Pregnant again after 4 months, need advice!

My son is four months old and we found out recently that I'm pregnant again. I'm scared I can not be a good mother and give them the attention they both deserve trying to parent two babies under 12 months. I always wanted a sibling for my son but not this soon! I'm looking for mothers who have been threw a similar experience and could give me some advice. Thanks ladies

unless the new one comes early you won't have 2 under 12 months. my oldest 2 are 10 months apart. it was rough as a single parent but it was worth it!

<blockquote><b>Quoting :</b>" unless the new one comes early you won't have 2 under 12 months. my oldest 2 are 10 months apart. it was rough as a single parent but it was worth it!"</blockquote>




She would have to already be over four weeks to have found out so yes they would be.

Hi, I have not been in the same situation but my younger sister has, she got pregnant three months after her first (planned that way)and three months after her second (her third was not planned).
My sister did struggle as my BIL worked shifts and both my parents and her MIL all still worked full time so she pretty much had to do it all on her own.
She said it was hard, she didnt really leave the house very often after her third she is a super organised person and very strickt with routine so she always looked cool and calm even though she was tired .
She swears that the routine she created and stuck to for her and the kids is what kept her sane.

I got preg with Maks, when Jade turned 1 year...
I know that's not as close as ur babies will be, but if ur babys 4 months now, they will be about 14 months apart?? It might not be so bad, u get into a routine with them, the older baby will be learning how to play by themselves, and u get to tend to the lil 1 a lil more...
Like right now Jade just turned 3, and Maks is 15 months and they drive me crazy, but its do-able...
I treat them like twins when Jades home all day, *she usually goes to learning academy 3-4 day a week since she was 2 1/2 ish... but when I have them both at home, they shower togther, eat together, put them down for naps together, play together, fight with eachother...

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I will be 6 weeks on Monday so thinking they will be exactly 12 months apart. I know i will be fine as I have great family support system but the fear and anxiousness I'm having is clouding what should be an amazing time

<blockquote><b>Quoting Xosnugxo:</b>" I will be 6 weeks on Monday so thinking they will be exactly 12 months apart. I know i will be fine ... [snip!] ... fine as I have great family support system but the fear and anxiousness I'm having is clouding what should be an amazing time"</blockquote>




I understand, it was the worst thing that could have happened when it did, I had ppp after I had Jade and was on meds, I had the mirena in also, so on top of being preg, no1 could tell me if the baby was going to be *ok* I cried maybe every other night from finding out at 5 weeks 5 days till I was between 4-5 months, I wanted another baby but never that close I was so upset and felt cheated...
I have a very close family, so I knew I would have tons of help and support, and just a lil of that goes a long way...

Quoting jo-jo:" Hi, I have not been in the same situation but my younger sister has, she got pregnant three months after ... [snip!] ... even though she was tired . She swears that the routine she created and stuck to for her and the kids is what kept her sane."

routines really help and so does being organzied...i am slacking in the organized department right now, but i know when i get further along and nesting instincts kick in, it will all come back..

OP.. its not that bad. i have a 4 year old, 2 year old, and 1 year old and I babysit a 4-5month old during the week. Its tough. but do able. i can still get on BG, and when both babies nap i can clean up and stuff.. sometimes even sneak in a little nap with the big girls and we all sleep. good luck! its not too bad, it takes a couple months for life to start to feel "normaL" again after having a new baby

I was in that situation before. I got pregnant when my son was four months, at first I was freaking out because I was only 18. Then I started to get excited and when I went to the ultrasound at 8 weeks there wasn't a baby just a sac so I had to have a DNC. I kinda blame myself for it cuz I was going tanning and I believe that's probably why it never grew into a baby. After that all I wanted to do was get pregnant. And after a chemical pregnancy I got pregnant with my daughter. And now Im pregnant again. Sorry for this long comment lol what Im trying to say is I've been there....kinda lol

I am in the same situation that you are right now. I got pregnant 6 months after I had my baby girl. I was and still are worry from time to time specially my 12 month old being developmentally delay but now that my son is coming I would not have it any other way! I know it would be hard but I am really exited that my kids are going to be close together and have so many things in comond.

I had my two boys 12 months and 12 days apart...it was rough for me simply because I had a one year old and a new baby in the NICU. Either my parents or my in laws would take my oldest so I could go to the hospital to be with the new baby. As long as you have great family support it will help a lot. I'm pregnant with my third my parents are taking my two older ones when I go in to have this baby. You will do great though and never be afraid to ask for help.