Wanting another baby for all the wrong reasons!

I just had a baby in August so it won't be for a looooong time yet (plus i want a bigger house and new car first!) but I already have the urge for another baby and I think it's all for the wrong reasons. My SO isn't on board with another baby, it would be our 4th. I don't feel like it will pass because I'm disappointed in myself with how things went last time which is why I want to have another one, so I can do everything I wanted to do with Aura but never did. I think about it constantly and even talk about "when we have another baby..." I have my names picked out and even when to start ttc so I can hopefully have a march/April baby!!
Obviously my baby will be very much loved (I'm a real baby person, love babies!) , but I just feel like its for all the wrong reasons not because I actually *want* another baby.
 

I just had a baby in march. I have extreme baby fever every month around the same time I ovulate. I've told my husband to absolutely not give in till next fall. My main reason is so Matilda will have a playmate which seems wrong to me. But I think everyone goes through baby fever.

It's more than baby fever. It's not the baby I want, its the other things that I didn't do but wanted and now it's too late.
I've had baby fever. This is a different feeling, like I'm upset at myself things didn't go the way I wanted because I was weak and gave up easy, so I have to try again? I'm not really sure how to explain it

Gave up with what? I just checked out your profile and your youngest is only 4 or 5 months, so there can't be that much you missed out on with her yet unless it's pregnancy related?

I dont think those are really "wrong" reasons... To me "wrong" reasons are because you want money from the govt, or because you want someone to love you, or because you think it will save a relationship, ect. That being said I would still wait it out to make sure it is really what you want. Try to focus on what you need to do so you can start TTC. You said you want a different car, so start doing whatever it is you have to do to get your different car. Then when you accomplish that, start working towards a bigger house. If once you have done all that, you still want to TTC atleast you will be ready.

<blockquote><b>Quoting hobbit*:</b>" It's more than baby fever. It's not the baby I want, its the other things that I didn't do but wanted ... [snip!] ... didn't go the way I wanted because I was weak and gave up easy, so I have to try again? I'm not really sure how to explain it"</blockquote>


You want a redo, yeh? Have a clean slate, accomplish important personal goals you didn't achieve before?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" Gave up with what? I just checked out your profile and your youngest is only 4 or 5 months, so there can't be that much you missed out on with her yet unless it's pregnancy related?"</blockquote>



Well 1) I gave up bfing at 5 weeks because it was "too hard" when it brutally wasn't because I successfully bf'd my first daughter.
And 2) I didn't get the home birth I wanted when I could of, it was so easily in reach for me.

I'm really upset I didn't achieve these things, and I'm jealous of people that do.
I don't know, might seem silly and I don't know why I feel like this to be honest!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:</b>" I dont think those are really "wrong" reasons... To me "wrong" reasons are because you want money from ... [snip!] ... that, start working towards a bigger house. If once you have done all that, you still want to TTC atleast you will be ready."</blockquote>


This is true!! And makes so much sense. And I know that. Lol.
Maybe I have deeper issues making me upset about small things. I don't know lol. I needed to have a vent though because its always on my mind. I eat sleep drink and spend my days and nights thinking and planning what ill do differently.

<blockquote><b>Quoting hobbit*:</b>" It's more than baby fever. It's not the baby I want, its the other things that I didn't do but wanted ... [snip!] ... didn't go the way I wanted because I was weak and gave up easy, so I have to try again? I'm not really sure how to explain it"</blockquote>




I always just assumed that was part of baby fever. I want a baby that I don't have to be induced to have, that comes home and doesn't need to be in nicu so bad!

5 months PP and i also already want another one.

we TTC'd with my beeb for 1 month (lol >.<) and we got our wish come true! I love her more than anything and wouldnt trade her for anything, but now i want a boy lol