re: Im going to do it (AS)

I was in your exact position and I chose abortion.

As I look at my life now and my wonderful 16 year old daughter, I realize I made the best decision for everyone involved.

If you need anything, feel free to PM me.

Thank you for all the support ladies. I couldn't do it without you guys.  

Quoting Unique Mama:" My mother has done both. After giving my brother up for adoption, she spiraled into a very severe depression ... [snip!] ... children already in the foster system needing homes now, so I am sure there aren't too many couples going without right now  "

It was just a question. I have never been in that position and have never know anyone personally to be in that position. This post just got me thinking of the couple who were trying to adopted a little girl from Russia but Russia has now banned Americans from adopting there children. The couple is devastated right now.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:"

I just want to let you know- in the 'AS' or Abortion Survivor's forum, you can't really talk about adoption even if you're not meaning anything by it. They can moderate and remove your comments- you may want to edit your first post in here.

Just giving you a heads up!

wow really? That's kind of weird...

<blockquote><b>Quoting tinana +2:</b>" I just want to let you know- in the 'AS' or Abortion Survivor's forum, you can't really talk about ... [snip!] ... by it. They can moderate and remove your comments- you may want to edit your first post in here. Just giving you a heads up!"</blockquote>




Mentioning adoption is not = to pro life propaganda.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" It was just a question. I have never been in that position and have never know anyone personally to be ... [snip!] ... little girl from Russia but Russia has now banned Americans from adopting there children. The couple is devastated right now. "

I was just letting you know from that perspective, a lot of people don't understand how negatively it could effect someone so I try to get the word out when I can  
Why are they being so picky about where they are adopting from? If they call around they might be able to find some sort of company in the states that has special search engines because I am sure there are people who immigrate here who have to put their children up for adoption as well maybe they'd have luck with that?

Quoting The Blissful Six:" <blockquote><b>Quoting tinana +2:</b>" I just want to let you know- in the 'AS' or ... [snip!] ... first post in here. Just giving you a heads up!"</blockquote> Mentioning adoption is not = to pro life propaganda."

It's not, but her first comment could be taken the wrong way.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" Does this mean adoption is out of the question? I am sure there are lot of loving couples who would care ... [snip!] ... with an open adoption you could still possibly be part of the baby's life. Just a thought, not a judgement. Best of luck."

This isn't the appropriate place for this post. AS is reserved for the support of women making the decision or have made the decision in the past to terminate a pregnancy. Discussions and debates about adoption and keeping the baby are generally frowned upon in this section. (Just an FYI. Stuff like that tends to be misconstrued when well-meaning.   )

oh hun, i completely know where you're at, have been there twice... had 2 abortions that my husband "made" me have, but i didn't do them for him i chose what was best for our children, it's the hardest thing i've ever had to do though and it's the ultimate selfless sacrifice... i won't lie it's haaaaaaaaard, REALLY hard i am struggling so much, but what keeps me going is that i can honestly cross my heart and say i did what i thought was best for MY CHILDREN (not my husband, not ME) at the time...

remember you can keep the appointment but you can change your mind at the last minute, keep thinking it over and make sure you do feel it is the best option for your son at this time, i didn't know 100% whether i would go through with it or not both times right up until the minute they put the IV in my arm

i'm so sorry you are going through this too, if you need to talk to someone who's been there i am always here to listen and am completely willing to answer any questions you may have xx

good luck whatever happens, take care of yourself and your son x x x x

<blockquote><b>Quoting pixie b:</b>" oh hun, i completely know where you're at, have been there twice... had 2 abortions that my husband "made" ... [snip!] ... willing to answer any questions you may have xx good luck whatever happens, take care of yourself and your son x x x x"</blockquote>




Thank you so much. I know it's for the best and I will be a peace with my decision because my son deserves the best.

Also, they should have resources for counseling or group therapy for people, might be good to get info for just in case later you find yourself needing it. While the internet is great, sometimes it's good to have face to face contact with a support network <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting pretty 'n' pink:</b>" I have chosen to have an abortion. it is not an easy decision but thankfully has nothing to do with my ... [snip!] ... child when the time is right and when I have the means to be there for both of them and give them everything they deserve"</blockquote>




I think you're doing what's best for your family. I had one many years ago and don't regret it period. I know it's really hard, but you're looking at the big picture here, which in itself, is a selfless act. Best of luck to you.