since having LO

whenever you had him or her. what did it do to your relationship and how???

Nothing major. We are more boring, sleep in different "shifts" more. Our sex life actually improved the first several months u til I got pregnant and sick again. Its more of a "not it! You do it!" Kind of thing now LOL. We still have certain things each other does. I do nights, always, he does mornings on his days off so I can sleep in, and bathtime/bedtime is 75% of the time daddy's job.

In the beginning it was stressful and we were fighting all the time. After about 5/6 months things got better and now our daughter is 2 1/2 years old and things are 100 times better and we are closer then ever.

In the beginning, it kind of tore us down. I had PPD and DH went back to work the day after we came home from the hospital. I was tired and so broken I couldn't stop crying and on top of everything I had gallbladder attacks so bad I wound up in the ER three nights in one month.

Now DD is 20 months (on the 9th) and we are a happy little family. We make decisions as a family and we're closer. Honestly the lack of sleep with a newb and me having medical issues that were undiagnosed just added gasoline to a flame.

**eta** our relationship greatly improved once I got my gallbladder out at two months postpartum. I was in constant pain from the attacks so I was a royal bitch until I got the sucker out lol.

Well since we are both young I think having the baby made us grow up pretty fast. Now we are just like an old married couple.(kind of in a bad way) Our sex life is slim to none. (LO is 10 mos) He works alot and I take care of LO. On a mental level things are pretty great but physical not really. We don't really fight much. Things are just kind of... mellow? It seems like our only thing in common anymore is our love for LO.

In the beginning it brought us closer. Having two you have to feed every hour & a half, when it'd take them an hour to drink 5mL, then sleep 30 minutes & get back at it, was hard on both of us. We had to rely on each other so much. Then he went back to work 2 weeks later & I was home to do it all alone by myself 12 hours a day. I got them on a schedule fast enough, but he still would rarely help. We had a big blow up when they boys were maybe 2 months old, and now we each have our own role in the house. His job is to go to work, take out the trash, and keep the outside of the house clean. My job is to take care of all the boys' needs, and keep the inside of the house clean. This works so great now. We just got married almost 2 weeks ago. He knows what I expect of him, and I know what he expects of me, and that's what we do. Now that the boys are 18 months old, it's becoming quite an adventure.

Nothing because SO came into our lives after the fact that LO was born ( he isn't LO's birth father)