re: Feeling bad about kid's age difference RANT

Quoting snglemama:" my oldest and youngest are 7 years apart... and my closest kids. My baby adores her older brother.. ... [snip!] ... broke and having kids on food stamps that you cannot support. They're far enough apart that they'll get along most of the time."

Thank you, I'm glad your oldest and youngest get along so well!

<blockquote><b>Quoting RushLimbaugh:</b>" That's cool! I love CP esp. since you got Del Taco now! LOL I'm a CA native that's why. I guess I ... [snip!] ... me playing with them, messing up their games, etc... I still don't really talk to them but they are super close to each other. "</blockquote>

I've never been to del taco :-/. I'm out by the mall kinda.

It'll probably be different for your kids. They'll have each other. Even not going to the same school. I want my kids to be atleastttt 3 years apart.

The age gap is amazing. Don't beat yourself up over it. Look at it in a different light. You got to fully enjoy him, just him, for his baby and toddler years. Now he will be off to school soon and you can do the same for this baby while he is in school. My children are 3 years between 1 and 2 and 4 years between 2 and 3. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

My mother gave birth to 4 kids in three years. Me and my brother are not even a full year apart. Yes it was great having siblings close in age but it was also bad too. I am the youngest and by time I came along there was no love or attention left. You look through photo albums and you won't find photos of me as a baby. I grew up resenting my parents for having us close together.

My oldest sister took after our mother, she had 3 kids in 2 years. Her first two are nine months apart. And I see the same things happening to her youngest as what happened to me. No love and attention. His birthday is next week and I am the one getting his cake and buying his presents so he doesn't feel completely forgotten.

On the other hand my other sister had her first child, then five years later came her second, a year later her third was born. The age difference means nothing to those children. The oldest loves her brother and sister and they play together all the time. So in her case waiting was a good thing. Her children were better able to connect to each other because of the age differences.

But I agree that each mother is different and we all have our opinions. I wish you the best of luck and I say if you want another baby after this one then go for it. If not, just love the two kids you already have.

Quoting L&B +1:" My mom's oldest is 4 years older than her youngest and she tells me again and again she never wouldve ... [snip!] ... always control things like that and you will be a lot less stressed only having one little baby at a time lol. Congrats mama! "

Thank you. One of the few things I am proud of myself for doing is at least the other is out of diapers!!!! He pooped in the toilet the other day and it was so awful I thought to myself what if he was still in a diaper, he would have it up his back and down his leg, I'd have to get in there and clean it all out, and me, sensitive to smell as it is. I'm glad I don't have to clean two butts!

<blockquote><b>Quoting awesomebrandi:</b>" Well because each human is different and has different emotions and feelings that are valid. I respect ... [snip!] ... differently. Don't be a smurfing bitch ass about it. I'm glad you like popping out babies like a vending machine, good for you."</blockquote>



 

Quoting Piecey.:" The age gap is amazing. Don't beat yourself up over it. Look at it in a different light. You got to fully ... [snip!] ... while he is in school. My children are 3 years between 1 and 2 and 4 years between 2 and 3. I wouldn't trade it for the world. "

That's really good thinking. We had our son in Germany and I was working part time over there, living on post housing. Then we moved to Texas and had to get our own house and a second car, refrigerator, washer, dryer, basically everything we had provided to us in Germany. That's what messed us up. I'm glad your kids age difference, gives me hope!

Ma kids r gna b 9yrs apart im due jan 30 an ma son is 9 i feel lik dats 2 much 2 have them close in yrs ma son is mor responsible an cnt wait 4 his lil brother 2 b here he wants 2 help when they young they dnt really understand da older da mor aware

Quoting RushLimbaugh:" That's cool! I love CP esp. since you got Del Taco now! LOL I'm a CA native that's why. I guess I ... [snip!] ... me playing with them, messing up their games, etc... I still don't really talk to them but they are super close to each other. "

I went to school with all my siblings and it was horrible. We are nothing alike. I was the book worm they were the wild children. I love my teachers they hated them. I loved school, they just wanted out. But I was always close with them. Even til this day I talk to and see them on a daily basis. I couldn't imagine living away from them. But I would never want to be in school with them again for anything.  

And I would have to say I am closest to my eldest sister. Me and my brother even have the same job. And I use to work with my other sister for many years. All great experiences.

Quoting RushLimbaugh:" Thank you. One of the few things I am proud of myself for doing is at least the other is out of diapers!!!! ... [snip!] ... I'd have to get in there and clean it all out, and me, sensitive to smell as it is. I'm glad I don't have to clean two butts! "

YES! Thats a HUGE plus to having them further apart. My 3 1/2 year old potty trained about 6 months before my 3rd was born....I was freaked about having 3 in diapers haha. 2 is bad enough!! You will save a ton of money that way too...we go through a box every 2 weeks now with 2 in diapers   For a while my 2nd and 3rd would poop together. Id lay them both down and change them, like a freakin factory line. You will be happy to avoid that haha

I wanted mine 4-5 years apart so i could spend seperate time with each as they grow up. And as they start getting older, financially, they will need/want different things at different times (ex one wont have homecoming prom and graduation while the other has drivers ed a car and whatever dance they have that year all to be paid for at once). Also my younger brother is less than two years younger than me and that was a big influence on my decision. I also had PPD with my first so i did not think that i could handle two young children at the same time. Props to all you ladies who have done it!

Quoting MzPrettyBrwnEyez:" Ma kids r gna b 9yrs apart im due jan 30 an ma son is 9 i feel lik dats 2 much 2 have them close in yrs ... [snip!] ... an cnt wait 4 his lil brother 2 b here he wants 2 help when they young they dnt really understand da older da mor aware"

I bet your older one will show the baby how to play sports and all kinds of stuff too!

My oldest two are 2 years apart. They're best friends, but fight like hell. There are 3 1/2 years between numbers two and three. I like that age gap because my second was potty trained and fairly self sufficient and my oldest was in school when I had the baby. Now there are 2 years between the younger two   but the older girls are 7 and 5 and they can be really helpful with both the littler ones. So there are advantages to any age gap, I think.

My kids are 22 months apart. It's hard. Very hard. I wish we'd waited at least another 6 months, maybe a year before we had our second. With a husband working full time and not a lot of help at home, two kids that age was incredibly hard. I think 4 years is just about perfect to me.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" My mother gave birth to 4 kids in three years. Me and my brother are not even a full year apart. Yes ... [snip!] ... best of luck and I say if you want another baby after this one then go for it. If not, just love the two kids you already have."

Your story is sad! I know how it is being the youngest lol.