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Quoting Raindancer:" Oh and now he turned his phone off..."

Give him some time...

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Give him some time..."

He has been gone for almost 10 hours now....

Quoting Raindancer:" Oh and now he turned his phone off..."

Next thing you know he'll be walking in the door with his fingers in his ears singing nanny nanny boo boo.

If YOU disappeared and turned off your phone....what would he think?

Demand the respect you give.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Next thing you know he'll be walking in the door with his fingers in his ears singing nanny nanny ... [snip!] ... nanny nanny boo boo. If YOU disappeared and turned off your phone....what would he think? Demand the respect you give. "

Lmao. Is it sad that I could see him doing that? And I have done that once before (except my phone was on) but it was right after my dad died so I went to his grave. He didn't even notice I was gone.

Quoting Raindancer:" He has been gone for almost 10 hours now...."

And you're still trying to call that smurf?? Yeah...something HAS to change hun. And I think the chage starts with you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raindancer:</b>" I can't help it. Me telling him to get out was my shut down mode. When he screamed at me like that.. ... [snip!] ... yelling at us like that when he was beating us.. It won't leave my head. I know he isn't my dad but it won't leave my brain."</blockquote>

When he comes home sit down and tell him that. You guys really need to sit down and have a real and calm discussion about finances. Maybe sit down and make a budget with him? Then make a wants and needs list. Budget in the wants and see what's left for the needs. Then he can physically see the financials and open his eyes.

Quoting Raindancer:" Lmao. Is it sad that I could see him doing that? And I have done that once before (except my phone was on) but it was right after my dad died so I went to his grave. He didn't even notice I was gone."

pack your things and leave. Don't be there when he gets home. Leave and do your best not to go back.

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" And you're still trying to call that smurf?? Yeah...something HAS to change hun. And I think the chage starts with you."

I only tried once. I worry.. Even about people I don't like because I am like that. I would just like verification that he is at least safe at someones house rather than in a ditch on the side of the road somewhere.

Quoting Red Bottom:" pack your things and leave. Don't be there when he gets home. Leave and do your best not to go back. "

That is something I won't do. Mainly because we are living in my mothers house atm so I would have nowhere to go. That is another thing is that we were planning on moving out of here soon back into an apartment which is another reason why he doesn't need to spend money like there is no tomorrow.

Quoting Raindancer:" I only tried once. I worry.. Even about people I don't like because I am like that. I would just like ... [snip!] ... just like verification that he is at least safe at someones house rather than in a ditch on the side of the road somewhere."

Your body doesn't know how to separate different forms of anxiety, it just feels anxious.

Are you really worried that he's dead....or are you worried about your relationship, his fidelity, and your broken trust and patience?

Quoting Red Bottom:" Your body doesn't know how to separate different forms of anxiety, it just feels anxious. Are you ... [snip!] ... really worried that he's dead....or are you worried about your relationship, his fidelity, and your broken trust and patience?"

I get this thing in my head that imagines people in an accident some where or being abducted.. The cops got to hear from me twice in a week one time because my sister went missing for about 6 hours and then my sister in law went missing for about 3 hours.. (I don't even like my sister in law) Yes I am genuinely concerned about him being hurt because you don't really drive like a sane person when you are pissed.

Quoting Raindancer:" That is something I won't do. Mainly because we are living in my mothers house atm so I would have nowhere ... [snip!] ... out of here soon back into an apartment which is another reason why he doesn't need to spend money like there is no tomorrow."

HOT DAMN EVIEN BETTER! Pack his smurf and put it on the porch.

Holy smurf imagine if you were stuck in an apartment with this loser.

Quoting Red Bottom:" HOT DAMN EVIEN BETTER! Pack his smurf and put it on the porch. Holy smurf imagine if you were stuck in an apartment with this loser. "

I was actually thinking about doing this.

Quoting Raindancer:" I was actually thinking about doing this."

Thinking is fun, but doing it gets something done.

You can do nothing....but then you also have to note that this will continue to happen and you will continue to be unhappy. And if you move in with this guy, it will be even harder to get out.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" HOT DAMN EVIEN BETTER! Pack his smurf and put it on the porch. Holy smurf imagine if you were stuck in an apartment with this loser. "</blockquote>

Maybe it'll give him a reality check?