re: I'm craving pizza.

Quoting H&Cai:" Heather. Hi, How are you? How is Caiden? I see he has a birthday coming up. From some fast math that ... [snip!] ... but a copy. PS:I hope even if you dont want to be friends we can still be adults about this. I hope it shows in the letter."

 
It sounds like he's only contacting you to keep things out of the court system. He had to do "quick math" to remember how old his son was?
It sounds like a bunch of bull to me.
Go through the courts,he's a deadbeat, don't let him screw you any further.

Quoting H&Cai:" Heather. Hi, How are you? How is Caiden? I see he has a birthday coming up. From some fast math that ... [snip!] ... but a copy. PS:I hope even if you dont want to be friends we can still be adults about this. I hope it shows in the letter."

Do you what to know how I would respond to that?

Dear _____,
After four years of no contact I was under the impression that you had no interest in being a father to Caiden. You have had ample time and opportunity before now to request a DNA test and seek visitation with him. However you have not so much as inquired about his well being before this time. I took your absents in contact and interest as an implication that I would be raising Caiden on my own. And I have been doing so very happily for several years now. So to answer your questions in the order in which they were received I am quite happy, Caiden is quite happy, and I have no interest at this time to disrupt my son's life on the wishes of an absent and potentially dangerous father.
sincerely,
H

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Do you what to know how I would respond to that? Dear _____, After four years of no contact I was under ... [snip!] ... no interest at this time to disrupt my son's life on the wishes of an absent and potentially dangerous father. sincerely, H"

Ooh! I really like that.

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Do you what to know how I would respond to that? Dear _____, After four years of no contact I was under ... [snip!] ... no interest at this time to disrupt my son's life on the wishes of an absent and potentially dangerous father. sincerely, H"

   
This is perfect.