Sorry I need to vent!!! TTC issues!

First before I vent. Sorry if I offend anyone or make anyone angry ok. Well here goes.

Lil bit of back story. Me and my husband had been trying to get pregnant. Well finally happened last year. I was 16 weeks when I found out I miscarried our angel. Well since then we've been trying our asses off to get pregnant. I don't mean obsessing about it but really just doing what we did before and still nothing. I've done the whole opk thing and had sex around fertile time. Still nothing. January will make a year of nothing. I did have issues along the way which may have hindered me getting preggo but my body is good now. What really pisses me off is the ones who aren't trying to get preggo or can't or won't take care of the kids they have go and get pregnant again. Like my cousin. She hits her 5 year old for the littlest things and now she's preggo again with another girl. She sends her daughter across the street everyday so she don't have to deal with her (my aunt, her mom lives across the street). Well another friend just had their baby. Two other girls on my fb had theirs and one on my facebook is expecting This one can't even hold a job nor can her bf. But yet they can get pregnant and have their babies. So why can't we. We both work, take care of our responsibilities, I go to school online, we don't party drink or smoke, and we're both committed to each other in a way I've never seen two people do in a relationship. But yet we can't get pregnant again for smurf. UUGGHH! Sorry for the long vent. This is the only place I can do it where people understand.

When you stop trying, it will happen.

Stressing about it will do nothing but make it harder and make you resent others for having their children.

i totally get it took us 8 years and for the those 8 years every time someone got pregnant it broke a little bit of me away, it's normal ur normal xx

i getupset about this stuff too. i want anlther kid and i get super jealous about other people who don't want their kids or who have such easy pregnancies yet they smoke/drink/get high while pregnant and i try to not do anything to hurt the baby ever and yet i have horrible pregnancies and i have been told basically by the doctor that its not a good idea for me to not have more kids b/c of how bad the pregnancies are. its just upsetting to me, so i totally get where you are coming from.

It has only been since September for us.
But I was thinking the other day how I don't smurfing get it I can be an irresponsible teenager and get knocked up after missing a couple pills and having sex once, with a pot smoking cig smoking drink all the time smurf head.
And 4 years later I track my cycles have have an overwhelming amount of sex during fertile time and here I am on Cycle 4. lol Smurf doesn't make sense to me either, but I shouldn't bitch because it hasn't been that long.

I completely get what you are saying though!

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" When you stop trying, it will happen. Stressing about it will do nothing but make it harder and make you resent others for having their children."

I already resent them. I just want to bawl my eyes out everytime I see this on fb. I don't want to delete them since I either went to school with them or they're good friends but I can't be happy for them either. It sucks. I really haven't stressed too much about the baby part but for a few months I didn't ovulate and I got frustrated with my body not acting like it should. I just recently started ovulating again so all those months of trying were wasted because my body decided to act stupid.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katie & Clay's Mommy!:</b>" First before I vent. Sorry if I offend anyone or make anyone angry ok. Well here goes. Lil bit of back ... [snip!] ... can't get pregnant again for smurf. UUGGHH! Sorry for the long vent. This is the only place I can do it where people understand."</blockquote>




I say the same things!!! I can relate & agree.
It's been over a year since I lost my last baby & had endo removed & no such luck..... Now days we try i'm not stressing any more i'm trying to ok" with the possibility of not having another. My mind/heart are just coping.

Quoting Katie & Clay's Mommy!:" I already resent them. I just want to bawl my eyes out everytime I see this on fb. I don't want to delete ... [snip!] ... I just recently started ovulating again so all those months of trying were wasted because my body decided to act stupid."

Do you have PCOS?

Maybe try clomid?

Quoting one of each 4 me:" i getupset about this stuff too. i want anlther kid and i get super jealous about other people who don't ... [snip!] ... to not have more kids b/c of how bad the pregnancies are. its just upsetting to me, so i totally get where you are coming from."

Wow I"m sorry you're having such a hard time of it. I just hope if and when you do get pregnant again this time it won't be hard for you. I had pretty easy pregnancies myself with the 2 I have now and the one I lost. I didn't have a long pregnancy this last time since I lost him at 16 weeks but in that time I barely had symptoms. Since our loss though my husband is completely different. He's mean sometimes now. I know he's hurting but I think he needs to come out with his feelings. I'm thinking that could be the cause of our fertility issues too. His frustrations are getting in the way and it's lowering his fertility.

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Do you have PCOS? Maybe try clomid?"

One doc suggested I had it because I had a 5.6cm cyst on my right ovary that needed to be removed. But the doc who did my surgery said she can't see how I can have it but she won't say I don't unless she does hormone level testing which I had done before my surgery and all of those tests came out normal. She went over it all at my checkup and she said my ovaries are clear and my uterus looks fine too. I'm a bit heavy but I was the same weight as last year when I got pregnant. I may finally decide to see if losing 5-10 lbs might help.

Quoting [JadeLee]:" It has only been since September for us. But I was thinking the other day how I don't smurfing get it ... [snip!] ... make sense to me either, but I shouldn't bitch because it hasn't been that long. I completely get what you are saying though!"

Yea I get what you're saying. Even though it hasn't been that long for you when you are wanting it then it can seem like a lifetime. I know we may need to get some things worked out before we bring a baby in the world but the things we need to work out are not that difficult. It would be like babysitting duty while we work, you know stuff like that. My job has maternity leave and my husband have medical at his job so that isn't a problem. With the compnay he has the insurance with we can have income coming in while I'm out on maturnity. He joined AFLAC. So I mean we aren't that bad off. He don't make a lot of money. He makes minimum wage but we get our bills paid and we're comfortable.

Quoting Miss. Tiff:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Katie & Clay's Mommy!:</b>" First before I vent. Sorry if I ... [snip!] ... we try i'm not stressing any more i'm trying to ok" with the possibility of not having another. My mind/heart are just coping."

Wow that sucks. When did you lose the last baby? It made a year yesterday for us. I think that is where my husband's attitude came from yesterday even though he didn't say anything. I didn't bring it up to him either. It's still so painful to talk about with him. Last time I brought it up it actually helped him because he let it all out. He cried finally. Since that day he's been better towards my son (previous marriage) and in general. But he hit a hard patch yesterday. So did the doctor say you can't have anymore or it's a slim to none chance?

Quoting Katie & Clay's Mommy!:" One doc suggested I had it because I had a 5.6cm cyst on my right ovary that needed to be removed. But ... [snip!] ... heavy but I was the same weight as last year when I got pregnant. I may finally decide to see if losing 5-10 lbs might help."

That what I did. I didnt have many cysts, but my hormone levels are a bit out of wack. As soon as I lost around 20 lbs, I got pregnant four months after. I didnt have my cycle for a loooong time, too.

Some tips... Have sex every other day the closer you get to ovulating. Have SO not take such hot showers, you need to take very warm showers, try orgasming at the same time as SO, then masturbate right after. Lay with your legs up for 5 minutes.
^^Just some stuff I follow from reading up things.

Your time will come, hun. ((hugs))

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" That what I did. I didnt have many cysts, but my hormone levels are a bit out of wack. As soon as I ... [snip!] ... Lay with your legs up for 5 minutes. ^^Just some stuff I follow from reading up things. Your time will come, hun. ((hugs))"

We already do the every other night stuff. Plus the closer to ovulation I get we do it in the morning since that is when a man's levels are at their highest. I lay in bed for about 15 minutes with my legs closed tight and lay on my side so it don't leak out. His showers aren't too hot, they're the right temp for him at least. I rather a kinda warm shower his are close to hot. My cycles are pretty much normal per say. I see AF every month just some of those months they were late due to not ovulating. When I got preggo the first time we had started walking every day around the house and up and down the driveway. Now I work 5 days a week so I'm always walking and on my feet so I get exercise right there. I just don't know anymore. If we're not preggo by February he and I are gonna go get a complete workup. Both of our levels will be checked.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katie & Clay's Mommy!:</b>" Wow that sucks. When did you lose the last baby? It made a year yesterday for us. I think that is where ... [snip!] ... and in general. But he hit a hard patch yesterday. So did the doctor say you can't have anymore or it's a slim to none chance?"</blockquote>




I had found out in early Oct 2011 the baby had passed. This Oct I had endo removed. The Dr didn't say what my chances are but I know with each passing month my endo is coming back with each period, literally.