does your so do this

My so has been doing this lately and I was wondering if anyone elses does..when my son starts crying he will just say things like "oh stop it" or "that's enough" sometimes it will be said in a mean tone.. it pisses me off so much...one, our son is only 7.5 months old he can't say hey this is why I'm upset..two, most of the time he does it the problem is our son wants comfort...like yesterday he was tired and we were out and he was crying in the car because he wanted to be held..my so starts getting frustrated and is saying enough your fine..instead of trying to comfort him or say anything reassuring, which only makes our son cry more..how do you feel about this and what would you do?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amy Packer:</b>" My so has been doing this lately and I was wondering if anyone elses does..when my son starts crying ... [snip!] ... to comfort him or say anything reassuring, which only makes our son cry more..how do you feel about this and what would you do?"</blockquote>




Meh,every parent gets frustrated.

When my daughter is fussing (shes 14 months old) and i know there is no reason for it (shes been fed, changed, and everything else) i say "oh thats enough you're fine" I don't say it mean though i say it in a playful/funny way so it will take her mind off fussing and make her laugh..

Talk to him about it. He may be feeling some sort of stress that isn't allowing him to have any patience with your son. Let him know that what he's doing is not ok, and that he could be damaging your son emotionally if this continues.

Quoting Logan&Lilly's Mommy:" When my daughter is fussing (shes 14 months old) and i know there is no reason for it (shes been fed, ... [snip!] ... fine" I don't say it mean though i say it in a playful/funny way so it will take her mind off fussing and make her laugh.."

There's a big difference between a 14-month old and a 7-month old.

OP, that makes me sad.   Not cool.

Parents get frustrated. And if your son is clean, fed, warm, and comfortable, he IS fine. When my kids started fussing for no reason at that age I would tell them "oh stop it you're fine" too. Not in a mean way, I'm not even sure what you mean by that, but in a way that was very nonchalant. Because they are fine. If you don't like the way he's saying it ask him to say it more nicely, but telling a child who is in fact fine, that he's fine will not damage him. And when they're I the car and start crying because they want to get out, no amount or tone of talking to them will help, they will feel better when they get out. It's frustrating.

Honestly, no parent is perfect and I do get frustrated and so does my DH from time to time. He probably didn't mean it and was tired of hearing him cry. There is a breaking point with crying and everyone gets to it once in a while. I would ask him if everything is okay and just see where his frustration is coming from. There's not reason to yell at a child regardless of age but to redirect them instead. I get a little mad when my DH has a bad day and has gotten a little short with out 10 month old DD but I have to remember I have those days too, and constant crying really can wear on you.  

My SO tells LO "be quiet" "oh shut up" "that's enough". I get annoyed with it because my LO doesn't really cry unless she wants something. Normally she just wants him to play with her but he doesn't until I hear him telling her to be quiet and I tell him too

<blockquote><b>Quoting xoxoxoxoxoxoxo:</b>" My SO tells LO "be quiet" "oh shut up" "that's enough". I get annoyed with it because my LO doesn't really ... [snip!] ... Normally she just wants him to play with her but he doesn't until I hear him telling her to be quiet and I tell him too"</blockquote>




  oh shut up? That isn't cool.

Quoting Mother of One plus One:" <blockquote><b>Quoting xoxoxoxoxoxoxo:</b>" My SO tells LO "be quiet" "oh shut up" ... [snip!] ... until I hear him telling her to be quiet and I tell him too"</blockquote>   oh shut up? That isn't cool."

Yeah that one really gets under my skin... Now I just mock him. Whenever he is just rambling I tell him "Oh shut up" He has the nerve to call me mean when I say that to him. But its not mean to the LO because she doesn't understand  

Me<blockquote><b>Quoting xoxoxoxoxoxoxo:</b>" Yeah that one really gets under my skin... Now I just mock him. Whenever he is just rambling I tell ... [snip!] ... up" He has the nerve to call me mean when I say that to him. But its not mean to the LO because she doesn't understand  "</blockquote>




I HATE the words shut up. It irks the smurf out of me. I can't stand to hear someone say it to an adult must less a child.

SO says it jokingly just like when he says "use your words", he acts very stern and says now maci, you need to stop crying... then tickles her to try and make her smile

I guess I wasn't comletely clear, my son isn't fine when my husband says these things..there's a difference between fussing and crying..my son is a pretty happy baby and really only cries when something is wrong and its not just in the car that was just the most recent he does it when changing diapers or other times when my son gets upset..my so will say this without trying to comfort at all. What I mean by saying it mean is to me it sounds like yelling?, when I say that to my so he just says "I didn't raise my voice I'm not yelling" I've tried telling him to comfort our son he just says "he is fine". I can understand losing patience once in a while but he does this all the time, and no matter how I try to explain it he thinks I'm just nagging or "babying" him.

Quoting Amy Packer:" I guess I wasn't comletely clear, my son isn't fine when my husband says these things..there's a difference ... [snip!] ... in a while but he does this all the time, and no matter how I try to explain it he thinks I'm just nagging or "babying" him."

I've got no advice for that then, I grew up in a very strict environment and my father and mother would comfort when needed I suppose and honestly tell us to "shhh: and "hush" a lot while growing up very very sternly. We grew up as well rounded kids but I always was afraid of the loud "shhing" and "hushing". It sounds like your SO figures if he is louder than the baby the baby will calm down. which generally is not the case and the baby will end up more upset.  

IDK, I say it all the time to lo. But I guess the manner in saying it matters.

Like if lo is whining a bit, I will say "whats your issue" or "enough" or "do you have a problem" but I dont say it in a manner where I am frustrated or angry lol I just say it playing around, cause she is a really quiet baby, so when she does whine its a shocker lol

But out of anger and frustration I would be upset I guess if someone was saying it to my little baby.