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I wouldn't want it until I was married

Ex SO (not LOs Bio dad) and I were together from the time he was a few months old for about 2 years. He started calling him papi (ex SO spoke a lot of Spanish w him)

When we broke up it made me even more sad when LO would ask for papi or where's daddy. I think next time I wouldn't want it unless I was getting married. Just in my situation though.

It depends really. How long I was with the person....this is odd but my 10 yr old calls my dad, dad or Poppa whichever she decides atm.

Her dad was never around really, sees him 4 times a year tops. When she was about 4 she asked him if she could call him dad, and we said if she wanted too. Its been the only male role model in her life since she was 1 years old.

Its different then a SO, but whatever. lol

As long as you aren't forcing the child to call him daddy I don't see a problem. If he is more of a dad or just as much a dad as his bio one I don't see the problem.

It would depend on how HE felts about it. At one time, I was dating someone who would have made an amazing father to LO. If we would have stayed together and she wanted to call him daddy, I would have been overjoyed. My current boyfriend? Not so much. We aren't serious and he does not want to take any responsibility for her, possibly ever.

<blockquote><b>Quoting crazy coupon lady:</b>" It depends really. How long I was with the person....this is odd but my 10 yr old calls my dad, dad or ... [snip!] ... too. Its been the only male role model in her life since she was 1 years old. Its different then a SO, but whatever. lol"</blockquote>


This too. My LO is 4 now and calls my dad, dad. But we live with my parents so its not too surprising. All he ever hears anyone call him is dad, So he picked up on it.

I didn't encourage it.

My daughter wrote a note to my (now) husband when she was 7 and asked if she could call him "Dad".

For a couple of years, she went back and forth between his name and dad, now she really only uses dad.

I would wait until you are together a long time, also talk about it with your ex (if you have a relationship). Put yourself in his position, would you want another person being called "mom"?

my DS calls my SO daddy! but he doesnt know his real dad and SO has been with me since my son was 2 and hes 6 now it all depends on ur situation!

I'd want it to be a serious relationship and the guy to be comfortable with that as well.

Quoting A&J. ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting crazy coupon lady:</b>" It depends really. How long I was with ... [snip!] ... dad. But we live with my parents so its not too surprising. All he ever hears anyone call him is dad, So he picked up on it."

Same here.

When her dad left us and we had no place to go I moved to my parents for a few years, then we moved out just after she turned 4, it was hard onher, she is super close to him. When my now 4 yr old was born we moved back here lol then moved out when she was two. lol

I had my 3rd in Feb 2012 and we moved back here again, they begged me too, lol so yeah, he basically is her father (not in a creepy way tho) lol

They are so close, even my 4 yr old is really close with him, they fight over his attention all the time. lol Tatyana (10 yr old) is jealous when her sister spends time with him. lol

Quoting Olive ♥:" Say you're not with your LO's real father. You have a SO, and your LO wants to call him daddy. When would ... [snip!] ... is so new. I don't think I'll be comfortable with that until we're married.. or maybe engaged.. What do you ladies think?!"

how long have yall been together?? you just met his daughter 4 days ago so id wait until yall have been together a ouple of years or are married .. my ds started calling my dh dad a year after we were together

Ds keeps trying to call so dad, I'm not okay with it yet. We just correct him, airbrush it off. We're waiting until he's old enough to understand, at least another year or so.

I dated a guy for the first year of my daughters life and we ended up breaking up... she ALWAYS called him daddy though because he had a five year old and that's all she ever heard. Luckily, she was so young she doesn't remember him. I'm glad she doesn't. That would be so hard to explain.

It depends on how serious the relationship is, and how willing your SO is to take on that role, as well as how active the bio father is in the child's life. Example, my husband is daddy to my daughter. He was there for my pregnancy, he was there when she was born, he has been there since. Providing financially, love, comfort, anything and everything a father typically does plus more. Her biological father has never done a damn thing for her and saw her once for 20 minutes the day after she was born. So in this case, yes, she will call him daddy and she does. she loves him very much. If we weren't in a serious relationship, I wouldn't allow it until we were.