re: How old were you....

Quoting Callista Hall-Confere:" I agree with you 100% All my friends who got married at 18, 19 and were only together a year or so are all divorced. DH and I are glad we waited so long."

us too! Not to say that it cant work if you dont wait. Cause i know lots of people that have had it work, mostly older people like my inlaws and stuff... But i know it can work...i just dont see if often anymore.
me and hubby were together for 5 years before we got engaged...then engaged for 2, and have been married 2.5 now.  

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" I feel like you are reading my mind lol...mind if I PT you?"

Lol go ahead! I know exactly how you feel. Everyone told me it was stupid to not have major goals in my life about school, career, etc. But my goal was to be a wife and mommy and I'm pretty good at both of those things so  

Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Wow.. A LOT of 19 yr olds! I was 24."

 

My parents were paying for my college and wouldn't have done so if I got married. That was incentive enough for me not to but it's a good thing I didn't because when I think of boyfriends I had at the time...*shudder*

I got married 2 days before my 31st birthday, and I acted more like 16.
Then again, dh and I met when we were 15, and over 20 years later we still act like a couple of 15-year-old boneheads.
We keep ourselves laughing, so it's not that bad. Maturity is overrated.

I was 18 we have four children and are going on 14 years strong

I got married at 19. We were pregnant with our 2nd child had and had already bought a house. We got married on our 3 year dating anniversary! I feel I was more mature. We had already been living together for over a year when we got married.

ETA: We will be married 4 years in June.

I so read that wrong. Derp. No I felt older.

i guess i'm the only one who didn't give a smurf about the partying stage of life lol. got married august after my 18th bday (may) and 2013 we will be married for 6 years.

I was 22, and I felt I was ready for where I was in life. It was nice got I some of that I'm 21 and go out and be dumb for a little while.

Quoting Heather ♥:" i guess i'm the only one who didn't give a smurf about the partying stage of life lol. got married august after my 18th bday (may) and 2013 we will be married for 6 years."

I'm with ya there! I didn't feel the need to party either.

Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:" Lol go ahead! I know exactly how you feel. Everyone told me it was stupid to not have major goals in ... [snip!] ... in my life about school, career, etc. But my goal was to be a wife and mommy and I'm pretty good at both of those things so  "

I graduate in May of 2014, and we will be getting married in August of 2014. I made my mother a promise when I was a teenager that she would see my name on a college degree before she saw it on a birth certificate, and I meant that. But at some point I have to stop living my life doing all the smurf she never got to do ....its nerve wrecking.

I was 20 and he was 31. I definitely felt older. I had already raised my younger brother and sister. My mom had gotten back custody of them 2 years before I got married. We met in Paramedic school. Now Im a stay at home mom, DH has an amazing job with good money. I feel like im 30 instead of 21! I dont hangout with friends, dont party, dont drink (only wine and champagne at company parties). I take care of the baby, balance budgets, clean the house, take care of MIL, iron clothes, and sort recipes for taxes...
What 21 year old beggs for a new vacuum for Christmas. ME! LOL

Quoting Heather ♥:" i guess i'm the only one who didn't give a smurf about the partying stage of life lol. got married august after my 18th bday (may) and 2013 we will be married for 6 years."

i never did the partying stage. I was never a drinker or a partyer...I have more fun now that im older than i ever did when i was 18 and in my early 20's. I think the older we get the funner we get and can do it with class as well! LOL

Quoting *Lindsey*(12 weeks):" us too! Not to say that it cant work if you dont wait. Cause i know lots of people that have had it ... [snip!] ... anymore. me and hubby were together for 5 years before we got engaged...then engaged for 2, and have been married 2.5 now.  "

Us too!! Well I was 15 he was 18 when we got together. We will be together 10 years in May just had our first baby in March. We got to enjoy each other for a while which was nice too. Definitely don't see it anymore.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:</b>" If its not asking too much....what do you feel was lacking or different about your first marriage that made it come to an end?"</blockquote>



Well, first of all, he was my flight instructor in college and that is the main thing we had in common. That and the fact that he practically worshiped the ground I walked on.
After we were married for a while I realized that a.) I was far more intelligent than he b.) Outside of aviation we had very little in common c.) I felt pretty alone a lot of the time, but thought that this was normal.


I still had the'glass half full" outlook and was a good wife. Went above and beyond to mesh well and make him happy.


He ended up cheating on me and would have been content to continue doing so had I not caught him.



Even though I was mature and knew what it took to make a relationship work, I hadn't lived enough to fully know what I wanted out of life. Not many people really do until they've lived SEVERAL years out in the real world as an adult. (I had lived alone since 18, but some life experiences take time).