What would you do?

For the last few weeks, everyday my kids come home from daycare they would complain about a little boy who would hit, kick, push, pinch, etc them. Everyday. DS came home with bruises all over one day because the little boy ran up the slide on top of DS when DS was coming down. DS had a black eye, bruises on his legs, stomach, and outer thighs. According to the teacher this kid ran all over him and didn't stop.
So I finally asked the daycare owner who the little boy is because my kids complain about him all the time. She said that he is special needs, has autism, and has issues with controlling his actions. She said that he does it to several kids.
Ok I understand that, but my kids shouldn't have to be a human punching bag for this kid. This kid is 4, so he is older than my DD and just a little younger than DS.
What would you do in this situation? I love my kids' daycare and they have been there for a long time. This kid has only been going there for a couple months.

In all honesty I'd talk to the other child's parents... see if there is anything they can do to help the situation?

Just because the other child has a learning disability doesn't mean he can't be told "no." Do the other kids in the daycare get some sort of punishment like a time out when they do something like this? If yes, then they should at LEAST be doing SOMETHING.

I'd sit down with the daycare owner and the other kid's mother to come up with a plan to stop that BS. This is no reason for your kids to get hurt... and the other kid with autism, he's going to get bigger. He needs extra help learning that hurting people is wrong before he starts making some BIG issues...

Quoting Angeleyes1372:" In all honesty I'd talk to the other child's parents... see if there is anything they can do to help the situation?"

That might be a way to go. I'd just be worried that the parents would get upset at me.

The daycare should be handling that situation, you shouldn't have to do anything! If they didn't do anything soon, I'd be look for another daycare.

I would tell the daycare that's it's unacceptable that my child has to come home hurt everyday because another child, regardless of autism. If they weren't willing to accommodate that child in another manner (ie. more supervision, etc.) I would pull my child.

Quoting Angeleyes1372:" In all honesty I'd talk to the other child's parents... see if there is anything they can do to help the situation?"

I disagree.

Hey, your child hits mine when you're not around.

What would you even say?

I would ask the daycare ladies to have the parents come in, along with you, and have all of you and the kids (yours and theirs) talk and tell the child whos doing the pushing that its not ok... this coming from a mom of a SN son with autism.. he is aggressive, but not because he tries to be, he just doesn't know his own strength and he doesn't know he's doing something wrong, and i have to get next to him and constantly remind him "we don't push, we dont hit, we don't ____" its not something thats going to be resolved with just a one time reminder... the supervisors at the daycare need to take into account that he is special needs, and they know he's more of an aggressive player, they should watch him a little more closely.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" That might be a way to go. I'd just be worried that the parents would get upset at me."</blockquote>




I don't see why they would get upset for bringing that sort of issue to their attention. As doors33 said: disability or not, he still needs to be told no on some things. I think he would probably respond better if his parents did something rather than the teacher saying something to him. Hope talking to his parents helps.

Yeah, sadly if they keep getting hurt I might have to look for another daycare. I would hate that so much,   My kids have never had issues with the other kids there before this kid came around.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" I disagree. Hey, your child hits mine when you're not around. What would you even say?"</blockquote>




Yeah that is a good point. I don't even know. But I'd try to figure out a way to make it stop.

I've been in this situation before. I suggest speaking to the daycare provider and his parents. Or having the provider talk to his parents afterwards. If it continues pull your kids out they don't deserve that. Let the daycare provider know this will ultimately happen if the behavior cannot be curbed. In my situation I ended up hiring a nanny after DD came home with marks around her neck.

Quoting Sugarhiccup:" I've been in this situation before. I suggest speaking to the daycare provider and his parents. Or having ... [snip!] ... if the behavior cannot be curbed. In my situation I ended up hiring a nanny after DD came home with marks around her neck."

Oh my god, marks around her neck???
Did the other kid choke her or something? That's horrible!

Maybe see if the daycare knows if the chld responds better to picture commands then vocal commands? again, i know not all children on the spectrum are the same, but MY son responds better to visual commands, then vocal. That daycare person needs to talk to the parents and see what kind of IEP type deal (not really an IEP but some kind of plan for him) they can do that will not only help the child, but help the workers and everyone else as well who are dealing with him. If the daycare was doing their job, then they should be able to curb the aggression and find him a way to redirect his aggression.

Quoting Minion:" For the last few weeks, everyday my kids come home from daycare they would complain about a little boy ... [snip!] ... I love my kids' daycare and they have been there for a long time. This kid has only been going there for a couple months."

I would suggest to the owner to tell that little boy's parents to get him in a special needs program,not an everyday run of the mill daycare. I'd then tell the owner to do her/his damn job and put an end to the behavior other wise you will turn them in. That is abuse even if is coming from another child.