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Thanks for letting me rant ladies.

OMG....that would piss me off too & I am already weary about who I let DD go with so if that smurf happened I would be a wreck too.   It would probably make my fear worse as well.

my mom feeds my kid. id like it better if she changed her more often though. i just dont get it. you know a hungry kid is annoying as hell.

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Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" OMG....that would piss me off too ... [snip!] ... my sweet baby wasn't being cared for properly. MIL is the ONLY person DD has stayed with at all, but not anymore. Smurf that.."

Yea, the only person who has watched my DD alone is my sister once & my mom a few times. I am such a paranoid person. I know my mom & sister will properly take care of her so I don't mind. Other people, now that's a diff story. That would make me upset too, just to know she wasn't taken care of properly. I worry about that SOOOO much, especially if her father gets visitation to take her on his own, you know some guys can be oblivious to stuff like that.

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That's terrible. I'd feel the same way you do. Smh.

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Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" my mom feeds my kid. id like it better ... [snip!] ...   I mean how hard is it to hand her some crackers or something and a sippy cup?! She feeds her damn self for crying out loud."

I know   that is messed up. If your DD was not eating properly or whatever with her, she should of called & told you or asked what she should do in that situation, which I am sure you would of wanted your DD to come back home.

Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" Yea, the only person who has watched ... [snip!] ... never knows why she's crying, he sucks at putting on diapers, and he throws up changing poop.. It would be a disaster. Lmao  "

OMG....lmao my BD is the SAME way. He seriously gagged soo hard when I asked him to help me change one of her NEWBORN poopy diapers. Those are NOTHING compared to the poop she has now since eating solids...she has grown man poop that stinks up the whole room lmfao. I would love to see how he handles that.

Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" OMG....that would piss me off too ... [snip!] ... my sweet baby wasn't being cared for properly. MIL is the ONLY person DD has stayed with at all, but not anymore. Smurf that.."

I'm not going to let DS stay anywhere until he's old enough to tell me what goes on. Like, whether the person watching him spanked him or whatever. And he is NEVER staying with my mother. Or SO's mother if I can help it.
Have you talked to MIL about it?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" I'm not going to let DS stay anywhere until he's old enough to tell me what goes on. Like, whether the ... [snip!] ... him or whatever. And he is NEVER staying with my mother. Or SO's mother if I can help it. Have you talked to MIL about it?"</blockquote>



DD won't be going anywhere else for a lonnnnggg time I know that.
No I didn't say anything, I told SO she's not going back.
I don't Work, I never need a baby sitter unless an emergency comes up.
Im just not going to allow her to leave anymore.
MIL was being lazy, she's raised 7 kids she knows what needs to be done she just didn't do it.

Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" I'm not going to let DS stay anywhere until ... [snip!] ... to allow her to leave anymore. MIL was being lazy, she's raised 7 kids she knows what needs to be done she just didn't do it."

Wow, you're a better woman than me.. I probably would have punched her  
That's so mean, not feeding or changing a baby that can't look after themselves.. It makes me so sad to know that people do that. I mean, how would she like it if she had to sit in her own piss for hours while not being fed or watered??
I have other issues with my lot. MIL is a heavy drinker, so no smurfing way is she having my son while I'm not there, and my mother smokes cigarettes and pot in the house, and thinks raising a child involves nothing more than a trip to mcdonalds and turning on a tv.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" Wow, you're a better woman than me.. I probably would have punched her   That's so mean, not feeding ... [snip!] ... cigarettes and pot in the house, and thinks raising a child involves nothing more than a trip to mcdonalds and turning on a tv."</blockquote>




If I say anything and cause an argument, it will just make smurf worse for the family issues we have going on.
I find it easier to say smurf her and not allow her to be alone with DD anymore.
It is sad especially when it's YOUR child. Makes me sick that my daughter was probably crying to be fed or changed and nobody wanted to do it.

I feel Better now, she had a big meal, milk, juice and water, a bath, and now shes sleeping soundly in my bed.

Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" Wow, you're a better woman than me.. I probably ... [snip!] ... to do it. I feel Better now, she had a big meal, milk, juice and water, a bath, and now shes sleeping soundly in my bed."

Ohh I just imagined my DS doing that.. Makes me wanna cry  
Fair enough, sometimes it is easier to just let it go.. but you're doing the right thing not letting her look after your daughter anymore.
UGH it actually makes my skin crawl. At least she's fed, clean, watered and snoozing now