Quoting Tasha & Nika:" I understand his point - it's hard to talk to someone who is breaking down, emotionally. But if that's ... [snip!] ... why he didn't realize you had smething special in mind, if maybe, next time he'd prefer a reminder or more definite plans ..etc"
it's definitely just part of my personality. if i am not pregnant, i might be able to keep it together a little longer, but being pregnant, i cry at the drop of a hat. so, i know talking isn't going to get me anywhere. just thinking about it all makes me bawl.
i'm not sure what i should start with. should i just keep it to this incidence? should i refrain from any of the past stuff that is so similar? i know a lot of times i do the "always" and "never" stuff. like, "this always happens..." or "you never do that...." i know those kind of things shouldn't be said because they don't help situations, but... i don't know how else to word it. because last night happened and made me upset, but it is just one of the many times. i feel like this is always what we fight about. it goes the same way every time. we're supposed to have plans. i wait and wait and wait. finally, i try to figure out where he is, what's going on, etc. when i find him doing something else, i get angry. he tells me he was going to do X (be it come home soon, invite me out soon, etc.). but then once i am there and pissed, his logic is "i had plans, but forget it now because you're being a bitch". then i leave because i'm mad. but i still want to talk to yell or cry or whatever. and i also want to fix it and have the night we were supposed to. but since i reacted the way i did, he stays away, ignores my calls or texts, and then that's it. i stay upset because nothing is resolved. he goes to sleep because he is drunk and/or doesn't want to talk or listen to me or whatever it is. then the next day he usually pretends like nothing happened. that's how it goes. i have even told him how to fix it. because in there somewhere he always says, "well, i have tried and tried but nothing ever works and you always just get mad at me so i don't know what to do to fix it." i tell him to just talk to me instead of staying away to spite me or because i supposedly did the wrong thing. just come back and talk to me... he never does what i say to do, even though he is supposedly at a loss for how to make it better. i told him how. i told him the one thing i cannot deal with is when he won't talk to me.