coming to terms (as)

How do you make peace with your decision to terminate? How do you let go of the anger and resentment you feel? I feel like after I do this Im never going to want children again.

I have no idea as I have never been through it, but I just wanted to say, best of luck to you.

u need to be 100% sure its what u what....... this is tuff for anyone, and if u decied to do it, i am sure its going to hurt so u have to do it for all the right reasons. and hun, there will be a time in your life that you feel ready for children.. its just that time might not be now. think long and hard... and good luck with what ever u choose x

I'm still struggling to deal with it four years later... If you aren't 100% sure you want it then take it from me, you shouldn't do it. Even having a baby hasn't changed my feelings about that first pregnancy.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" I'm still struggling to deal with it four years later... If you aren't 100% sure you want it then take ... [snip!] ... want it then take it from me, you shouldn't do it. Even having a baby hasn't changed my feelings about that first pregnancy."</blockquote>


This.
It's been almost 3 years and its still something I think about daily.
I don't think I'll ever get over it.

I'm sorry you have to go through this.  

I've been following your story and it seems as though you are really struggling with this.
I agree with the other ladies that you should be certain this is what you want to do before you do it. Because once you do it, there's no undoing it. and the emotional consequences for those women who go through with it when it really wasn't what they wanted can be devastating for some.
I terminated my pregnancy 4 years ago and I have no regrets. I know it was absolutely the right thing for me to do at the time.
but when I was faced with terminating this pregnancy, I ended up deciding it wasn't what I wanted to do.
So I've been on both sides of the fence here. I empathize greatly with the internal struggle you are dealing with right now. but I can tell you from experience that once you decide, no matter what your choice is, you will feel a lot better. Like a weight has been lifted. The stress of being unsure can be overwelming I know.
No one can decide this for you. Ultimately you will need to decide what is best for you at this time.
If you need someone to talk too feel free to PM me.
Best of luck.

For me I felt much regret and still do and think I always will. Before I did it I did not think I would have any feelings of regret. I was all for what I was about to do, I did not think anything was wrong with it. I was actuly very surprised by how much regret I felt.

I looked online for support before and found a lot of women who strongly regretted what they did. I honestly thought they were "fake" maybe they were pro-life people trying to make other women not go through with it. I did not believe that so meany people could have such strong regret after doing something that they were so sure of.

Well I was just like them. that is why I tell my story because I don't want other women to have that strong regret that I and so meany other women have.

You can find a lot of good help on the Abortion survivor forum
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/forum-17.html

I kind of disagree with some other comments about not doing it unless you want to... I mean I can't imagine ANYONE actually WANTS to, YKWIM?!

I never wanted to, either time. and I understand why people are saying don't do it coz it hurts so bad to get over. it does hurt, it REALLY smurfing hurts. some days I feel regret, but I honestly do think that this is separate from the practicalities of the situation, I know what I did was the best decision for my children and its horrible for me and I struggle every day but I think I did the right thing.

as for making peace and gettin over resentment and bitterness, well I'm still working on that, and it's early days. I'm getting treatment at mental health clinic and my husband and I are going to attend marriage counselling next week.

as for future babies- it hasn't put me off. in fact its one thing that keeps me going sometimes, that when the times right I can get to keep that potential 3rd child. my husband has promised me one, although I'm not sure whether I actually will, but it helps to think I'll get another chance.

good luck, I know how hard it is when you feel so much like you don't want to do it :'( x