Weekly baby update messages?

I get them from baby gaga for my facebook. But the messages under them, each week... They almost sound pushy and judgmental... I wouldn't go to the hospital... I wouldn't get an epi... I wouldn't get cut... Etc., and each has more cons than pros, and each leave out most of the pros, leavings mostly cons, that actually have really low percentages of happening, but leave the percentages out in most of the articles.... I thought these were supposed to be helpful instead they make me feel like I'm choosing wrong for myself... And not right for my baby...

I liked my weekly messages up until 32 weeks. When the ones that made me feel selfish started rolling in... Who writes those? And is it really and I'm asking honestly, selfish to want a comfortable labor? Like getting the epi, and being in a hospital etc.,???

I never felt like they were judgemental... But if they're making you feel that bad maybe stop reading them and do some of your own research about the questions they've raised?

They are a little bias. Nothing wrong with wanting to have a comfortable labor and delivery. I loved my epi when I was in labor with my daughter. I prefer to enjoy labor then be miserable and in pain. However, Im gong to try to go without an epi this time just to see if I can.

Personally, I think that going into it thinking that you don't care about the risks of those drugs (epi, IV meds, pain released shots) and just care about having a "comfortable" labor is selfish. Labor is not supposed to be comfortable, and what should be important to mothers is getting their child into the world as safely and healthfully as possible, not being comfortable.
I think women should at least go into it trying not to drug up their baby in the delivery process and if the pain becomes to much for them to deliver safely, get the pain intervention. But I do think it's selfish for women to go into it thinking the epi is the only way they would consider delivering. What other word would to use? They are thinking that THEY want a comfortable birth, it's about them, not their child's safe delivery.

They're there so I can inform myself it wasn't until this weeks which I just read that I did go do my own research which is why I know what they left out. I was also just asking a question or more so, an opinion. On whether or not this is really how people felt.

Andi+Andy=Marley+1
Bias. That's the word I was looking for. Thank you for sharing though. I'd like my first labor comfortable. Though I know there's no such thing as a permanent birth plan. I'd like the first to be comfortable, and my second open for debate then knowing what to expect.

Well i havent made it that far yet but the updates that i was getting with my first and second pregnancy didnt seem bias to me at all. But if ypu feel that way maybe you should cancel your updates. Or try seeing the positive in the updates. Their really informative. And love receiving mine.

Quoting MommaSav2:" Personally, I think that going into it thinking that you don't care about the risks of those drugs (epi, ... [snip!] ... word would to use? They are thinking that THEY want a comfortable birth, it's about them, not their child's safe delivery."

That was part of my quesiton, thank you for your opinion. And I plan on going as long as I can without pain meds, but if I chose to cave in or, cave in in general. Then that wouldn't be selfish? I like the option being there is all. That alone makes the process a bit more comfortable in my mind.

Quoting TeteThe MrsSuttson:" Well i havent made it that far yet but the updates that i was getting with my first and second pregnancy ... [snip!] ... you should cancel your updates. Or try seeing the positive in the updates. Their really informative. And love receiving mine."

They are really! and I said I liked them in the beginning. I guess I prefaced with the updates. But not I'm more so interested in opinions on the epi, episiotomy(sp?), hospital options.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" They're there so I can inform myself it wasn't until this weeks which I just read that I did go do my ... [snip!] ... as a permanent birth plan. I'd like the first to be comfortable, and my second open for debate then knowing what to expect. "</blockquote>




I'm sorry that you feel they're biased. I honestly remember very little of what I learned about epidurals. I planned on a natural birth though because of the risks, but also left myself wiggle room just in case. I was we'll informed enough to know that being completely worn down and exhausted when your trying to push it can make it dangerous for you and the baby. And when I felt like I wouldn't make it and wasn't progressing I got an epidural. I'm glad I was well informed because it helped me make the best decision for me. And it sounds like you're getting informed and making the best decision for you!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" They are really! and I said I liked them in the beginning. I guess I prefaced with the updates. But not I'm more so interested in opinions on the epi, episiotomy(sp?), hospital options. "</blockquote>




Its all about you and what you feel is right for your baby and for yourself! Me personally? I see nothing wrong with the epi! When exactly are you due hun?

Being pregnant with child #6 I have heard it all.With my first my mom insisted I go all natural and I had a lot of problems, had to get cut and some sort of thing that attached to my son's head to pull him out. Second child I had gall bladder disease and all the combined pain was too much for me so I got the epi.Third child, well I didnt have time to get the epi and had him all natural (he was born 33 min after my water was broke), 4th and 5th child I got the epi and will get one with this one.It isn't to have a comfy birth.For me it's to keep my anxiety down and bp from spiking like it has before and I nearly ended up with a c section. I listen to everyone's advice. But no one knows what is best for me better than me.If you can't handle pain, like me, get the epi. If you can handle pain easily like my sister, you go all natural. But never let anyone tell you that what you want to do is wrong.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" That was part of my quesiton, thank you for your opinion. And I plan on going as long as I can without ... [snip!] ... wouldn't be selfish? I like the option being there is all. That alone makes the process a bit more comfortable in my mind. "</blockquote>



I agree. Knowing the relief is there if I need it very comforting but I don't think it's should a wkman's only birthing plan. I think THAT mindset is selfish.
With my first I was in active labor for 31 hours in the hospital, contracting every 4 minutes when I started begging for the epidural. I was exhausted, and I just couldn't do it anymore. The epi gave me enough relief to rest for a few hours and then I let it wear off completely (my hospiral goves you a little clicker to control your own epi meds) in time for pushing so I could feel what I had to do. Pushing for 3 1/2 hours and then needs the vacuum to get him out. Labor and delivery was incredibly painful and exhausting and I don't know how I could have done it with out the few hours of rest that the epi provided. My active hospital labor was 42 hours total.
My second baby, I labors for 11 1/3 hours total and only pushed for 18 minutes, there was no need for an epi. It hurt but I knew I could make it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" That was part of my quesiton, thank you for ... [snip!] ... labors for 11 1/3 hours total and only pushed for 18 minutes, there was no need for an epi. It hurt but I knew I could make it."</blockquote>




I don't think it's selfish, but epidurals don't always take/work correctly, so there's always a chance you could get one but still feel as if you're having a natural birth, and it is definitely good to go in prepared to deal with that

Quoting TeteThe MrsSuttson:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" They are really! and I said I liked them in ... [snip!] ... feel is right for your baby and for yourself! Me personally? I see nothing wrong with the epi! When exactly are you due hun?"

I'm 33 weeks if I go by the OB's new EDD she changed it so late that I've kept my tickers and everything to the original due date which would be the 8th making me 34 weeks. Lol I know I'm do in February is the current running joke in the house you wouldn't believe how many times she Officially changed my EDD. AND baby is measuring ahead. So God only knows.

February 8th though is what I'm leaning towards. My SO and I keep saying Valentines day.

Quoting Amanda Zarovsky:" Being pregnant with child #6 I have heard it all.With my first my mom insisted I go all natural and I ... [snip!] ... you can handle pain easily like my sister, you go all natural. But never let anyone tell you that what you want to do is wrong."

Thank you.