WWYD?

Hell yes!!!

Do it! You must  

Quoting Lucas'Mama:" Hell yes!!!"

    

That's smurfing perfect!
Send it!  

I'd send it.
first contact in that long, what was the summons he received for? sounds like his letter was in reply to it?

ETA: unless the summons was related to him being in jail/when he'll get out

Quoting KNZ.:" I'd send it. first contact in that long, what was the summons he received for? sounds like his letter was in reply to it?"

The state is suing him because Cai and I are on public assistance.

put P.S. I hope my feelings about being friends showed in this letter.  

Quoting H&Cai:" First contact in over 4.5 years. His Letter: Heather. Hi, How are you? How is Caiden? I see he has ... [snip!] ... wishes of an absent and potentially dangerous father. sincerely, H Would you send that letter back? Please don't quote"

yup. send it certified and keep a copy to yourself as record you did.

Quoting H&Cai:" The state is suing him because Cai and I are on public assistance."

Ohhh okay.
well, yes. i'd send it. or, not reply/acknowledge it at all?
i'm not sure.
my 7 yr old's father has been absent his whole life, i wouldn't be happy if he popped back up like that  

Quoting H&Cai:" The state is suing him because Cai and I are on public assistance."

He only sent it because of that it seems.  

Quoting KNZ.:" Ohhh okay. well, yes. i'd send it. or, not reply/acknowledge it at all? i'm not sure. my 7 yr old's father has been absent his whole life, i wouldn't be happy if he popped back up like that  "

SEE! Ugh, I DON'T KNOW.

Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:" He only sent it because of that it seems.  "

That's how I feel.

Yeah, but proofread it first.

Dear N
After four years of no contact, I was under the impression that you had no interest in being a father to Caiden. You have had ample time and opportunity before now to request a DNA test and seek visitation with him. However, you have not so much as inquired about his well being before this time. I took your absence in contact and interest as an implication that I would be raising Caiden on my own, and I have been doing so very happily for several years now. So to answer your questions in the order in which they were received: I am quite happy, Caiden is quite happy, and I have no interest at this time to disrupt my son's life on the wishes of an absent and potentially dangerous father.
Sincerely,
H

get a second opinion too, it's late night here and I'm probably sloppy  

Quoting H&Cai:" SEE! Ugh, I DON'T KNOW."

yeahhh, i might not reply at all. you have no legal obligation to. and it could just spark an angry fire in him...
hm, i dunno