Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" Does this mean adoption is out of the question? I am sure there are lot of loving couples who would care ... [snip!] ... with an open adoption you could still possibly be part of the baby's life. Just a thought, not a judgement. Best of luck."
My mother has done both. After giving my brother up for adoption, she spiraled into a very severe depression and other mental health problems for years. She couldn't even be around my daughter because they were about the same age. She wasen't a part of my daughter's life until she was 6 years old because of it. It took over a year of trying different meds and counseling for her to get any semblance of normalcy. Adoption is very very very hard. You need to be incredibly strong to handle it. She has told me numerous times in the last 12 years that if I ever had to make the decision, not to do adoption
Some people just can not handle it. And there are thousands of children already in the foster system needing homes now, so I am sure there aren't too many couples going without right now