I don't know how to help him.

My SO is a drug addict. He has been for a couple years now. His problem has always been with prescription pills. Now, I knew this before we started dating but I was under the impression that he had stopped using. He got arrested about two years ago on a drug charge and went to jail for 30 days + 60 days in rehab. At the time, he didn't want to get clean. He only went to rehab because it got him out of jail, basically just thought it was all BS. Recently, he confided in me that he started using again. I kept my cool with him and tried to see if this time he really wants help. I asked him if he was going to do something about this issue in his life and he said he is going to sometime soon. The problem is we just don't know where to start. He hates talking about his problem which I understand however, I feel like that's going to hinder his recovery. I just hate seeing him like this. What am I supposed to say to him? How should I act? If he truly wants to get better, what should our first step be? I just hate seeing him go through this. He's so sweet. By looking at him, there's absolutely no way you would be able to tell that he uses. I love him and just want him to get better.

Quoting BG Secrets:" My SO is a drug addict. He has been for a couple years now. His problem has always been with prescription ... [snip!] ... looking at him, there's absolutely no way you would be able to tell that he uses. I love him and just want him to get better."

There is nothing you can do to help an addict get better.. They have to want sobriety and want it BAD ENOUGH that they are willing to WORK for it/at it! It's not for wussies, that's for sure...
I'm sorry... 

There is nothing you can do unless he wants help. And if he in fact does contact a professional.

Quoting S U Z I E:" There is nothing you can do to help an addict get better.. They have to want sobriety and want it BAD ... [snip!] ... and want it BAD ENOUGH that they are willing to WORK for it/at it! It's not for wussies, that's for sure... I'm sorry... "

He admits that he definitely wants/needs help. I just wish there was something I can do to help him make it easier.

If he truley wants help, he will no longer say sometime soon. When is the best time for anyone really. People will say oh I have work, the kids I need to do this first etc...and then they continue and get deeper into the problem till its too late....

The best thing to do is make him realize what he can loose if he does not get help for it. Meaning is family. Its tough love for a reason, and it may sound mean and all. But its the truth.

Its hard for someone to watch another go through it, but its harder for the one going through it. But since he came to you, I think he may want you to help him get better.

Quoting BG Secrets:" He admits that he definitely wants/needs help. I just wish there was something I can do to help him make it easier."

Unfortunately there isn't...

Let him know that you will be there for him and do whatever it takes to get through it TOGETHER. Let him know how happy you are that hes letting you help him face these demons instead of pushing you away. Maybe a move is needed. I went through something similar and we had to move away from the situation. Pills are so easy to get and so hard to say no to once your hooked. Help him make his life happy. People use them as a escape..to be numb to their surroundings. He has to love his life so much that he doesn't want to be numb to it. ..I know you both can get through this

.addiction = disease...Buckle up its gona be a bumpy ride full of ups and downs. The ups are gonna be wonderful and the downs are gonna feel like hell but in the end it will be worth it!

<blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" Unfortunately there isn't..."</blockquote>


My so was a drug addict before I met him. He struggled greatly with alcoholism after we got together. I am happy to say that he is bow completely sober as of 2 years. So it can be done. It helped us to move to another small town 30 minutes away where his friends did not live. He also took up new hobbies. Just be there for him and help him find a good inpatient treatment program

Quoting BareFootBabyMaker:" Let him know that you will be there for him and do whatever it takes to get through it TOGETHER. Let ... [snip!] ... of ups and downs. The ups are gonna be wonderful and the downs are gonna feel like hell but in the end it will be worth it!"

Thanks so much for the advice. A move is actually in the process right now so I'm glad to hear that's a good thing!