re: How do you explain drinking to a non drinker?

Quoting godlovesugly ♥:" Okay, what if you're dating this person?"

No difference. Either he accepts you for who you are or not... And if not well, you know what to do...

Quoting pilot Jess:" It's a social choice that has no inherently evil component. Some people like the taste of wine pairings ... [snip!] ... they want to be that way, I wouldn't be too concerned with trying to sway them. That's probably just the tip of the iceberg."

I have to agree. I don't consider myself a drinker, but I love to have wine with meals and see how they go together/etc. I would really have to think about my relationship with someone if they couldn't see that there was a major difference between having a problem, and just something you occasionally enjoy.

Well if you're dating someone who doesn't agree with your drinking then maybe you both need to re-evaluate your relationship. If a person likes another they will have to accept certain things they do or do not do. I am sure you can respect that he is a non-drinker, he should respect that you do enjoy drinking. As long as you're not some lush who doesn't pay any attention to your kid(s), etc etc...then there's nothing wrong with it. There is such thing as a person who drinks a few to unwind/have fun and not to get crazy 'Jersey Shore' drunk, lol

I wouldn't. I wouldn't associate with such a judgmental person.


I won't say I don't drink because I have and will. I don't like being drunk so I hardly drink at all. I'd rather smoke a bowl and chill.

I would say "To each their own. I like drinking and if you really have a problem with it, then I'm sorry. But im not going to stop doing what I do because someone else don't like"

Quoting Jackie Burkhart ♡:" I wouldn't. I wouldn't associate with such a judgmental person. I won't say I don't drink because ... [snip!] ... I don't drink because I have and will. I don't like being drunk so I hardly drink at all. I'd rather smoke a bowl and chill."

I HATE getting drunk, but I love to have a drink before dinner or with dinner.

If someone was juding me for that-- I would have a huuuuuge issue, for sure.

Quoting godlovesugly ♥:" Okay, what if you're dating this person?"

When I met my SO he had never drank even a sip of alcohol. He didn't judge me for it as far as I know, he didn't like that I occasionally drank but it wasn't a deal. He was never planning on drinking ever but my family invited him over to drink once and I convinced him he should try it. He did and he does it very occasionally but he enjoys it. I would tell the person to not judge about it since he has never tried it. If he has done it a couple times and still doesn't approve I would just say sorry and that's just part of you and what you like.

agree, if your dating this person and they don't "like" what you do then it's something to take a look at in your relationship.
You can't explain why you do the things you do, it's simply the fact you like doing them.
But if you just started to do this drinking after being in the relationship for x amount of time.. then he/she has the right to question it...to a point...

I don't know how to get it in words.

my husband was not a gamer when we dated, well he said he played games, but he never sat in front of a TV and played for hours. After we married, and he joined the army...went to basic and came home...he was a gamer!!! that sits in front of the tv for hours. We had to sit down and talk about it..and come to a happy medium where he likes his new "hobby" and gets to enjoy it, but I don't have to suffer while that is all he does.

Obv your not saying you drink for hours and hours
But maybe he has a past family member who is in alcoholic and he thinks mayve you might be getting there? I don't know how to even bring this type of thing up with some one.

good luck, sorry about the novel lol.

I drank as a teen. And got drunk a couple times. However as soon as my dad died because of drinking too much (he had diabetes and it put him into a diabetic coma, when I was 16) I haven't really drank since. I had a Kahlua thing on my 21st birthday. And then some mixed drink on my 22nd birthday. And nothing since, my birthday is in March.

Thankfully my husband doesn't drink either. For our lives it works.

But I also see it as a big deal. If you guys can't agree on this then it may cause huge problems.

I'm nkf really sure how to help, except to saw that it isn't something you do all the time or have to do. You find it fun and relaxing and even if he can't accept that you hope he respects it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amy♥NOAH♥Pook:</b>" Well if you're dating someone who doesn't agree with your drinking then maybe you both need to re-evaluate ... [snip!] ... with it. There is such thing as a person who drinks a few to unwind/have fun and not to get crazy 'Jersey Shore' drunk, lol"</blockquote>


It's just obnoxious because on Saturdays my son is with my BD overnight so that night I like to let loose a little bit and have a good time. I think drinking heavily one day a week is reasonable. During the week I might have a glass of wine after work because I drink for free.

Quoting godlovesugly ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amy♥NOAH♥Pook:</b>" Well if you're dating someone ... [snip!] ... heavily one day a week is reasonable. During the week I might have a glass of wine after work because I drink for free."

I see nothing wrong with what you do, and he should respect that too!
My husband and I both drink on occasion, my husband might actually have a beer or two every other night...but he certainly still takes care of me and my child.
I drink every so often...Christmas Eve I had a mixed drink. Some weekends(only on a Friday night) my husband and I will go out with a few friends and have a few drinks. My mom lives with us so she is home with our son. We never drink to get drunk...that's certainly something immature to do if you know you'll have to be waking up early the next morning with a child. But since your son is with his father, I don't even see a problem with it. Your bf should loosen up, live a little and have a drink, it's not going to kill him!

<blockquote><b>Quoting godlovesugly ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amy♥NOAH♥Pook:</b>" Well if you're dating someone ... [snip!] ... heavily one day a week is reasonable. During the week I might have a glass of wine after work because I drink for free."</blockquote>




I think drinking 'heavily' one night a week and also drinking after work is a bit excessive to someone who doesn't drink. If he had an issue of you having a glass of wine or a beer every now and then, I'd say he's being obnoxious but, with those circumstances I don't think he's being obnoxious at all.

Quoting godlovesugly ♥:" Okay, what if you're dating this person?"

You don't.


If it's that big of a problem on either end, then I don't see the relationship working.
Always feeling self conscious or always feeling judge wont work and if he sees you as over indulging he will always be hurt when you drink.

Quoting Jackie Burkhart ♡:" <blockquote><b>Quoting godlovesugly ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... beer every now and then, I'd say he's being obnoxious but, with those circumstances I don't think he's being obnoxious at all."

Some people can seemingly handle drinking heavily pretty well, lol. I sure know I can't!! I absolutely know my limit and won't drink over that because honestly, what is fun about going to bed 'spinning' and then waking up the next morning dizzy/headache and sick?