re: desperate need of advice

This looks like a good place. I know it's religion-oriented but that doesn't matter. They will know how to help you.

http://helpinghandspauldingga.org/

I'm still looking.

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" This looks like a good place. I know it's religion-oriented but that doesn't matter. They will know how to help you. http://helpinghandspauldingga.org/ I'm still looking."

I have never even seen this website, should i call them? i don't even know what to say, lol.

Quoting Lumpy space princess:" I have never even seen this website, should i call them? i don't even know what to say, lol."

Call them and say you're a young mother, you just found out you're pregnant, the father is not wanting to get involved, your parents are about to throw you out, and you need some help. Ask them if they can direct you to anyone who can counsel you. If they can't offer you help they will at least know someone who will.

Here's something else that might help.

http://www.thealternativehouse.org/aym.htm

"There is no greater indicator of life-long poverty than to be a single, teenage mother. Our Assisting Young Mothers Program helps to break that cycle by providing housing, counseling and training to homeless young women, age 16 to 24, who are pregnant or have young children. With an emphasis on parenting, education, job readiness and self-sufficiency, our AYM graduates are able to support themselves and their children when they leave the program."

There are also great hotlines out there. 1-800-SAY-TEEN is geared towards young mothers.

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" Call them and say you're a young mother, you just found out you're pregnant, the father is not wanting ... [snip!] ... when they leave the program." There are also great hotlines out there. 1-800-SAY-TEEN is geared towards young mothers. "

I truly appreciate these, very helpful, thank you so much.

Quoting Lumpy space princess:" I truly appreciate these, very helpful, thank you so much."

No problem. I'm sorry you're having to go through all of this. Really though, you need to realize you're better than all of this. Don't put up with someone who is going to treat you so poorly. You deserve better.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lumpy space princess:</b>" Yes, I agree, the sooner the better, I just am going to have the hardest time letting go of my own flesh and blood but i'd also be doing my little heart a huge favor. "</blockquote>

Honestly you can't really think about it as your own flesh and blood. If you are going to go through with adoption once you find a family it would probably be better if you think about it as so and so's baby. That's what I did. If you need more help with that stuff you can PM me.

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" No problem. I'm sorry you're having to go through all of this. Really though, you need to realize you're ... [snip!] ... to realize you're better than all of this. Don't put up with someone who is going to treat you so poorly. You deserve better."

I hear it from everyone all the time, but you are 100% correct, i really don't deserve it, it sucks it took this smurf to open my eyes.

Quoting Lumpy space princess:" I hear it from everyone all the time, but you are 100% correct, i really don't deserve it, it sucks it took this smurf to open my eyes."

Look at it as a learning experience. It will not have happened in vain if you learn from it.

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" Look at it as a learning experience. It will not have happened in vain if you learn from it. "

Valid point, just feels like my life should have gone better, and i also feel i am the last person to deserve to go through this, i was raised and brought up way better than all of this which is the super sad part of it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lumpy space princess:</b>" Valid point, just feels like my life should have gone better, and i also feel i am the last person ... [snip!] ... to deserve to go through this, i was raised and brought up way better than all of this which is the super sad part of it."</blockquote>

Crass as this may sound smurf happens no matter who you are, or how you've been raised. This could end up a good thing but either way it is a lesson. The program that helps with life skills sounds wonderful no matter what you decide.