bye bye

Thanks guys....

He's crazy. You obviously do deserve better than that.

Don't listen to that terdball. You deserve waaaaay better.

That is awful and NOT ok at all! Angry or not he should NEVER tell you anything like that. Ever!!!!! You deserve better than that.   i am sorry you don't have the understanding from him you need.

You deserve so much better. If he cared he wouldn't have said anything like that about killing yourself.

What?! He is insane. You deserve way better than that especially from him.

Idk what to do anymore. I know depression is hard to understand when you have never experienced it but I just cant handle this anymore. I feel like everyone hates me even my own dh. I was thinking on the way home today about trying to see a doctor but if I dont have any support what is the point. Its like dh just doesn't want to deal with anything that will complicate his life. Including me.

Go see a doctor immediately. Are you against medication? If you aren't it can help take the edge off your feelings. Can you go to therapy? It helps so so much especially if you find the right person to talk to.

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Idk what to do anymore. I know depression is hard to understand when you have never experienced it but ... [snip!] ... any support what is the point. Its like dh just doesn't want to deal with anything that will complicate his life. Including me."

Not understanding and just being a dick are 2 different things and he was just being a dick! No matter if you are depressed or not he should NEVER speak to you in that manner. Telling you to kill youself is NOT acceptable at all. Do not ever let anyone treat you like that. You can find someone who will take you for your flaws and all without making you feel like smurf. I have bouts of depression and my husband deals with it pretty well.

Quoting kate & tilly:" Go see a doctor immediately. Are you against medication? If you aren't it can help take the edge off ... [snip!] ... take the edge off your feelings. Can you go to therapy? It helps so so much especially if you find the right person to talk to."

The first time I was on meds it helped kind of but just made me feel numb emotionally. IDC one way or the other. The second time it didn't help at all. I would like to see a therapist but its kind of hard to find one around here. The last doctor I saw for my depression said he thought I would actually be better off seeing a therapist.

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" Not understanding and just being a dick are 2 different things and he was just being a dick! No matter ... [snip!] ... for your flaws and all without making you feel like smurf. I have bouts of depression and my husband deals with it pretty well. "

I just feel so alone in all of this. I wish I had a friend or some one to talk to. I was scared to say anything to dh but told myself that he is suppose to be my best friend and be there for me for better or for worst. Apparently not.

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" I just feel so alone in all of this. I wish I had a friend or some one to talk to. I was scared to say ... [snip!] ... to dh but told myself that he is suppose to be my best friend and be there for me for better or for worst. Apparently not."

He IS suppose to be! His reaction was so uncalled for I am pissed off for you!   Just vent to us! Sometimes online is the only place I feel I can vent about certain things....just get it out somehow even if it is to us strangers.

I have depression too, mixed in with anxiety, PTSD and Agoraphobia. My ex basically used to say the same thing to me. He said I used it all as an excuse to get out of doing things, and that it was all in my head and 'not that hard' to get over it.
I was also never allowed to talk about my problems because he honestly didn't care and told me to get over it.
Yet I was the one with the full time job working to pay our rent and bills etc, while he sat on his arse all day at home all day playing computer games, leaving all the housework for me to come home to.
Theres a reason he is an ex.
Leaving him was the best thing I ever did, and now I am with the most amazing man who is so understanding and supportive.

You deserve so much more than that douchebag.
There is no excuse for what he said, and no way in hell that it is okay.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" The first time I was on meds it helped kind of but just made me feel numb emotionally. IDC one way or ... [snip!] ... one around here. The last doctor I saw for my depression said he thought I would actually be better off seeing a therapist. "</blockquote>




I would try to find one. For me I have to be on meds and seeing a therapist. The therapy helps the most but the meds help between. Do you go to church or are you open to going to one? A lot of times clergy can counsel you. Your dh sounds like he needs to have a professional talk to him about how to handle the situation.

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" He IS suppose to be! His reaction was so uncalled for I am pissed off for you!   Just vent to us! ... [snip!] ... online is the only place I feel I can vent about certain things....just get it out somehow even if it is to us strangers."

every time he is mad at me he gets on here and reads my posts looking for something no matter how trivial to bitch at me about. He even tells me I am stupid for talking to strangers and getting advice from them.