Husband Issues!

Ok, so im on the verge of losing my mind! I love my husband to death, we have been married for almost 2 years, we have 4 kids total, i have two from a previous relationship, he has one from a previous relationship, and we have a 8 month old together. He works full time during the week, i work from home during the week and im a server on Saturdays. My problem is that he plays video games from the time he gets home till he goes to bed, with a break to shower and eat, he never helps me around the house, and has never, not once, gotten up in the night with our daughter, even when i was still in the hospital after a c-section, i still had to get up with her. My other problem is he has his friends over for "gaming parties" every weekend, Friday-Sunday. And guess who gets to clean up after these parties, ME! He never spends time with me. Our car is broke at the moments, so we cant go anywhere, but i dont think it would make a difference. Im losing my mind, and really thinking about leaving for a unknown amount of days to maybe get it threw his head, but i think he would just play games, the only time he shows interest in me is if he wants sex. I dont know what to do, i do not believe in divorce. Advice please.....anything!!!

He sounds like s 15 yearold.

Doesn't sound like a very equal relationship. Tell him you are not his mother and to help you more, or he's getting swift kick to the nuts.

You need to tell him how you feel. I had the same problem and I finally got aggravated and left for a few hours (97 hours) when I got home he had gotten the idea and sold the play station.   Please remember this doesn't work for every idiot.

I'd tell him if he doesn't stop acting like a 15 year old and help with the kids and the house I would be like

My boyfriend is the same way with the video games..it drives me crazy. He ignores the cries of his son because he is busy playing a game and I have to ask him multiple times to help me with something (ex taking out the trash). I end up doing it all because I get tired of waiting. Im about to throw the damn Playstation out the window!

I am somewhat in the same situation, except, my SO has ansomnia so he is up at night to keep an eye on our son. I wake up every 1.5-3 hours to feed him (he's EBF). But anyways, our car is broken down. SO got laid off months ago, has an application sitting on our dresser that he has not touched, and acts like he over works himself. When really, he sleeps all day because he is up all night. Therefor, he does have a regular sleeping schedule. But like I said, he acts like it's such a big accomplishment that he stays up all night playing video games, changed our son when he wakes up to feed & then I get up & do the rest plus care for him during the day. He is a good daddy, don't get me wrong. But his lack of motivation is pissing me off. I know exactly how you feel about wanting to leave for a few days.

Sounds a lot like my Fiance at the moment.
It is friggen 2am and I am close to bawling my eyes out I just want some love and attention from him.
I found threatening to leave works.
Apart from that I don't know.
I've already threatened to leave twice, so my next big blow up I guess I'm going to have to actually leave for a while to get it through his head!

Sit down with him, and communicate without yelling or pointing fingers. If you need to make a chore chart for both of you splitting up the work. Even include an hour or two for him to do video games as well as time for yourself. Be direct, yet calm, about what you want him to do. Then allow him to do the same, without interrupting. You both need to communicate better it sounds like.

Quoting Colton's Mommy ♥:" I am somewhat in the same situation, except, my SO has ansomnia so he is up at night to keep an eye on ... [snip!] ... get me wrong. But his lack of motivation is pissing me off. I know exactly how you feel about wanting to leave for a few days."

This is exactly like my boyfriend! Sleeps all day and up all night...except Im still the one getting up out of bed to feed the baby because his eyes are glued to the TV

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly-Ann Louise:</b>" Sounds a lot like my Fiance at the moment. It is friggen 2am and I am close to bawling my eyes out I ... [snip!] ... to leave twice, so my next big blow up I guess I'm going to have to actually leave for a while to get it through his head!"</blockquote>




Threatening to leave only works once or twice and then they see that you really aren't going to do it. OP, I would sit down and put all your feelings out there and if that doesn't work, I would leave.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jacqui416:</b>" This is exactly like my boyfriend! Sleeps all day and up all night...except Im still the one getting up out of bed to feed the baby because his eyes are glued to the TV"</blockquote>

I swear if my Fiance wants to pull this same smurf when our daughter is born, I will leave for good!
Whats the point in being with someone when you feel like you're alone and single with them.

Destroy (or sell) the gaming system.

Quoting Liam + 37 weeks!:" Destroy (or sell) the gaming system."

Please do not do that. That is very immature and will just cause a huge fight. Honestly, talk to him. Plan a couple hours for him to play, as well as couple hours for yourself. My husband and I both get me time even with two young ones. We also split up the housework, and do one-on-one time with each child. It's easy to do once you two set it up.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Clk:</b>" Please do not do that. That is very immature and will just cause a huge fight. Honestly, talk to him. ... [snip!] ... two young ones. We also split up the housework, and do one-on-one time with each child. It's easy to do once you two set it up."</blockquote>




To each their own. I told my husband when he bought our xbox that if games interfered with our family I would introduce the Xbox to our .40
But thats just me.