My Boyfriend Left me and i am Pregnant with his child.

My name is Samantha and I am 17. I have had this boyfriend for 9 months (and i'm 8 months pregnant). He was my first love and the one that took my virginity. We agreed to both keep the baby and live together but he just left me. When my parents found out i was pregnant, They asked me to get out and i did and myself and my boyfriend went to Leeds to try and start afresh there. He's left me and Leeds is no longer an option for me i want to move back to essex. Anyway, Its been just a day and i feel like i can't go on. He does not seem bothered at all while i am grieving and finding it hard to stop the tears. He left me because i was too moody. I kept explaining to him that its the pregnant and he knows that but he says he cant deal with it. Deep down i know that if he truly loved me he'd look past that and understand the pressure my body is in and try to support me in every way he can but he gave up. I have no friends. I stopped contacting all of them ever since i found out i was pregnant because of my preoccupation with my boyfriend. I have no family either because they abandoned me. I have nobody and i don't know where or how to start. It breaks my heart when i think about him. I feel like i want to talk to him but he doesn't want to talk to me. I don't want to go back with him for the same reason i don't want to go back to my friends. I like to move forward and not back. But i love him so much its so hard for me and i need someone to help me and tell me how to go on. I have also heard that he has gone back to his 15 year old ex girlfriend whom he once cheated on me with. Knowing all this i still love him. Despite all this, he's a very caring person and all of my is in love with the person he once used to be when we started dating and i cannot get used to how he has changed. My priority is Tiffany (my baby) and i want to do the best for her and myself but my ex boyfriend keeps crossing my mind. He parties, talks to a lot of girls, has a lot of one night stands and doesn't care about me. And knowing that completely breaks me. Please help. I want to get over him.

You should probably try to patch up things with your parents and then file for child support.

That, or try to adopt out.

You are going to NEED some sort of support.

You may think you love that boy, but you shouldnt. He is obviously no good, you know this, too. You arent going to want to raise a child with him, knowing he can leave at any second or cheat on you. You need to cut ties and figure out what needs to happen to give your LO the best life.

I am really sorry to hear that.

Me and Cory broke up back in August. It was really hard for me to think of myself as a single mother. I knew he still loved me but I wasn't sure I still loved him. Like you, he was my first and my only. I flew solo for a few months. I tried getting along with him for the sake of our daughter but he was filled with hurt and anger over our break up. At one point he denied our daughter and that angered me more than anything.

But after I cooled down a few months later I realized I do love him and that he was hurting. He had already lost his first two children to his ex-wife and he felt I was taking his other. We were able to work things out but it did take time. I hope the same works out for you.

Also you may try reaching out to your parents again. I am sure they were hurt and scared in the beginning but now they have had time to time about it. Just think how much you love your baby and do you really believe your mother would really hate you. I believe once you become pregnant you understand you mothers a little better.

I really do wish you the best of luck with everything.

1. Time will help you to get over your ex boyfriend. You have another life who is more important now.

2. Look into the welfare programs to see what is available to you. Remember, your unborn baby is your priority. Stay strong for her.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" I am really sorry to hear that. Me and Cory broke up back in August. It was really hard for me to think ... [snip!] ... once you become pregnant you understand you mothers a little better. I really do wish you the best of luck with everything. "

My parents (Mother) has made is quite clear to my aunt VERY RECENTLY that she wants nothing to do with me or my child. (I wont mention some of the words she used to describe me). And my father has moved back to south africa.

Quoting :" My parents (Mother) has made is quite clear to my aunt VERY RECENTLY that she wants nothing to do with ... [snip!] ... with me or my child. (I wont mention some of the words she used to describe me). And my father has moved back to south africa."

I am sorry to hear that. Is there any other family you are or were close too. An Aunt? Grandparent?

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" I am sorry to hear that. Is there any other family you are or were close too. An Aunt? Grandparent? "

Grandparent -Deceased.
Auntie- Has been asked by mother to choose between Me or Her.
Adoptive Father -70. Unable to look after me but emotional support available.
Those are my only relatives in England.

I really was serious when i said 'I have nobody'. I have thought this through but there is noone. Absolutely nobody i can turn to. If there was, i would. I just need to get over My ex boyfriend. Because my hurt and anger towards him is whats holding me back. If i can get over him then i have no doubt i will try my hardest to do this alone. It will be hard. I know. But it's do-able.

Quoting :" Grandparent -Deceased. Auntie- Has been asked by mother to choose between Me or Her. Adoptive Father ... [snip!] ... If i can get over him then i have no doubt i will try my hardest to do this alone. It will be hard. I know. But it's do-able."

I don't think you will get over him, not at least until you hold that beautiful baby in your arms and realize you got this. I am not sure where you are from but I hope there are local programs to help you. I know there are some around here but that every place is different. So just keep checking.

Hi Im 17 to, Im no where in the same situtaion as you but im here if you need someone to talk to thats around your age, My LO is 7 months old. Private message me if you want to mama. Good luck. <3

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There is no way for you to reconnect with your friends??

Quoting :" My name is Samantha and I am 17. I have had this boyfriend for 9 months (and i'm 8 months pregnant). ... [snip!] ... lot of one night stands and doesn't care about me. And knowing that completely breaks me. Please help. I want to get over him."

Congratulations on the bundle of joy. I know your heart is telling you one thing but for the time being it might be best for you to try and talk to your parents and move back in there. Take this time to focus on you and your babygirl. Time to yourself to think. It will be hard at first but something better may come from it. Maybe her dad will come around when she's born (some boys are stubborn and dont see things from the women's point of view). Time will only tell darling. Hope everything works out for you. Best of luck to you and your babygirl