rainbow babies.

how long after you miscarried did you TTC?

what factors did you play in? (as far as before deciding to TTC again)
how many miscarriages after did you end up having before you got your rainbow baby? or are you still waiting?
did you have perfect pregnancies previously?

i just have so much running through my head atm. i dont know what to do.

My first pregnancy was a m/c 3 days before 3 months after we didn't try at all for four months i just wasnt ready then we started TTC it took eight months including the four we didn't try and I had a crazy but well worth it pregnancy and now have a 3 year old and am pregnant with number three took 4 days for this one and I will be 30 weeks on wensday.

We were not going to TTC after our m/c. I was 100% content with the 2 we already had. Lo and behold, I got a BFP exactly 8 weeks after the m/c and I'm currently 20w pg.

we tried right away and just continued to try.

I'm so so sorry honey, you know I completely understand what you are going through and you can talk to me.

Quoting InkDMomma:" we tried right away and just continued to try. I'm so so sorry honey, you know I completely understand what you are going through and you can talk to me."

thank you hun <3
i just dont know what to feel.. what to think.. or anything. k was perfect from day 1. no sickness no difficulties nothing. i just dont know what i did differently or why. i took my vitamins everyday and with k i was lucky to take 1 or 2 a week.. i ate healthier.. cut down caffeine, yet again i didnt with k. im just confused. dont know if i should be sad? upset? relieved? idk.

just take time, sometimes it's a shock and you might feel the sadness in a day or so, or maybe not at all.
Try when YOU feel you are ready to, my OB advises one cycle and then go at it again.
Skye and Maxwell's pregnancies were absolutely perfect and then I miscarried my 2.
<3 Hugs <3

Quoting InkDMomma:" just take time, sometimes it's a shock and you might feel the sadness in a day or so, or maybe not at ... [snip!] ... and then go at it again. Skye and Maxwell's pregnancies were absolutely perfect and then I miscarried my 2. <3 Hugs <3"

i want to try again like right now. but pick up where i left off which i know wont happen. :/
hubs thinks its his fault.. its his 2nd miscarriage. one with me and one with his ex wife.
i just wonder if i had one right now for a reason... and i shouldnt try again because of that unknown reason. im all about everything happens for a reason. and thats how im looking at this loss.

Quoting Whoahbabyy:" i want to try again like right now. but pick up where i left off which i know wont happen. :/ hubs thinks ... [snip!] ... try again because of that unknown reason. im all about everything happens for a reason. and thats how im looking at this loss."

it's NO ONE's fault.
Don't think either one of you is at fault. I know how smurffy it feels and how down on yourself you can get. Maybe when you talk to your OB see if there is anything they will do as far as testing and if not then try again. I will hope for a healthy pregnancy and a sticky baby for you.

Quoting InkDMomma:" it's NO ONE's fault. Don't think either one of you is at fault. I know how smurffy it feels and how down ... [snip!] ... they will do as far as testing and if not then try again. I will hope for a healthy pregnancy and a sticky baby for you."

my appointment is jan 9 so we shall find out then. thank you hun   if i have any more questions ill message you...

We had a loss in 2009 & just had our rainbow this past September. We decided to wait to work on some issues, and military timing,

I had two pretty much perfect pregnancies, 2 daughters. My 3rd pregnancy, ended December 2011, I was 19 weeks when I found out we had lost him at 16 weeks. He got really tightly tangled in his umbilical cord which cut off his blood supply. Had to be induced, it was horrible. My Dr. told me that so long as I had 1 cycle, then whenever we decided we were ready to TTC again we could. We started trying right away. We then got pregnant after 5 months, in our 6th cycle. I am now 31 weeks 2 days pregnant with our rainbow boy.

Very sorry to hear of your loss. It is NOT your fault, or you SO's. Never think that. Unfortunately most Dr.'s won't do any testing until you've had 3 consecutive miscarriages.

Take your time, and start TTC'ing when you're ready. There is no saying it will happen again. To be honest, this has been my easiest pregnancy by far. If I didn't feel him kicking and moving, I wouldn't know I was pregnant.

Quoting luvmy2grlz&boy!:" I had two pretty much perfect pregnancies, 2 daughters. My 3rd pregnancy, ended December 2011, I was ... [snip!] ... be honest, this has been my easiest pregnancy by far. If I didn't feel him kicking and moving, I wouldn't know I was pregnant. "

that makes me feel better... knowing you had them before and after.
i think we are ready to try. im just going to track my cycles and use mydays like i did before. but in the process get a job and start school... get some of our debt paid off.. i was constantly stressed about bills. so maybe even after that idk.

someone tell me its normal to just break down for no reason. Ill be perfectly fine then i just start crying. This is horrible :/ and i thought getting my heart broke by guys wasbad.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Whoahbabyy:</b>" someone tell me its normal to just break down for no reason. Ill be perfectly fine then i just start crying. This is horrible :/ and i thought getting my heart broke by guys wasbad."</blockquote>


I'm sorry hun.  
And yes, it's very normal to have a flood of emotions come out of nowhere. My 1st loss was extremely hard. Some days were okay, some i'd lay in bed and moan...It's been 10 years and I still feel those emotions like it was yesterday. I still grieve for my babies. Someone once told me that lossing a child is like raising one; it's a life-long process. And that is so true. Don't be hard on yourself. If you feel like crying, let it out...Whatever emotions you're feeling are valid and they do help with the healing process. *hugs*

Quoting Whoahbabyy:" someone tell me its normal to just break down for no reason. Ill be perfectly fine then i just start crying. This is horrible :/ and i thought getting my heart broke by guys wasbad."

completely normal, I did it for MONTHS.  
I wish you were closer so I could hug you and make you feel better.
With my first loss, I drank....a lot... and cried a lot. That was pretty much what I did. I was extremely broken from it.