re: How do you get someone to stop smoking?

Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:" He won't stop until he's ready and if you bring it up you're just going to annoy him. It took getting pregnant (twice) to get me to quit. I just hid it whenever my husband would start to complain"

He can't hide it, at all. He say's he wants to but I don't believe it.
From the sounds of all these post, there's nothing I can do.
We argue about it because his Mom questions me about it, if he does it & all of this and how much and blah blah.
My parents ask if he does it, & get's pissed when he comes in their house smelling like it high. I'm the one to always hear about it, & he's just all joy free doing what makes him feel better.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" he is not addicted."

You don't know the half of it.. He admits to be addicted, he's not addicted like the people on intervention but he literally CAN not quit.

I'd just back off if I were you. If he wants to quit, he will. You can't be addicted to weed, he just needs a new hobby.
I attempted to make my SO quit, but it's impossible. He didn't until he decided for himself that he wants to quit.

Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" My SO try'd to stop so many times. we finally stopped right before our daughter turned 2 he didnt want her to remember him smoking. He stopped my picking up a good book and reading. "

My SO doesn't read, he plays X-Box and smokes.
Our daughter will be 2 in March & his first daughter is 6 and he's been doing it since way before she was born.

Quoting sophias mommyy:" You don't know the half of it.. He admits to be addicted, he's not addicted like the people on intervention but he literally CAN not quit."

there is nothing in pot that makes it addictive. he just likes how he feels when he is high. the way you describe him being when he's not high is just his true personality.. he's high strung, maybe has anxiety... and if so, he can get a medication for that. but you can't be addicted to weed.

Quoting Amber :]:" I'd just back off if I were you. If he wants to quit, he will. You can't be addicted to weed, he just ... [snip!] ... a new hobby. I attempted to make my SO quit, but it's impossible. He didn't until he decided for himself that he wants to quit."

I guess that's what I'll do, & continue to listen to everybodys bullsmurf because they won't say anything to him. They come to me.
& I'll just have to watch him waste EVERY damn dollar while I support our child.
It's frustrating. =/
I love him, & I'm ready to spend the rest of my life with him but he got mad at me and left to go get some. He just doesn't know another stress relief.

Quoting sophias mommyy:" I guess that's what I'll do, & continue to listen to everybodys bullsmurf because they won't say anything ... [snip!] ... to spend the rest of my life with him but he got mad at me and left to go get some. He just doesn't know another stress relief."

you should bring up those points to him. make it clear that as long as he's spending all his money on weed, there's no chance in y'all having a wedding.
and tell family that it's his problem, not your's and there's nothing you can do about it when he has no motivation to quit for himself.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" there is nothing in pot that makes it addictive. he just likes how he feels when he is high. the way ... [snip!] ... he's high strung, maybe has anxiety... and if so, he can get a medication for that. but you can't be addicted to weed."

Maybe I can do some research and show him that he can't be addicted. He just craves the high.
& I'm on anxiety medicine, I couldn't even smoke before that though because it'd give me panic attacks.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sophias mommyy:</b>" He can't hide it, at all. He say's he wants to but I don't believe it. From the sounds of all these post, ... [snip!] ... smelling like it high. I'm the one to always hear about it, & he's just all joy free doing what makes him feel better."</blockquote>




Oops my reference was to cigarettes. Sorry, completely different.. Especially with hiding!
I'm sorry, I don't find anything wrong with marijuana, when used appropriately/responsibly so I see no reason to quit that.. If its a stress reliever, as you said he gets "cranky", he can find out sources to ease tension.. For example joining a gym!

Quoting Amber :]:" you should bring up those points to him. make it clear that as long as he's spending all his money on ... [snip!] ... family that it's his problem, not your's and there's nothing you can do about it when he has no motivation to quit for himself."

I told him that as well, " How are we going to afford a wedding, if you can't save a dime? " & his answer was I'm going to look for a job.
I don't know though.. I'm just a little mad right now & was wondering if there was any help.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sophias mommyy:</b>" I told him that as well, " How are we going to afford a wedding, if you can't save a dime? " & his ... [snip!] ... I'm going to look for a job. I don't know though.. I'm just a little mad right now & was wondering if there was any help."</blockquote>


If he doesn't have a job, how can he afford the habit?

Quoting sophias mommyy:" Maybe I can do some research and show him that he can't be addicted. He just craves the high. & I'm ... [snip!] ... craves the high. & I'm on anxiety medicine, I couldn't even smoke before that though because it'd give me panic attacks."

i don't like the smell or taste of it so i never really bothered with it. i think he just needs to find a hobby - an active one. sitting around just playing xBox isn't healthy. he should keep moving.. go to the gym, try and go for family walks, join a sports team, etc.

Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:" <blockquote><b>Quoting sophias mommyy:</b>" He can't hide it, at all. He say's he wants ... [snip!] ... If its a stress reliever, as you said he gets "cranky", he can find out sources to ease tension.. For example joining a gym!"

I completely agree with you but it's not used responsibly. He does it whenever he feels he " needs " it, rearguardless if I need him here. & several other examples I could give but I'd rather not.
I see though, that theres nothing I can do, just pray that he'll quit or only do it every once in awhile.

Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:" <blockquote><b>Quoting sophias mommyy:</b>" I told him that as well, " How are we ... [snip!] ... now & was wondering if there was any help."</blockquote> If he doesn't have a job, how can he afford the habit?"

He ask to borrow money from his money, or he begs me for it & I cave..
Another reason why I'm so frustrated because if I don't give it to him, he gets SOOO mad.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" i don't like the smell or taste of it so i never really bothered with it. i think he just needs to find ... [snip!] ... just playing xBox isn't healthy. he should keep moving.. go to the gym, try and go for family walks, join a sports team, etc."

He coaches a basketball team but always smokes before he goes -__-