finally got the courage...

I told my bf that I didn't want the abortion. all he did was try to talk me into it and when that didn't work he told me he'd sign his rights away.

I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I feel like my mind had been messed with and Idk how to choose between my bf who I love and a baby that I already feel an attachment to. How do I make this choice?

If you don't feel comfortable aborting the baby, then ditch the smurf. You have to do what you feel is right.

I'm sorry  

A man can't just sign over his rights though. There has to be someone who is married to the mom to adopt the baby. Most of the time this is the case

Have you done a pros and cons list? When I'm making a hard decision I make one. Seeing how the pros and cons line up helps me tremendously

Do what YOU want to do. If you don't want to abort, then don't! If you do it JUST because he wants you to, then you will probably end up regretting it, especially if you two break up. Men come and go, your baby will be there forever.

Whatever you decide to do should be your choice. Do not let a boyfriend no matter how much you love him tell you what you will do. You need to think about what you want and need aside from what you'd like from your relationship if that makes sense?

Quoting Squeaky McGee:" If you don't feel comfortable aborting the baby, then ditch the smurf. You have to do what you feel is right."

I agree with her completely

if he's already willing to give up rights to a child who isn't even here yet.... do you really want to be with someone like that? Men go through shock... in the end its YOUR decision. If you keep the baby you live with the baby.. and im sure are strong enough to do so... if you abort the baby, thats something you also live with... Good luck with your decision, and just keep in mind what is best for YOU and no one else.

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Id choose dd over dh any day hed do the same baby girl comes first

How will you look at him for the rest of your time together if you end up getting an abortion just because he talked you into it?

Honey... you can't let him push you around like that. It's your body and your choice. If he can't deal with it... well, then it's his loss. Let him sign his rights away and let him walk... I know it's hard and you're stressed out right now, but you've obviously made a choice. If you don't stick with it because of what YOU feel and what YOU think, you'll never forgive yourself.

So take a deep breath, and tell yourself that this isn't the end of the world. Everything's going to be ok with or without him.  

Any guy that makes you CHOOSE over something so serious. Isn't a man at all. Keep the baby and drop that loser.

Do what YOU think you want to do. Don't get bullied into a decision.

thanks ladies for all your replies. I hope he is just in shock and he comes around but if he doesn't I'll lose him. I just feel like I'm losing something either way I turn. I want to choose the baby but I also want to choose him. And I'm scared to be alone and that no one else will love me if I have 2 kids by 2 men. Ugh fml

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" I'm sorry   A man can't just sign over his rights though. There has to be someone who is married to ... [snip!] ... a pros and cons list? When I'm making a hard decision I make one. Seeing how the pros and cons line up helps me tremendously"

they certainly can sign their legal rights away.
But it doesn't mean he will get out of child support

He doesn't sound like a guy who is in it for you for thick or thin anyways, so why do something that you really don't want to do to save a relationship that isn't worth it?

2 months after I met my DH, I got a positive test. He really wanted me to have an abortion, but said he would 110% stand behind my decision to not. It ended up being a false positive or an early miscarriage, but that is how a man who truly loves you behaves.

Don't let him convince you to do something you sound like you'll always regret for a man you'll someday barely remember.


And there are good men out there who will love you, two babies and all. Hang in there mamma.

Quoting pilot Jess:" He doesn't sound like a guy who is in it for you for thick or thin anyways, so why do something that ... [snip!] ... you'll someday barely remember. And there are good men out there who will love you, two babies and all. Hang in there mamma."

This is almost exactly what happened with me! We were talking more about adoption, but he said it was really up to me. Whatever I chose, he was going to support me... I can't imagine what I would have felt like if he had been like OP's bf... And here I am now, 23 weeks along and still with him, supporting my decisions 100%.

To me, that's a real man.