My child hits everyone!~

DD (16 months) has been going through a stage for about a month so far now...of hitting. She hits me when she gets frustrated, or even when she falls down or hurts herself. I will pick her up to comfort her and she just SMECKS me in de face! I take her hand with mine and try to hold it down to her side and say (sweetly and firmly) "NO that is not nice you don't hit".
~ Well she'll do it again and again until she settles down unless I hold her hand down myself. And even then she tries to escape from me and hit more.
We go to Toddler Time at the library (used to go more) every once in a while but now not so much because she just goes around hitting kids, taking their toys and juice and snacks...
And hitting more. And a little pushing.
SHE'S A TURD!!!  
It really embarrasses me because I feel like other parent's are thinking I cannot control my child. I know they all go through something like this at some point, but I still can't help the fact that I get stressed out by having to chase her around and stop her from just SMECKING little babies in the face for no reason.
She even tries to hit the three month old two doors down who has a heart murmur. I mean she doesn't know he's sick...but he's so little!! And she knows what a baby is.

Oh btw, a lot of the time she will hit, feel bad and then hug.
  
Idk how to deal with this besides how I am already....
She's still too young for time out or any real kind of discipline. So how do I encourage this to STOP?!

She JUST did it!!! I asked her if she had poop in her pants and WHACKED me a good one right in the face. Then she tried to kiss me and give me a hug.

I dont think she is to young for a time out. You get a small chair or a place in your house and sit here there every time she hits. You just have to explain to her that we dont hit and sit here there for a minute. If she gets up put her back.

I think my son was 16 or 17 months when I did it. It took a few days of putting him back in the chair but it worked.

That's when you set her down and walk away and tell her you don't play with her if she hits.
Do it every single time she hits you.

As for everyone else, put her in time out, remove her from the situation. If she cannot play nice then she cannot play at all.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicolev23:</b>" I dont think she is to young for a time out. You get a small chair or a place in your house and sit here ... [snip!] ... back. I think my son was 16 or 17 months when I did it. It took a few days of putting him back in the chair but it worked."</blockquote>



 

At the toddler place, every time she hits. Take her to a quiet place away from everything, say your reason and stay for a minute. Then take her back to the area and repeat if she continues. Repetition and consistency is the key. It'll take some time, but she'll understand and hopefully stop.

Thankfully I never went thru the hitting faze with either of my kids but at a yr they can start being disiplined , even if its just a slap on the hand back an saying no or timeout but with being a little over a yr they dont have very long attention spans at all , goodluck  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brandy Tamargo:</b>" Thankfully I never went thru the hitting faze with either of my kids but at a yr they can start being ... [snip!] ... back an saying no or timeout but with being a little over a yr they dont have very long attention spans at all , goodluck  "</blockquote>



I wouldn't suggest a pop on the hand for her hitting, that's basically showing her that's its ok to hit because mummy did it.

Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brandy Tamargo:</b>" Thankfully I never went thru the hitting ... [snip!] ... I wouldn't suggest a pop on the hand for her hitting, that's basically showing her that's its ok to hit because mummy did it."

   
Yeah thats just stupid.

Quoting Nicolev23:" I dont think she is to young for a time out. You get a small chair or a place in your house and sit here ... [snip!] ... back. I think my son was 16 or 17 months when I did it. It took a few days of putting him back in the chair but it worked."

I know my child and I know she is definitely still too young to understand time out.
I've read that you're really not supposed to start that until they're at least 3 years old. Any daycare that would make her sit in time out at this age, I would either recommend that they not do that or I would find a different daycare.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ҿɲȶ:</b>" I know my child and I know she is definitely still too young to understand time out. I've read that ... [snip!] ... make her sit in time out at this age, I would either recommend that they not do that or I would find a different daycare. "</blockquote>



Would she understand redirection do you think?

When she hits a child try telling her in a sweet voice to get her attention "ooh it's not nice to hit, let's play over here, this is a fun toy!"

Maybe try that. It'll distract her from hitting.

Quoting Ҿɲȶ:" I know my child and I know she is definitely still too young to understand time out. I've read that ... [snip!] ... make her sit in time out at this age, I would either recommend that they not do that or I would find a different daycare. "

You have read wrong.

My daughter and son both started getting time outs/disciplined shortly after turning one and bet your ass they knew what they did wrong and they learned not to do it again. Kids need to know what they are doing wrong or you are going to be stuck with THAT KID that everyone talks about.

Quoting InkDMomma:" You have read wrong. My daughter and son both started getting time outs/disciplined shortly after turning ... [snip!] ... do it again. Kids need to know what they are doing wrong or you are going to be stuck with THAT KID that everyone talks about."

Lol thats what I don't want!!
I might not designate a place for her to try to sit still in,
But I think I like the idea better of walking away and ignoring her.
But who knows man...maybe I'll just try. And see what happens.

Quoting Ҿɲȶ:" Lol thats what I don't want!! I might not designate a place for her to try to sit still in, But I think ... [snip!] ... think I like the idea better of walking away and ignoring her. But who knows man...maybe I'll just try. And see what happens. "

Just try, and keep being constant in your discipline otherwise she will get confused.
My kids got time outs, redirection, and ignored.

If they hit or bit, I put them down and said " fine mommy wont play with you" and walked away.
If they threw a tantrum I did the same thing.
If they did something they weren't supposed to I redirected them to something else and they got 2 warnings and then a time out ( a minute for every year they are)

Now they are older ( about to be 3 and 4) so they just normally take their time outs but they are few and far between now.

Quoting InkDMomma:" Just try, and keep being constant in your discipline otherwise she will get confused. My kids got time ... [snip!] ... Now they are older ( about to be 3 and 4) so they just normally take their time outs but they are few and far between now."

Okay so I'm going to try walking away and ignoring her. If that doesn't seem to work I'm going to go ahead and TRY time out. Even though I don't think she will respond well to that quite yet....but who knows. They're so unpredictable. Might as well try.
I'll be more firm in my voice too. Which I definitely have done as well...but it didn't seem to make much difference. I guess I do need to just try to be more consistent like you said, for a longer period of time.
TNX

Time outs are something to be taught they dont ever just automatically know what is is they have to learn. My son is 15 months and doesn't hit but if he is getting worked up and throwing things I'll set him in his crib for a minute and tell him why he's in there and most of the time he will calm down and start acting right. I like the crib idea better right now anyways because you dont have to worry about getting them to sit and they wont have any toys to distract them from trying to figure out why they are in there. But that wont really help when your out places but if its done enough at home then they should start to understand what gets them in trouble at home and will not do those things when their out.