re: sexy time?

Quoting The Master:" The psst three weeks the excuse has been that its too hot ... Itll be intrresting what the excuse will be when it cools down"

I love those kind of excuses
 



I'm always like really?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mom of 3 Little Boys!:</b>" You're telling me! He has an addiction and sneaks around behind my back to do it too. I told him if ... [snip!] ... him in. Of course, I want my kids to be able to have a roof over their head and food in their stomach so thats why I never had."</blockquote>




I'm sorry you're in that situation  
I don't think my SO watches porn but if he did/does he better keep hiding it, lol.
I don't wanna even know.

Quoting Pnire:]:" I'm sorry   I get when guys use visual aids when their SO isn't in the mood or not home or those ... [snip!] ... those sort of situations but when you've got someone at home willing.... I think it's kind of cruel. Maybe it's just me tho. "

I feel the same way. I am the one who always wants it and he does the whole girl thing of 'I have a headache' or 'I'm too tired' and then I catch him looking at porn the next morning while everyone is asleep. I don't even think he realizes that makes me feel even worse about myself than I already do and hurts my feelings on top of it.

Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mom of 3 Little Boys!:</b>" You're telling me! He has an addiction ... [snip!] ... that situation   I don't think my SO watches porn but if he did/does he better keep hiding it, lol. I don't wanna even know."

He tries to hide it but I ALWAYS find out he has done it even if I stumble across it, which I have, by accident.

I really don't care, but I'm not sexual at all. We hang out quite often but rarely have sex. It's not really important to either of us and if either one of us aren't in the mood, we just don't have sex. Easy as that.

So the ladies feeling sad, I was in ICU for 2 months, and my DH would get off in my room or at the end of the hall because "looking at me" made him horny. Just be glad you don't have an over horny guy lol

No. I understand that sometimes he isn't in the mood for sex and he is always understanding when I'm not in the mood for sex.

If he isn't crying when I turn him down, I shouldn't be crying when he turns me down.

It makes me feel horrible. I haven't done well with losing the baby weight and I know that is an issue. I think he does it because he feels like he has to. But he's told me that sex isnt a big deal anymore. Umm, ok. What guy says that>>>

Quoting carrie113:" It makes me feel horrible. I haven't done well with losing the baby weight and I know that is an issue. ... [snip!] ... it because he feels like he has to. But he's told me that sex isnt a big deal anymore. Umm, ok. What guy says that>>>"

 
Your weight shouldn't be a problem.
I mean, if it is a problem he should communicate with you and tell you he would like you to lose weight.

It could be that you need to spice the sex up a bit as well. Try different positions and talking dirty to him etc.

He has told me. He's not mean about it, but he has said that he wouldnt mind me losing some weight. He said he wants me to do it for me, but I know its for him. Im sure we would be having more sex if I was thinner.
Ive tried different things to make it hotter and he seems to have no interest. He always says he's tired  

Quoting carrie113:" He has told me. He's not mean about it, but he has said that he wouldnt mind me losing some weight. He ... [snip!] ... if I was thinner. Ive tried different things to make it hotter and he seems to have no interest. He always says he's tired  "

Oh wow.
Not to be rude but your husband should love your for who you are. Accept your body the way it is.

Child labor is not an easy thing at all. Smurf, I gained a TON of weight from my son and he's 3 years old now. It took me a LONG time to actually lose all of this weight.
My SO isn't my childs father but he accepted my body for the way it was because he knew I had a child.

Tell your SO how you feel. Explain to him that losing that weight isn't as easy as he thinks it may be.

I will, thanks for the advice. Its nice to have support. He's a gym rat and loves to workout, so I dont think he understands that its really hard for me. Our daughter is 9 months old and Im ready to lose this weight for sure!

Quoting carrie113:" I will, thanks for the advice. Its nice to have support. He's a gym rat and loves to workout, so I dont ... [snip!] ... dont think he understands that its really hard for me. Our daughter is 9 months old and Im ready to lose this weight for sure!"

No problem! PM me if you ever need someone to talk too.

If you're ready and WANT to lose weight, then start a diet, make a plan, have SO help you out.
But if you are comfortable with yourself, your SO should be too.

It does hurt my feelings, but I too am an overthinker!

I always feel like it's my fault that he doesn't want to. Maybe I look ugly? Too fat? Don't do it good enough?