Ideal

What's a ideal parenting plan for a newborn child?? This is a link for the guidelines for my county I live in. Also she is ebf and is 3 weeks Wednesday.

Any help  

http://www.yakimacounty.us/superiorcourt/ChildDiv.htm

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Multi weekly visits for short periods of time at your resicdence or a mutual location. Time alone/away from you shouldn't be expected until later months when you can pump. And over nights should not be expected at all until nursing has stopped.

<blockquote><b>Quoting White Chocolate Milk:</b>" Multi weekly visits for short periods of time at your resicdence"</blockquote>




I've been offering that and he seems to think he is gonna get something magical by going to court.

I'm in WA and when we were doing our parenting plan, they suggested 2 visits a week, 3 hours long. but that wasn't til she was months old. At 3 weeks, i'm thinking what the other poster is saying.

Quoting J & A's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting White Chocolate Milk:</b>" Multi weekly visits for short periods ... [snip!] ... I've been offering that and he seems to think he is gonna get something magical by going to court."

ha, my dude always thought that too. and the court always ended up suggesting about 25% of what i would initially offer.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" ha, my dude always thought that too. and the court always ended up suggesting about 25% of what i would initially offer. "</blockquote>




So glad to hear that and especially since your in wa too   I need to work on a plan and go file it since he is threatening court. It's quite frustrating :/

Quoting J & A's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" ha, my dude always thought that too. and the court ... [snip!] ... since your in wa too   I need to work on a plan and go file it since he is threatening court. It's quite frustrating :/"

oh yea, i feel ya. it sounds like you have a fair point of view for everything too, so i'm sure you'll get a good plan worked out for your kiddo!
also, you could look into your local court house. the 'court house faciliator' technically can't give you legal advice, but they can help you fill out a parenting plan (for about $20 bucks) and always have great advice.


our custody battle wound up in court...for about a year 'n a half, and uh, shortly after, we ended up back together and are now expecting our third. whoops  

i wish you luck! feel free to ask me questions if you ever need, have definitely been there!

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" oh yea, i feel ya. it sounds like you have a fair point of view for everything too, so i'm sure you'll ... [snip!] ... our third. whoops   i wish you luck! feel free to ask me questions if you ever need, have definitely been there! "</blockquote>




Thanks I'm sure ill have questions, that's sweet of you to offer to awnser shy questions. One off the top off head was the breastfeeding issue, how does that work? I see you bf your daughter as well.

Congrats on baby number three that is awesome that you guys managed to work through it and now are together  

Make sure you continue to EBF first for the health of baby and mommy but also because that will make it so they can't try and have some strange excuse to have the baby too long too soon.

I really think overnights with out you should not be until a year but I am not sure how courts would feel.

I think you should see if they will make an arrangement and then "relook" at the arrangement after 6-8 months or when the baby will be on solids. Some parents and babies can do solids much sooner but you can not know if your baby will be one who likes and can handle solids soon or not.

So that might be something for you to learn about now(delayed solids) if you feel that delaying solids is what works out to be best for your baby then I think all visitation should be with you until the baby is able to have some solids and have pumped milk.(you really can't know when this LO will be ready for solids. ) So I think you should try and work it out so the court can set up something new after the baby moves to solids.

Quoting J & A's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" oh yea, i feel ya. it sounds like you have a fair ... [snip!] ... as well. Congrats on baby number three that is awesome that you guys managed to work through it and now are together  "

thanks!

the court we went to (kitsap county) actually really took breastfeeding into account for our PP. at least extended past a year.
one judge said i'd just have to pump   but, the court house faciliator told me to get a print out from my doc on not only the benefits of breastmilk, but also breastfeeding. we never saw that judge again though, and her dad agreed to not taking away a comfort like that from her.

she breastfed til 13 months, but didn't start her overnights til, man, after 2 yrs old. and even at that point, it was one night, every other week, and would gradually work up to every other weekend.

we ended up settling it in mediation though, via our own lawyers.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" thanks! the court we went to (kitsap county) actually really took breastfeeding into account for our ... [snip!] ... week, and would gradually work up to every other weekend. we ended up settling it in mediation though, via our own lawyers. "</blockquote>




Thanks I appreciate it   I'm gonna work on a proposes plan maybe I can ask you'd opinion once it's done ?

Quoting applelove:" Make sure you continue to EBF first for the health of baby and mommy but also because that will make ... [snip!] ... for solids. ) So I think you should try and work it out so the court can set up something new after the baby moves to solids."

My mom told me as long as I breastfeed, exclusively, the judge wouldn't likely send my daughter on over nights.
Not sure if that is true for all states, however.

Quoting applelove:" Make sure you continue to EBF first for the health of baby and mommy but also because that will make ... [snip!] ... for solids. ) So I think you should try and work it out so the court can set up something new after the baby moves to solids."

My mom told me as long as I breastfeed, exclusively, the judge wouldn't likely send my daughter on over nights.
Not sure if that is true for all states, however.

Quoting J & A's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" thanks! the court we went to (kitsap county) actually ... [snip!] ... Thanks I appreciate it   I'm gonna work on a proposes plan maybe I can ask you'd opinion once it's done ?"

sure!