re: Weekly baby update messages?

Quoting GlowWormsMommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" They're there so I can inform myself it wasn't ... [snip!] ... it helped me make the best decision for me. And it sounds like you're getting informed and making the best decision for you!"

That's what I'm trying to do. I have 2 sisters one with two boys, and one with one boy. And my mother though I don't really count her as well Idk 'here' I suppose. And I've gotten all their opinions and experiences. First sister with two boys said all natural didn't want to risk the risks with an epi. The second sister swears by it even though on half he body it didn't take. My mother say's epi and episiodomy(sp?) all the way. And made me mad saying she "Would never let herself tear" so I hung up on the conversation. It got gross. Lol. I just want to do what's right for baby though, I'm afraid of not handling the pain as well as I keep being told I should my body is "Made for it" I feel I'll be a failure, but I also feel it's there now for a reason right? The option of pain control?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" That's what I'm trying to do. I have 2 sisters one with two boys, and one with one boy. And my mother ... [snip!] ... body is "Made for it" I feel I'll be a failure, but I also feel it's there now for a reason right? The option of pain control?"</blockquote>




See I'm somewhere in the middle of the "our bodies were made for this" and "the option is there, I'm taking it!". I feel like yes our bodies were made to do this but before all te medical advancements concerning childbirth, a lot more women and children were dying in the process. If you feel that you NEED one or more of the available pain or medical interventions to deliver safely, then listen to your body and do what you need to do.
I think birth plans are a stupid stupid concept lol. Having an idea of what you would like your birth experience to be like is great! But having a set in stone plan is just setting yourself up for failure in my opinion. No labor ever goes exaclry as expected and women should keep their minds open going into it.

Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" That's what I'm trying to do. I have 2 sisters ... [snip!] ... up for failure in my opinion. No labor ever goes exaclry as expected and women should keep their minds open going into it."

This is my first and even I figured that out just by my sisters, and reading on BG and all these scalpel happy ob's! What is that?! lol

I know they're there for when it get ridiculous I have really bad anxiety I can handle pain, and try and convince myself it's not the pain that tells you something is wrong. <-- the panicky kind of pain.
I also know that there's no way a doctor or society in general would use these drugs if they were dangerous to the fetus. An opiate is an opiate and moms with CS, who take painkillers and breatfeed have no harm to their babies...
I'm so worried I'm going to make a choice right off the bat that will harm my little girl. I'm going in with the mindset of going as long as I can without one. Or anything. This will be SO's first vaginal delivery his first son's mother had a CS. I'm more scared for him and his reactions than my own LOL!

Epi I'm thinking that means epidural? Lol
Well in my opinion epidural is the worst thing ever
I went 13 hours b4 I got epidural and it was the worst mistake
I've ever made they basically overdosed me on it and when they
Took me to theatre for c-section which I was supposed to be awake
Through out I stopped breathing and it turned into an emergancy c-section
And they were worried Charlie would have brain damage from rece

Quoting baby1759:" Epi I'm thinking that means epidural? Lol Well in my opinion epidural is the worst thing ever I went ... [snip!] ... I stopped breathing and it turned into an emergancy c-section And they were worried Charlie would have brain damage from rece"

These are the stories I'm also looking for I want the good and the bad, so that when it comes down to it, I can asses my own situation and make a decision best for my labor at the time! I'm so so sorry yours went so badly. I'm hoping everything was ok with baby though?!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" That's what I'm trying to do. I have 2 sisters one with two boys, and one with one boy. And my mother ... [snip!] ... body is "Made for it" I feel I'll be a failure, but I also feel it's there now for a reason right? The option of pain control?"</blockquote>




No matter what, you're not a failure. People say epidurals can slow your progress, which I believe, but for me it was a matter of knowing my own body and knowing myself. I have a seriously high pain tolerance, but my water broke at 10 pm and i labored until 5 am with no meds and didn't progress at all. I knew I wasn't relaxing between contractions, and I also knew that with the circumstances of my labor (my daughter passed meconium and my water being broken already) that they wouldn't let me labor past 24 hours. And once I buckled and got the epidural and was able to get some sleep and relax, I progressed much faster. But i'll still try for a natural birth with an subsequent children. Point being, you don't get pregnant to have the best labor, you get pregnant to have a baby. Find out everything you can about your hospital, your doctor, relaxation techniques just in case, and get ready for the best moment of your life!

Quoting GlowWormsMommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" That's what I'm trying to do. I have 2 sisters ... [snip!] ... you can about your hospital, your doctor, relaxation techniques just in case, and get ready for the best moment of your life!"

Thank you!
All Childrens is the best around the bay. <3 Thank goodness.
The OB asked why I wouldn't deliver at St. Pete Gen.
I told her having the option of being next door the the best Children's hospital around!? Are you serious? I'm definitely delivering bayfront! BUT I will keep doing my research, about epis, systemics, spinal block, natural, etc., Until I'm comfortable. And From what my sisters said. Even the one who went all natural. No matter how much planning you do, transition labor will change that! Lol  

<blockquote><b>Quoting GlowWormsMommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" That's what I'm trying to do. I have 2 sisters ... [snip!] ... you can about your hospital, your doctor, relaxation techniques just in case, and get ready for the best moment of your life!"</blockquote>



I really how you worded that. You don't get pregnant to have the best labor you can, you get pregnant to have a baby.

Yeah I posted b4 I finished oops sorry
They thought Charlie had brain damage he wasbt responding
Propperly when delivered they had to ressusatate me
Charlie was in shock he was fine apart from that
I I the other hand was very poorly for quite abit after
They also have me a spinal tap which is we're they punctured
The fluid around my spine and it was leaking to my brain so that I couldn't
Sit up because I'd get this god aweful pain like my head was
Going to explode. I had to have blood taken from my elbow and knee to
Block up the whole that they had made. I didn't see Charlie til he was 4 day old
Because I was so poorly I didn't hold him til he was 5 days old
I didn't get to breast feed or hold him striaght away
I'm just so happy and glad I'm here now   when I do get preg again
I will be avoiding epidural at all times   if u have any more questions feel
Free to ask btw this is the worst case scenario that happened to me
Some people think it's the best thing ever I on the ther hand don't lol x

Quoting baby1759:" Yeah I posted b4 I finished oops sorry They thought Charlie had brain damage he wasbt responding Propperly ... [snip!] ... this is the worst case scenario that happened to me Some people think it's the best thing ever I on the ther hand don't lol x"

Thank you for sharing you experience. All things my paranoid butt will pester my OB about when this day comes.  !

I am on baby 5 and have had epidurals with the last 4. I waited as long as I possibly could before the pain over took me and I opted for epidural! I have heard of the risks, and yet it didn't deter me. All 4 soon to be 5 children are happy healthy and thriving! I think some people like to make those of us who opt for the epi to feel inferior... it doesn't work with me... To them I say god bless you and your strength to be in full blown labor without pain management... I don't have that strength... and I am 100% okay with it! Your choice is your choice... no one can judge you although there is always some who have that "holy-ier than though" complex and will claim to be better mothers because they delivered pain med free... Just do your own research and don't let anyone force you into their choice be it with out without meds. & Good luck! Having a baby is the most beautiful moment in your life! <3

Well good luck hunnie :-) xxx

Quoting Dorothy Martinez:" I am on baby 5 and have had epidurals with the last 4. I waited as long as I possibly could before the ... [snip!] ... into their choice be it with out without meds. & Good luck! Having a baby is the most beautiful moment in your life! <3"

Thank You.
My mom had ridiculous amounts of pain meds when I was being born. She was all prepped for a c-section and didn't end up needing it. Lol I guess I turned out fine!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" That was part of my quesiton, thank you for your opinion. And I plan on going as long as I can without ... [snip!] ... wouldn't be selfish? I like the option being there is all. That alone makes the process a bit more comfortable in my mind. "</blockquote>


That's always my advice for people. Just go in knowing your options and take it moment by moment. You never know u might not needs meds. Or u might just want some IV meds and not a whole Epi. Start small and avoid the Epi if possible. But for some it is necessary. My hospital didn't have a full Epi only an Intrathecal. But I tried everything else first and it made it worse. I was stuck at a 5. Finally I gave in and got one dose which lasted 45 mins. They checked me and I progresses to a 9.5 and they started letting me push. My body needed that 45 mins of complete relaxation. Some people need that. Some don't. Just take labor as it comes.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" I'm 33 weeks if I go by the OB's new EDD she changed it so late that I've kept my tickers and everything ... [snip!] ... measuring ahead. So God only knows. February 8th though is what I'm leaning towards. My SO and I keep saying Valentines day. "</blockquo



So are you willing to get the epi? I had it twice! People try scaring you by telling you it'll hurt and things like that but its honestly not bad at all only part i hate is that you have to be in the room all by yourself when they do it. Just you and the doc that gives it oh and a nurse or two. But its all worth it. Just ignore the negative and look at the positive. This will be a moment to remember for you. You're at the best part near the end. Wish i was that far along im only 10 weeks!