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It sounds like he is a douchebag to me... especially considering he would believe a friend over you about the cheating thing   I would start thinking about breaking up...

sorry thats happening mama...

that was how i found out BD was cheating on me.. we were going good for like 4 months of my pregnancy then he started cheating with my best friend.. i confronted him and he freaked and lied..
fast forward almost 3 years.. i havnt seen or heard from him in almost 2 years. and he has since cheated on 4 of my old friends.

This post is riddled with WTF moments.

It's a perfect relationship....with your boyfriend who's in and out of jail? Spending time with you and YALLS daughter isn't more important to him than his need to break the law and go to jail.....Sounds like a disney movie.

You mention how you talked about "getting married and starting a family"....yet here you are pregnant with his second child, stayed with him through a jail sentence....and you still don't have a ring on your finger.

Then after you discover him having emotional relationships with other women, lying to you, lying about his daughter, and lying about you, you find some way to say you're "proud to be with him".

What out of all of that is anything to be proud of?

Hunny the best thing to do is leave that jerk for good.
If he was believing others words over yours when someone said you cheated he doesn't trust you.

The fact that he is calling HIS daughter his niece to other girls is beyond crazy. Why is he hiding he has a child  
Leave him.

Quoting Red Bottom:" This post is riddled with WTF moments. It's a perfect relationship....with your boyfriend who's in and ... [snip!] ... lying about you, you find some way to say you're "proud to be with him". What out of all of that is anything to be proud of?"

This made me cry =[ I guess I am just in love with him.

That's how i found out my bd cheated .. Chances are if he did and said all that to her she ain't the only one...sorry you ate going thru this

Quoting Amanda.M:" This made me cry =[ I guess I am just in love with him."

I'm sorry... there really are better men out there though. you deserve more

Quoting Amanda.M:" This made me cry =[ I guess I am just in love with him."

I hope this made you cry because you realize how crappy of a situation you're in and that you need to get out.


You love a man who goes to jail?
You love a man who commits crime and leaves you to be a single parent?
You love a man who will have 2 babies with you but won't marry you?
You love a man who has emotional relationships with other women?
You love a man who lies to you?
You love a man who lies about being a father?

Or do you love who you wish he was?

"I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism.” -Elizabeth Gilbert

Sounds like my ex. I put up with it for 3 yrs he kept promising to change and had me believing anything he said and did wasn't wrong and when he was OBVIOUSLY cheating I was so blind. he did exactly what u described on line, on the phone, any way with every girl he could. If he wasn't doing anything wrong he wouldn't have lied to her saying he was single and ur daughter was his niece, and then flipped on you for adding her!! And you even saw their convo yourself. You caught him red handed, take it as a blessing and move on. I know you love him but it's not worth the pain and heart ache your going to endure if you don't leave ....

OP, I was absolutely in love with my BD the way you're with yours. I allowed so many chances always would take him back no matter what. I was so "in love" with the no good piece of smurf.

BUT when it came to my child, I was very smart. My child enlightened me to leave him and not chase after him or allow him back into my life. Look at where I am at now, with a WONDERFUL MAN who knows what he wants in life and has many goals and the best part is he treats my son as his own- can't beat that.
My BD doesn't even call to see how his son is doing  

If your BD can deny your daughter, I'm telling you he could give 2 smurfs about her if you left his life for good.

You need your children to grow up with a GOOD father figure. Not like him. He is honestly a piece of smurf from what I just read.

Quoting Red Bottom:" I hope this made you cry because you realize how crappy of a situation you're in and that you need ... [snip!] ... for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism.” -Elizabeth Gilbert"

I just love how that is written, as it is so true for many!

<blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" I'm sorry... there really are better men out there though. you deserve more"</blockquote>




!!!!!!!!

Quoting Amanda.M:" This made me cry =[ I guess I am just in love with him."

Work on loving YOURSELF.

You are codependent, not in love. Seriously. Pick up a copy of Women Who Love Too Much. It would be the best $10 you ever spent...seriously. If you loved YOU, then you wouldn't love him at all - as he isn't taking care of you in ANY way. That book really will be eye opening to you, I swear & it easier to take because you'll see yourself in the women it talks about versus being able to deflect when others are pointing out the bad patterns you've let yourself get into with men.

Quoting justanothamotha:" Work on loving YOURSELF. You are codependent, not in love. Seriously. Pick up a copy of Women Who Love ... [snip!] ... talks about versus being able to deflect when others are pointing out the bad patterns you've let yourself get into with men."