Young single mom,who still loves her ex

Well im 18, me and the baby father dated not so much I would say 7 months and then he left me and got together when i was 8 months and left me like a month. I still love the guy and im trying sooo hard to get over him but i just cant, i mean i dated other guys but i think about him and i know he does not love me, he tells me all the time but im an idiot that still has hope,sadly. How can i get over him? I try being friends but always i fall for him and then i tell him,he does not care, i cut the friendship and again i becime hes friend because i miss him n the circle begins and then i stop being hes friend and start again. The point is how do get rid of this feelings when sometimes i gotta see him and even if i dont sadly this feelings stay,i wanna get over him.Any suggestions =\

Do you love people who make you feel worthless?
Do you love him or do you feel like you won't ever be happy like you were when you met him?
Do you love him or do you love who you wish he was?


“I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism.” - Elizabeth Gilbert

No,I dont love that he makes me feel worthless. I know I can find somebody else that can make me happy like he did when i met him. Yes sadly I do love him just not the person he is now, i guess i loved the old him and i cant let it go because i have hope that he would become the old him again. Not only that but since i have a daughter with him, i guess i wanted a family toguether, since my parents are not together and it was horrible to me seeing a family separated. I just also wanted my daughter to see mommy and daddy together as a family.

Quoting :" No,I dont love that he makes me feel worthless. I know I can find somebody else that can make me happy ... [snip!] ... it was horrible to me seeing a family separated. I just also wanted my daughter to see mommy and daddy together as a family."

Do you think your daughter would like to see her mommy made to feel worthless just because mommy and daddy are together?

You make a point and i know. Thats why im asking how to get over him, because i know hes bad but i just cant control my feelings

<blockquote><b>Quoting :</b>" You make a point and i know. Thats why im asking how to get over him, because i know hes bad but i just cant control my feelings"</blockquote>




You can control how you feel by accepting reality and not pining for the unattainable. If he were worth your time and energy he wouldn't be making you feel so badly.

This is a part of growing up, of maturity. To accept reality and not cling to an idea of someone that doesn't exist.

Let go for your daughter's sake. Let go for you.



Maybe try to focus on getting an education and getting your life on track. Forget romance for now. You'll have time for that later when your more apt to handle it in a healthy way.