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Gonzo. Thanks for your help everyone.

sometimes the first time in bed sucks. is he on any meds that make it harder for him sexually? (some antidepressants and other meds can make it hard for men to get erections or get off) dont assume you did anything wrong but it might get better after you get to know each other's turn ons.

I wouldn't worry
Sometimes guys just can't get off,just like women...he'll last week my husband went limp during sex and couldn't continue

And you're not a cow,you're beautiful

well, if he said that's normal for him, i would take it at face value, i guess. i might feel a little bad about myself, too, but.... you can always try again, right?

I actually do know a guy that just can't cum. My friend dated him for over a year. If he's on antidepressants or if he's been drinking he could also have a lot of trouble finishing. I hope you made sure he had been tested for stds recently if this is the first time you're having sex with him, and that you used a condom if he hadnt. Not because you're pregnant just in general. You are right at some point you do have to move on and I'm happy that you have.

Quoting lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA*:" sometimes the first time in bed sucks. is he on any meds that make it harder for him sexually? (some ... [snip!] ... erections or get off) dont assume you did anything wrong but it might get better after you get to know each other's turn ons."

Idk if he's on and meds that would prevent it. He says it happens alot though  

Some guys are like that. Some truly can't get off during sex or blow jobs. Don't feel bad about yourself because of it.

Quoting *PeanutButter*:" I wouldn't worry Sometimes guys just can't get off,just like women...he'll last week my husband went limp during sex and couldn't continue And you're not a cow,you're beautiful"

Thank you <3

And he went limp almost as soon as I took my mouth off him. Like we were sitting there talking and....

Quoting allllison ♥ [28wks]:" Idk if he's on and meds that would prevent it. He says it happens alot though  "

i dated a guy who was on antidepressants. we tried having sex, he kept going limp and then he stopped taking them a few days (to see if he could deal without taking it daily) and he still had trouble getting off. it wasnt my fault. he just couldnt.

Quoting MommaNoodle:" well, if he said that's normal for him, i would take it at face value, i guess. i might feel a little bad about myself, too, but.... you can always try again, right?"

What I really like about him is, he's so straight forward and honest with me. He told me if he was a scout he would give me the scouts honor that this happens all the time. He has always been honest with me, even if its things I don't want to hear... but still. I feel so bad. And we plan to try again... which makes me feel better, it proves he didn't see me naked and want to run. Haha.

Quoting lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA*:" i dated a guy who was on antidepressants. we tried having sex, he kept going limp and then he stopped ... [snip!] ... (to see if he could deal without taking it daily) and he still had trouble getting off. it wasnt my fault. he just couldnt."

He didn't go limp on me... he just couldn't cum! I felt so bad. I hope he is telling the truth about it happening all the time. Id if he's on any meds, but I know he drinks sometimes... I saw where someone mentioned something about drinking...

Quoting allllison ♥ [28wks]:" "

this happened to me with my daughter's father the first time we were 'together' like that, lol. it wouldn't happen. and i felt horrible. he said it was bc he was so nervous and hadn't been with a girl in a long time. i honestly don't really know what the issue was with him, but i know that he always had trouble cumming when we used condoms, and i know now he jerks off a LOT (didn't know that then, lol). i think he is too used to his hand, honestly. i know that sounds funny.

but these may not even be the issues/reasons your guy isn't able to. but, if you really like him, keep seeing him, and keep trying and see how it goes. good luck to you!

This only happened to my husband when he was drinking

My dh has this problem sometimes, and I felt the same way you do. But it just happens, it probably is embarrassing for the Guy too I would think.

Quoting MommaNoodle:" this happened to me with my daughter's father the first time we were 'together' like that, lol. it wouldn't ... [snip!] ... your guy isn't able to. but, if you really like him, keep seeing him, and keep trying and see how it goes. good luck to you!"

We used a condom... not that we needed too, but just to keep in the practice of it I guess. He said he never has sex without a condom... so he should be use to it... but then again... maybe that's why he can't??? Idk. Maybe he would have if we kept going but he was too tired to keep going and I didn't want to be on top...