My marriage sucks...

Its been 7 years. I am pregnant with our 5th child. I am at a loss anymore. My husband hardly shows me love anymore. We have sex but we dont look at each other or acknowledge that we are having sex with each other. Having sex is the only time we ever touch each other. And I know its because he just wants pussy, to get off. He doesnt want to have sex with ME, he just doesnt have a choice. Im fat and gross.... he doesnt love me. He says he does, but I can tell he doesnt. When I try to give him kisses, or come up and make out with him and snuggle and stuff, he doesnt want it, he makes up some excuse to go do something, or go smoke a cigg. But he says I never give him attention when I try. For instance we were just hanging out and on the couch, I ran and took a quick 5 min shower.. come back and he is on xbox.. i practically have my tits hanging out all over and he isnt interested.....its so over, I can tell. I know he knows.. but for some reason he keep on holding on and keep pretending we are a happy family when we arent. He snaps at the kids and cusses around them. so much so my 5 year old says SmUrf whenever I discipline her. I get on him all the time about his launguage.. and he just "doesnt give a smurf" I hate it. He doesnt care. Its embaressing when Im out in public and my kid just yells smurf really loud and I dont even curse really. I just wish we could be happy. We try dates, but we sit there in silence with nothing to talk about. It is so lame. I wish I wasnt pregnant. I didnt want this baby but birth control failed, and I can abort, something I just cant do. Im just down in the dumps. I want to be happy,and In love, and Im not. This is really a vent more than anything to get it out, maybe make me feel better.

I wish I had some words of wisdom, but unfortunately, I don't. I hope things get better for you. Have you tried counseling?

oh wow, this sounds so sad :-(

my husband and I have been married for 8 years, and we have managed to keep the love, romance, and spark in our relationship. it isnt always "easy" and definitely takes work!!!

if you're fat, you're fat... but girl, you should work on that. if you were sexy and fit and your husband was a fat slob, how would you feel? you would probably be a little upset that you can keep up with your body and your husband doesnt care enough about you/him to keep his up. im not saying that's your biggest problem, but im sure its part of the problem.

start slow with him... do things you used to do at the start of your relationship. sounds like you definitely need some quality time ALONE just the two of you.

good luck.

its not "over" -- give it time... try some things.

You deserve better than that. You shouldn't exist in a loveless relationship just because neither of you can be bothered to do anything about it. You should try talking to him about it. Ask whether it's what he wants and if it's not, take a break. See how it feels to live independently for a bit. If you don't feel good in your own skin, you should try to improve something about yourself. Go and get a haircut or buy some new clothes. You deserve to feel good about yourself!

I am so sorry, is there anywhere you can go? Even if you just took a week or two away to think through some things?

your pregnant with your 5th kid no one expects you to look like a Victoria secret model..i just had my 4th and I am definitely in good shape either but I try. Maybe you just need to get a hobby to get you out of the house to make you feel better about yourself?

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" oh wow, this sounds so sad :-( my husband and I have been married for 8 years, and we have managed to ... [snip!] ... definitely need some quality time ALONE just the two of you. good luck. its not "over" -- give it time... try some things. "

shes pregnant with her 5th kid in 7 years. dont be a bitch k?

Quoting Ailey+Lennon+Renner's Mom:" shes pregnant with her 5th kid in 7 years. dont be a bitch k?"

THIS.


Goddamn. Be a little sensitive.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" oh wow, this sounds so sad :-( my husband and I have been married for 8 years, and we have managed to ... [snip!] ... definitely need some quality time ALONE just the two of you. good luck. its not "over" -- give it time... try some things. "

uh...love is about being in love with the person, not their body. don't be a smurfing smurf.
"you should work on" your advice.
jesus.