new gf who is also married. My point I guess is that all hope isn't lost. He mad his choices. You don't have to live with his decisions.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mae9406:</b>" I just came across this post. I'm so sorry OP. My husband and I were married for 5 yrs when I went through ... [snip!] ... is also married. My point I guess is that all hope isn't lost. He mad his choices. You don't have to live with his decisions."</blockquote>


So sorry you went through such a similar situation, but very happy that you're willing to give OP advice   Hope this helps her.

Hoping your silence means yall are safe and sound in US

From another thread OP posted a couple of days ago :
"I got SO to write a letter stating I am allowed to take DS across border, and my ride is on their way! Os, and SO came home with a hicky on his neck."

I'm hoping that she's in the US now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MamaAkemi:</b>" From another thread OP posted a couple of days ago : "I got SO to write a letter stating I am allowed ... [snip!] ... border, and my ride is on their way! Os, and SO came home with a hicky on his neck." I'm hoping that she's in the US now."</blockquote>

Wow he's so mature   at least he wrote the letter and she's hopefully home safe now.

He's a loser .wouldn't man up and admit it for so long.. then chooses some tramp over his wife and son. Of course he wrote a letter and let her take the baby. The other woman probably convinced him they could just have another...

<blockquote><b>Quoting sillygirltracyb_caius1222:</b>" He's a loser .wouldn't man up and admit it for so long.. then chooses some tramp over his wife and son. ... [snip!] ... Of course he wrote a letter and let her take the baby. The other woman probably convinced him they could just have another..."</blockquote>


I hope Canada has adultery laws  

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting sillygirltracyb_caius1222:</b>" He's a loser .wouldn't man up ... [snip!] ... The other woman probably convinced him they could just have another..."</blockquote> I hope Canada has adultery laws  "</blockquote>




For sure.. sadly enough im betting the POS wont even fight her anymore.

Just wanted to update everybody that my son and I are safely back in NH (:
And everything has just been so amazing back here except now baby daddy won't leave me alone.. But I filed for custody last week and was informed that I cannot get a divorce until I have been back home for atleast one year unless Tim agrees which he doesn't want a divorce which I do not understand at all so don't ask me xD anyways we just celebrated my sons first birthday and he's honestly quite happier here. He had croup about a week ago but has gotten over it thank god. And has two new teeth! Picture updates soon and you ladies should message me.  <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" Just wanted to update everybody that my son and I are safely back in NH (: And everything has just been ... [snip!] ... ago but has gotten over it thank god. And has two new teeth! Picture updates soon and you ladies should message me.  <3"</blockquote>


Glad to hear you're with your family, I hope things continue going so well.  

I'm so glad you made it back to your family!

I'm so happy to hear that you are safe and back in the states! I hope things continue to get better for you and your son!