what do you do? (vent. long.)

what do you do when you're always wrong? when you're always the one who "ruined" things by getting mad?

it's always my fault to him. today, was the anniversary of when we "met" online 3 years ago. he knows that. or else, he should by now. i got into an argument with my daughter's father about taking her today so that i could have alone time with my bf and my bf knew that. i spent an hour shaving (everything!) for what i thought was going to be a date tonight. i had asked him around 6 pm if we could do something tonight. he said, "yeah, we could do something..." but he told me he wanted to fix his snowmobile first and it'd take a few hours. fine. i was ready at 8pm. i did my hair, put on some makeup, and a nice outfit. i waited til 10. i texted, i called -- no answer. i drove over to the place where he was fixing his sled and i found him there just tootling around in the yard with his friend. i got pissed off. he told me he was "gonna come home soon". i asked him if this is the life he wants-- his friends, his snowmobile, etc. if it is, just tell me so i know. then i left. i texted him and told him to come home and we could fix it. if he came home then, it would be fine. if not, i would take that as him not wanting to fix things and we'd be done. i said this because when things like this happen (it is not the first time. he has absolutely ditched me, told me he was one place when he was actually at the bar with a friend and i was kidless and waiting and all he had to do was ask me to come out), he goes out and parties at the bar without me because he says i got mad and so he might as well just stay out. he does it to spite me. he has also done this when i am here with HIS CHILD (from another girl), and i have been texting him and calling him and asking when he will be home.

so, what now? what do you do? what do i do? i want to be done with this bullsmurf. i want to be respected and loved, and i don't know what to do now.

Leave him, he sounds like an smurf.

You wake up and realize you have had enough and you deserve so much better. Instead of asking him, ask yourself: is this the life YOU want?

i'm worried about who's going to take me to the hospital when it's time to have my baby..... he won't. he will probably be at the bar.

If it were me, I would leave him. You deserve so much better than that!

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaNoodle:</b>" i'm worried about who's going to take me to the hospital when it's time to have my baby..... he won't. he will probably be at the bar."</blockquote>




Do you have any family there? 6

He sounds like a douche....

Quoting Tiff + 2[girls]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaNoodle:</b>" i'm worried about who's going to take me to ... [snip!] ... time to have my baby..... he won't. he will probably be at the bar."</blockquote> Do you have any family there? 6"

my sister is about half an hour away. i'd feel bad if she was at work and had to come all the way here. but if it's early in the morning, i'd be smurfed anyway. because he doesn't wake up. so, i could be in the room saying, "please drive me to the hospital" and he would be like, "ok..." and roll over and go back to sleep. and then if i started getting upset and crying, he'd be like, "well now i'm not going to because you're freaking out." i can picture it all now.

Leave him!!!

Quoting BaileysMum:" He sounds like a douche...."

he sure does.

It takes an hour to shave?!!

He sounds just like my SO. When ever he does smurf like that I say I'm going to leave but never do.

Quoting kitermom:" It takes an hour to shave?!!"

lol, for me it does! i shaved it all and took a shower. it's not as easy as it was when i wasn't 27 weeks pregnant, haha.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaNoodle:</b>" my sister is about half an hour away. i'd feel bad if she was at work and had to come all the way here. ... [snip!] ... getting upset and crying, he'd be like, "well now i'm not going to because you're freaking out." i can picture it all now. "</blockquote>



Seriously.. you dont need to put up with that douche. Don't keep giving him chances that he doesn't deserve.

Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:" You wake up and realize you have had enough and you deserve so much better. Instead of asking him, ask yourself: is this the life YOU want?"

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